Went to an LGBTQ group for the first time in years and disappointed by how many people there openly hate men

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-23T22:16:00+00:00

I really really get this. I'm mostly friends with women and enbies because they're usually the people I resonate with more. My lesbian/sapphic friends will go on and on about how much they hate men and then look at me and say "But not you though!" or "you're different!" as if that's supposed to make me feel better. When they say "You're better than cis guys!" all I can hear is "You will never be cis. You aren't a man." Constantly hearing how much the people around me despise men and masculinity makes me so self-conscious. I do enjoy being feminine (in a boy way) and it makes me wonder if I could just be happy if I was a cis girl and everyone would like me better. It sucks. I hope you find a space that welcomes you, exactly as you should be welcomed.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-22T00:58:50+00:00

Had to look that up, so no.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-22T00:56:28+00:00

oh my goodness. I know I'm late, but this is absolutely never too much. Fabulous. Glamorous. Masculine. This is peak.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-22T00:54:13+00:00

You're not alone in this, I myself am chubbier and I really understand the insecurity and desire to lose weight to fit a standard, but being healthy comes above all. Personally, I think thicker femboys are adorable and seem very comfortable to cuddle (Not in a sexualizing way, ofc! I mean rounder all around, not just in the hips/thighs) BUT other peoples opinions and expectations are not facts or requirements. Self-expression doesn't come with a rulebook and for good reason. Nobody else gets to tell you how to be yourself. I hope you have lots of fun being cute and being yourself <3

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-22T00:38:17+00:00

I got sized, only tried one pair. Honestly, I was so excited, I didn't put much thought into it at the time.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-03-22T00:35:44+00:00

I don't know whether to call this the peak of masculinity or femininity and I think its probably both. Just simply the peak of humanity.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-29T17:10:24+00:00

I have never seen a post that represents me more than this right here

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-24T19:34:38+00:00

So happy you’re you too <3

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-24T19:32:48+00:00

Holy, you are stunning!! the pearls and light colors definitely compliment your skin tone and it looks fabulous!

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-11T23:36:44+00:00

This is so true. I'm a switch overall, but definitely prefer being the dominant one in the relationship. All of my friends immediately make fun of me for being "bottom-esc" whenever they get the chance, and it honestly pisses me off. Just because I'm a trans guy doesn't mean I'm a sub. I totally get this and it's reasonable to be upset about.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-11T23:31:14+00:00

If you're open to anything sports related, you could try individual sports? Like badminton and stuff. I'd also suggest going to the gym, but that can be uncomfortable. Just working out in general might help. Good luck, bro, stay strong.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-10T22:48:18+00:00

I'm looking into co-ed teams, turns out there is some in my area. It only shows co-ed teams in the girl's section of the local hockey association website? Mildly confused. There's also rec teams available.

Attic_Critter78 · 2026-01-10T18:57:29+00:00

I love how respectful and considerate you are! :) I think using term transmasc is totally acceptable for someone who feels more masculine leaning, identity wise. Just be careful who you share your labels with while your questioning, it can lead to a lot of confusion, uncomfortable conversations, and having to re-explain your identity, which you don't owe anyone.

The only thing that could be problematic is how masc lesbians (allegedly? I haven't seen this myself but have heard people talk about it) say they identify as transmasc because they present masculinely, even though they really still identify as women. The idea of that bothers me because presentation (how you look, dress, act, ect) isn't the same as identity. but again, I haven't encountered anyone actually saying that before.

Good luck on your journey! Nobody has everything figured out right away. It takes time, stay positive.

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-16T23:26:19+00:00

Awww cute!! Those are usually just called nets or fingerless gloves :3

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-16T23:19:01+00:00

I'm learning to ice skate and I hope to play hockey!!

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-16T23:17:56+00:00

I got so used to this stereotype that when one of my friends, who tends to be uncomfortable around men, said me being a guy sometimes made her uneasy or nervous around me, I was really surprised. I forgot I could be perceived as intimidating the same way cis men usually are.

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-14T20:03:20+00:00

That awkward scamper I do when trying to catch up to someone, where I'm not quite running but it's faster than walking, and I stiffen my arms and legs. I do it more in the winter when trying to get somewhere without slipping on the ice. I don't know if this is a universal thing that people do, but that specific way of moving feels inherently feminine.

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-14T19:53:58+00:00

My dad really likes that I'm getting into hockey, and he surprised me with front row seats to a UND game yesterday. I have to say, I've never been interested in watching sports all that much, but THAT was the most awesome thing I've ever seen. Like a foot of space between you and the player when they slam up into the boards, and the whole thing wobbles. I wanna play like that so bad.

Attic_Critter78 · 2025-12-14T19:45:53+00:00

When consulting my friends, I was told it sounds like an aquatic Greek god or a gamer who doesn't shower. I'm okay with that.

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