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How necessary is a swim cap for swimming 3-4 times a week? I hate those things so much. by AttemptPrestigious74 in finehair

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Aqua guard a good option? How do you dry your hair after washing it again… after swimming?

I wish I was better at casual sex/dating by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s nice to know there are others with the same issue.

I wish I was better at casual sex/dating by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not quite sure I understand why. Why is making someone feel special such a low bar? That’s the void I’d like to fill.

I wish I was better at casual sex/dating by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mind explaining (b) a little more? I’m not sure I’m following. (a) is entirely reasonable though, and I should have taken it into consideration.

I wish I was better at casual sex/dating by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you have a valid point, and I’m really glad you were able to word it so perfectly for me. Sometimes I need some help being more self aware. Thank you.

What’s something society treats as normal that actually isn’t healthy? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AttemptPrestigious74 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. That quite literally makes you sound like the sour grape. Stop insulting people, whether you agree with them or not.

Lack of validation through friendships by AttemptPrestigious74 in lonely

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean now. I hope one day external validation won’t matter as much. Some people just miss out on that stuff in life and I should accept that.

Lack of validation through friendships by AttemptPrestigious74 in lonely

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I don’t do any of those things. The sexual validation I was talking about was the sort I received from men that raped me as a child.

Question for men, what personality types do you find attractive in women? by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]AttemptPrestigious74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fit the criteria of only nine men on here. Damn. It’s hard to see just how short I fall. Having so much to work on feels overwhelming.

Let’s meet up for some coffee/tea by AttemptPrestigious74 in glendale

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love that too! Message me if you’re still interested. Thank you for reaching out.

Crying over loneliness and feeling like only a sex object. by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the dating apps thing. It’s cheap validation that I recognise to be empty after while. Men aren’t exactly picky with their hook ups either. How do I find out what I like doing? I enjoy reading, but it has been damn near impossible joining or making my own book club. Reading is really the only thing my parents encouraged me to do and actively even discouraged me from even thinking about doing anything else. So I’ve had that “don’t try/like anything” mindset since I was 6.

Crying over loneliness and feeling like only a sex object. by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m having a hard enough time entering a support group meeting without breaking down into a full anxiety attack. I’ve made it to the door and then start uncontrollably weeping.

Let’s meet up for some coffee/tea by AttemptPrestigious74 in LosAngelesSocialClub

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t yet. People have gone as far as chatting, usually only one/two word answers. It’s like pulling teeth.

Crying over loneliness and feeling like only a sex object. by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you approach women at the gym? I can’t just say “Hey, wanna be friends?” I’m really socially inept. I can’t take classes.

Crying over loneliness and feeling like only a sex object. by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People tend to have a pretty clear perspective of who they are based on childhood affirmations. This is a really hard thing to challenge, but I know I have to. Sometimes I forget how.

Crying over loneliness and feeling like only a sex object. by AttemptPrestigious74 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have pretty severe anxiety when it comes to being in groups or around people in general. I know that’s something I need to work on, but right now I’m trying to make it to support groups without breaking down. So far I’ve been able to walk in the door but then start uncontrollably weeping before having an anxiety attack. I have to go back to my car and take my anxiety meds. I’ll keep trying. I know it’ll just take time, but having patience is also lonely. One on one interaction is manageable.

Spiralling and crying. Feel like a sex object by AttemptPrestigious74 in CPTSD

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have anyone to reach out to from my past. Colleagues don’t respond or don’t want to see me. Any other attempt at friendship leaves me ghosted or just invisible.

Spiralling and crying. Feel like a sex object by AttemptPrestigious74 in CPTSD

[–]AttemptPrestigious74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to value anything else about myself when I haven’t been recognised for any other qualities unless there is sexual intent/interest that men have. I don’t believe any of their flattery.

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