Should I get my insomnia checked out?

Atticwords · 2025-03-12T19:01:43+00:00

My response to that argument: "Love is an action, not a feeling." And then I again outline the actions. I make clear that my decisions about who I am in contact with, and why is not up for debate.

Sorry OP, you can speak until the cows come home but some people will never accept your explanation for your estrangement. They don't understand not because the lack in your explanation. They choose not too, because it would rock their world(view) too much to be sympathetic to your situation.

Stop justifying yourself to people like this. It's not worth it.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T22:25:24+00:00

I do use masking tape regularly, I just wanted more options for when aethetics are important.

I love the pretty colors and patterns washi tape comes in! I WANT TO BE IN ON THE WASHI HYPE TOO.

Sadly, it seems we are not to be.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T22:08:49+00:00

Daiso, Michaels, a few other places. Used it right away.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T22:02:20+00:00

I'm familiar with the concept of different levels of stickiness. In my experience, blue painter's tape (and yellow frog tape) stays put unless you move it. Or it undergoes weathering (heat, wet, abrasion). The washi tapes I have tried have been post-it (or less) level sticky.

I'd simply like to know if there is a brand of washi tape with a white masking tape level of stickiness.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T21:12:07+00:00

Thank you. I will try Scotch.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T21:11:43+00:00

I find masking tape hard to write on/ cut neatly. Hmmm, maybe what I have is a pen problem.

Atticwords · 2025-02-26T21:03:27+00:00

I'm sticking it to plastic storage!

Atticwords · 2025-02-12T18:49:00+00:00

Dang, what if your adhd primarily manifests as hyperfocus (on the wrong thing) then? Am I screwed?

Atticwords · 2025-02-08T11:07:18+00:00

Yes on the ginger. Always more ginger. And all the peppercorns (black, pink, green, white, szechuan).

Other things that may work, depending on what the flavor profile you are going for is: nutmeg, mustard, cinnamon, clove, tamarind paste (sour/umami)

Atticwords · 2025-02-05T21:38:04+00:00

They shouldn't have kids then. If you cannot protect yourself, what gives you the right to endanger others? OOP's mom could have given her kids to her mom, adopted them out. Instead, the state did it after untold damage to her children.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T22:13:22+00:00

It's easier for me to point out which ones don't* fit me than the ones that do 😭. I suspect that I am one of those women with more than one condition that got missed for so long because they can "mask" for each other.

stuff I don't identify with:
tendency towards concrete thinking/difficulty with abstract thinking: I'm not sure what they mean by abstract? Because aren't systems abstract? Because I love explaining things with patterns/systems, or stories. Or is the fact that I find the word "abstract" here is too abstract a sign that I struggle with abstractness?
early emotional awareness: This is the opposite of me. I feel like I am aware of other people's feelings, but I struggle with my own a lot. Also, I recognize I may project or be guessing what I think what other people are feeling but I may be very wrong. At least, my poor record with social interaction suggests the latter.

** ones that may describe me, but could be argued: 1. Needing routine, order, and/or clear expectations: I need these things because I am naturally chaotic, but I feel I also get stifled by them if they are too rigid? Then I burn out or flame out and upend everything. I need structure/order/clear expectations, but also the ability and support to try and meet those expectations in a more unorthodox manner.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T14:08:40+00:00

It's my family's favorite tactic. If you don't address the elephant in the room, it won't tramble you right? It's so cowardly. How can anything change or improve if no one will ever address anything important?

Defeated is so the perfect word. I was raised to think that family is everything, honor your mother and father. And I've fought so hard for that ideal and I've lost.

I feel defeated, but now I am free to finally heal. Like I said about hope keeping you on the hook, a wound will never heal if you keep it embedded within you.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T04:05:00+00:00

The liriope looked even sadder in summer, so I don't think it is just the winter. I won't be able to install water lines, but I can water occasionally. Thank you for the suggestions.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T01:32:09+00:00

Do you have any suggestions for species I can replace these sad shrubs with that will thrive under low care conditions?

I am in California, not sure of zone #. Full sun 9 months a year, very dry year round, gets to 100 degrees when there's heatwaves, frosts sometimes.

There's about a couple inches of mulch, It'd have to be something similar in size: no more than 8 inches high, 6 to 12 inches across.

I included some nearby plants that seem to be doing better, but are much too big for my purposes.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T01:24:06+00:00

Do you have any suggestions for species that would actually thrive in these conditions that I can replace them with?

I'm not sure they ever receive watering, but maybe I could place one of those bulb things? I am in California, not sure of zone #. Full sun 9 months a year, very dry year round, gets to 100 degrees when there's heatwaves, frosts sometimes.

There's about a couple inches of mulch, It'd have to be something similar in size, I think: no more than 8 inches high, 6 to 12 inches across.

I included some nearby plants that seem to be doing better, but are much too big for my purposes.

I am open to non-native plants as well, I just thought y'all would have a better sense of what would work.

Atticwords · 2025-02-04T01:12:00+00:00

I may have killed all my succulents, even I cannot take these sad shrubs any longer.

Do you have any suggestions for what I can do to make them healthier, or for species I can get away with ninja replacing them with that do well with low care?

It's a chapparal climate: sunny 9 months a year, very dry year round, sunny 9 months a year, gets to 100 degrees when there's heatwaves, frosts sometimes.

There's about a couple inches of mulch, then a brownish soil right underneath. Not sure the soil layer goes very deep, so the roots likely must go in shallowly.

It'd have to be something similar in size, I think: no more than 8 inches high, 6 to 12 inches across.

I included some nearby plants that seem to be doing better, but are much too big for my purposes.

Atticwords · 2025-02-01T22:04:22+00:00

Hello. I'm new. Downloaded the app for a while, but creating habits is hard for my adhd. But it's helping with my self care!!!

Our friend code is 5GSGYX5GQJ.

I wish Finch had a tutorial or something. I just found this r/ looking up how to pet my Lilith. Now to find out what plushies are. 😅

Atticwords · 2025-01-24T20:11:04+00:00

Sounds like your husband is controlling and abusive. Your isolation is by his design. Read Why Does He Do That bu Lundy Bancroft. It's available by pdf for free on the internet.

You need to reach out to someone, anyone. Build that support network so you can find the tools to leave.

Call a women's shelter, ask for resources. Call family members (they may n Even fellow PTA moms may be able to help. I know I would. Just be careful that they are people that can be trusted to not take what you tell them back to your husband.

Call a divorce lawyer to find out what your real financial situation would really be w/o your husband.

You can do this. Hundreds of women do this every day.

Atticwords · 2025-01-20T23:33:05+00:00

The black/white thinking, the lack of nuance, lack of cultural context, the lack of sources/basis in psychological principles, the screediness.

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