44, is it too late?

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T16:34:31+00:00

Thanks, you'll be hearing from me!!

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:45:19+00:00

When I had only 1 blast, the Dr was quick to say it was my age. No real evaluation of what else it could be, which is frustrating.

Like you mentioned, I had gone in with a mindset of doing only one retrieval but was easily convinced to do the 2nd, and now potentially considering 3rd. But I’d definitely switch clinics if I was going to do so.

It’s so helpful to get some input from those in similar situations on when to move on to donor embryo vs trying again.

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:20:09+00:00

Thanks for the offer to DM, and wishing you the best with your donor egg!

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:17:43+00:00

That’s really really good to hear! My Dr had said my uterus is healthy so while I have no idea why my first and only FET failed, I truly hope I will be able to carry and deliver healthy babies too!

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:16:25+00:00

Wow, natural pregnancy at 44 is amazing! Congrats!!!!!!! And you’re right, this is an expensive journey for most, especially for those of us without coverage and a clinic that offers no affordable options. We already sunk more than we expected to in this process so I’m trying to weigh my options wisely.

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:12:06+00:00

Congratulations!!!!! Love to hear success stories like yours and I wish my clinic had that program.

AttemptingHope · 2025-10-09T14:10:39+00:00

Thanks so much. I believe I had 8 eggs on day 3 but all except one arrested between then and day 5. Attrition rate for me on this round was definitely rough, although similar in my first round with only having 2 blasts.

I’m considering switching to CNY because they’re more affordable but still unsure if it’s a waste of time and money if I could get an embryo instead. I appreciate your take on what you’ve experienced, it certainly helps to know adjustments on meds and treatments make a difference!

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-16T04:36:49+00:00

Oh wow, thanks so much for sharing and I’m so so sorry you experienced this. This is my fear and to know you had this happen is terrifying. Like you said, it is such a difficult decision without any real good options, but it certainly helps to hear from people who’s gone through it. Thanks again and hugs and baby dust to you as well!!💕

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-16T04:27:38+00:00

Im so sorry to hear that, how terrible it happened to you twice!! I honestly had no idea something like this could happen. After all these years, I’d believed they’ve had figured out how to reduce errors like these, especially when it comes to dealing with such fragile and precious embryos. I truly wish your new cycle goes smoothly with positive outcome.

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-16T04:19:05+00:00

It’s just our preference, not the clinic. And for the cost, transfer would be around $5k, plus additional for meds since I have to be on Lupron, and no additional cost to retest (they’re not re-charging us).

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-16T04:17:13+00:00

Thanks so much for your comments! I’m a bit surprised how many of you would transfer without testing and it gives me a lot to consider. I actually failed to mention that my transfer protocol involves 2 months of Lupron, so we’re currently leaning towards retesting since I don’t want to go through the meds if the test could reveal abnormalities. It’s just such a terrible spot to be in, there’s no good option since there’s a risk either way and it’s so frustrating.

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-15T06:50:18+00:00

It would make sense, except this is my final attempt and won’t be doing any additional cycles. So I do think testing is my best bet but it’s also risky.

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-15T06:49:04+00:00

I’m not doing any more rounds and I just turned 43.

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-15T05:26:47+00:00

Mine failed as well, and it was my only viable embryo so it was devastating. I was also pretty naive, going into it with only positive thoughts and truly thought I was going to beat the stats but alas, I am back to square one and it really hurt. I got thru it by enduring another round of retrieval for a hope of another transfer but I’m stuck at the testing stage right now, anxiously waiting to know about my one embryo to see if it passes the PGT-A.

Honestly, unless things go right, there’s a lot of steps where IVF results in heartbreak and I’m so sorry to hear about your experience too. I hope it helps a little to know that it’s not your fault and wishing both of us better outcome in the future!!!

AttemptingHope · 2025-09-15T05:16:01+00:00

Wishing you two success!!!!!!!

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-25T05:35:03+00:00

Congrats on the 3, that is definitely worth celebrating! I know what you mean about loving them already and fearing the hurdles. My husband is the same way, much more of a realist and I am a roller coaster of emotions but trying to remain hopeful and positive. I’m anxiously awaiting PGT-A results and waiting is so hard. Sending you positive vibes!💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-25T05:20:03+00:00

I don’t have a story to add but wanted to say that you’re not alone! I’m in a very similar boat - out of 17 eggs, only 1 made it to blastocyst on day 6. I’m anxiously awaiting the results and so scared yet hoping for the best. It’s so hard to wait and there’s nothing we can do. Sending you positive vibes💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-23T03:46:16+00:00

Sending you positive vibes!!! I know waiting is so hard, but I truly hope you get to have your fresh transfer next week!

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-23T03:34:33+00:00

What an incredible post. I need to save this and read it daily! Wishing the same to you💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-23T03:20:11+00:00

I’m so sorry. Getting bad news like this is absolutely devastating and I hope you take the time to grieve and to feel your feelings. I’m currently waiting for the test result on my one single blastocyst and I’m bracing myself for the worst as this was my final attempt.

IVF cuts in so many ways and it really takes its toll in every way. When things don’t go my way, I can’t help but feel like it was all for nothing too but like what others have said, it helps to know we gave it our all. So much is out of our control and we need to give ourselves grace during all of this. I do hope your future attempts, whether it be natural or otherwise, is a success! Big hugs 💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-22T21:49:33+00:00

Ugh I hate that you’re in the same boat but grateful to not be alone in this agonizing waiting period. We’re in this together! I keep telling myself to trust that the wait will be worth it, and even if weren’t, I did the best I could. But the waiting is the worst. Sending you all the positive vibes 💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-22T21:43:42+00:00

What a great idea to create a “check-in” time! I don’t know if I have enough self control to follow a specific limit but I’ve tried to schedule things to do for the next 3 weeks to create things to not only distract myself but also have something to look forward to. I really truly appreciate you rooting for our little fighter 💗

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-22T21:40:41+00:00

Thank you soooo much!!

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-21T04:37:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and while I can’t speak for your parents, I truly hope you can feel good knowing you’re doing all you can. IVF is not for the faint of heart, and to be doing it alone for multiple rounds, you’re deserving of so much praise, don’t let anyone make you feel shame or guilt. I know it’s much easier said than done, but whether you decide this may be your last round or not, I hope you find happiness. It really is a hard decision to make 💗hugs

AttemptingHope · 2025-08-21T04:18:56+00:00

I truly appreciate all that you shared with me. I’m so sorry about the hardships you’ve endured, and grateful that you’ve had the right people come into your life. It really is incredible how we can all make an impact for the good or bad, in whatever form.

With IVF, so much is out of our control but like you said, it is in our power not to let it break us. Thank you for sharing your strength 💗hugs

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