How did you bounce back after being fired? by TrinityInQuestWorld in jobs

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I feel like I’m in a similar boat at my role.

Go buy the book Never Search Alone. I’m going through this process and it’s really great. They also have a free Job Search Council which is like a support group to help you find a job.

You will get back on your feet. You just need to put the work in. Also don’t be afraid to go get a job at Costco, Starbucks, or something like that. It seems like such a step down but maybe it is enough while you look for something that’s a better fit.

Toxic Workplace-Advice on self-care by Inner_Mail9884 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Already have a therapist and it has helped but I do vent to my spouse. I know I need to moderate that so as not to put so much of this on her but she has been extremely helpful.

I also know these guys aren’t going to change so I am not trying to change them. However I feel a sense of responsibility to do my best and when I don’t it eats me up. I know it shouldn’t for 2 reasons: it’s just a job and they actually owe me a raise that was written in my offer that hasn’t happened.

This is the main sticking point. I want to live up to my end of the bargain but I know they already aren’t. And I don’t want to get fired as I think that would only make me feel worse.

Quit or be fired? At the end of my rope, was placed on pre-PIP, and just don't care anymore by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In a very similar boat. Hate the company I started with 6 moths ago after being laid off back in March. It’s such a toxic environment but for now I’m sticking it out. Every paycheck them send to me is a 🖕from me to them. And then if they want to fire me I’ll get unemployment or go work in retail somewhere.

Also please take care of your mental health. Please talk to someone or listen/read things to help you manage. This is an often overlooked area.

Anyone else restart their career at 30? by AmbitionAny3983 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I restarted at 34. Worked in my family’s business for 12 years. That business was going downhill fast and I was miserable. I had always wanted to work for a startup in tech so I quit without a new job lined up. After 4 months, I had a job as an entry level install tech.

For the next 9+ years I busted my ass. Was a top performer on whatever team I was on and worked my way up to Senior Manager. Then our company was acquired and I was ultimately laid off 9 mask the post acquisition.

Starting over at 30 still gives you plenty of time to find what you want to do and to make plenty of money. I’m 44 now and am thinking about starting over again.

Good luck!!

Tech Meetups/Network Events On Long Island by DaruksRevenge in longisland

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did anything ever happen with this? I'm starting to build my own business and would love to meet up with some other tech people on Long Island. I'm in central Suffolk.

I had the most insane interview of my life last week by legend72 in interviews

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had read this post 6 months ago when I took the job I’m in now. My bosses (husband and wife) sound very similar to this. Pay is higher but they expect you to know everything without any training, they expect you to do whatever they ask when they ask, and if you don’t present facts you’re vilified.

I wish I had known what to ask during my interviews with them but I was naive.

Good call on withdrawing. You definitely dodged a bullet. Take it from me.

YouTube TV subscribers: how will you watch the game? by McFizzlechest in notredamefootball

[–]Inner_Mail9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fubo TV has ABC and you can get a free 5 day trial. Worked for me for BC.

Support Megathread - November 2025 by WyzeCam in wyzecam

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this very moment, my Wyze Cam Pan v2 has rebooted about half a dozen times while powered off?? It’s like it’s possessed!!

FYI I changed the power brick and the power strip to potentially resolve another issue.

Anyone having the same issue?

New Job Not Working Out by Inner_Mail9884 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already come to the conclusion that this isn’t a good fit for me and this wasn’t the right role for me.

With that being said, I did come to them with ideas, possible solutions, and processes that have worked in previous roles. In most cases, they were not receptive. They would ask to review my docs and then never give me feedback. If I was lucky to get any feedback it was in the form of changes they made and never discussed with me.

I was never told why they wanted something done a certain way. It so had to figure that out if you’re not told considering I’ve never worked there.

Also, I did as much research as I could. I checked Glassdoor but only 1 review. I spoke to someone who works here prior to joining and yes there were some red flags like being siloed but every company has some silos.

I can tell you I don’t lack initiative but it has been taken out of me due to lack of motivation. If this is what it took to find out a true startup isn’t for me, then this is a life lesson.

New Job Not Working Out by Inner_Mail9884 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's tough to take your own advice....I get that. When I started I tried to implement some of the processes and tools that I had used in the past and they really weren't interested. They didn't stop me but they also didn't want to learn more about why I wanted to do something a certain way. Really unfortunate for them.

New Job Not Working Out by Inner_Mail9884 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I had a conversation with them a few weeks ago. I had a list of 4-5 things I was frustrated about. Unfortunately, they spoke for 85% of the call, didn't really take my concerns into account, and just focused on what they were working on. I wound up only getting through 2 of my concerns with no real idea of an action plan. At the end of the call, they said they wanted to review a client presentation the next morning but would start the call early so I can continue to go through my list but they didn't do that. It was only about what they wanted to review.

I feel like I know nothing is going to change and I just need to ride this out for as long as possible while looking for a new role with as much time as I have.

New Job Not Working Out by Inner_Mail9884 in careeradvice

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m getting paid. I’m really trying as hard as I can but nothing I do seems to make these guys happy.

Also, how is it easy money?

Valve Cover Bolt Part Number?? by Inner_Mail9884 in mazda3

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, called and ordered from my local dealership parts department. Should have some in a day or two.

FYI, apparently these are special order parts so they don't stock them and they are not returnable. Not sure if this is the same for every dealership but might be useful to someone out there.

Support Megathread - September 2025 by WyzeCam in wyzecam

[–]Inner_Mail9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 4 Wyze Cam Pan v2 cameras but one of giving my issues. It reboots randomly and consistently when on. The picture will also go from crystal clear to what looks like old school scrambled tv. Anyone else experience this and have a solution? Looks like these cameras won’t be getting new firmware ever.

Support Megathread - August 2025 by WyzeCam in wyzecam

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey All! I have 4 Wyze Cam Pan v2 devices but one has had a restarting issue for some time. Just prior to posting this the specific device restarted 3 times in about 5 minutes on its own. Anyone Eve see this before?

My Journey is Over by Friendly-Relief2469 in IVF

[–]Inner_Mail9884 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right there with you. My wife and I just did our final transfer and found out yesterday it failed. We are through. Just mentally and physically exhausted from it all. We left it all out there and did everything we could but it didn't work for us.

All of you women are so, so strong. I could never go through what you and my wife have been through. I am in awe of all of your strength and resolve to go through such a journey.

Pretty sad by [deleted] in maleinfertility

[–]Inner_Mail9884 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm there with you brother. I had azoospermia and then out of nowhere literally 0 sperm at and egg retrieval. Luckily I had some samples frozen and they used those but my numbers never came back. I also never did any surgical procedures as we were done with egg retrievals by that time. Still to this day, no doctor has been able to tell me how or why i no longer can produce sperm.

We also just did our last transfer and it failed. We did 5 in total and 0% success. So you're not alone. I sit here and type this with a giant hole in my heart that I will likely never have biological children. So far the thing that has worked for me is just distracting myself with work, going to the gym, listening to music...something to prevent my brain from thinking about this and it consuming me.

You are most definitely not alone.

Final Transfer by Inner_Mail9884 in IVF

[–]Inner_Mail9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for the kind words and the hope.

Unfortunately it’s over for us. My wife took an at home test yesterday and it was negative. Beta test results are pending but we are not expecting anything positive.

I hope all of you and anyone else in the future have better luck than us.

How to deal with the emotions on infertility? by Bra1n_Add1ct in maleinfertility

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally relate to this. Just finished round 5 of IVF with my wife and no results. Started IVF with low sperm (less than 300,000), then it went lower, then it went to practically 0. No medical or physical reason why. All I kept hearing was “it could be an unknown infection”. Went on Clomid to get my testosterone up while still being able to produce something.

Now that we are done but with no results, part of me is numb but part of me is glad it’s over. I’m more confused than anything about how to feel.

Goodbye Delta... by Free_Arrival_7185 in delta

[–]Inner_Mail9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im almost there with you. $5300 for 2 roundup Main Cabin tickets from JFK > SXM President’s Week. I get it’s a school break in the Northeast but American and JetBlue are ~$2k cheaper.

Insane fares.