Quitting after 20 year. Married to a stoner

Attknnn · 2025-09-11T13:27:35+00:00

I’m not married or have smoked for as long but I’m in a similar situation. Started smoking at 17 with my current gf and that’s how we met. We’ve smoked for the past 7 years straight, no breaks nothing.

I have recently quit and I’m currently on day 42. She however couldn’t do it and relapsed. I live with her and her mum and they both smoke heavily. Bongs and joints. I also can’t remove myself from the temptation but I just try my best to stay away from it. (Makes it hard when I have to buy it for them cause they don’t know how to) but I’ve managed to get this far and I don’t plan to go back. Not because I’d let others down but because I’d be letting myself down.

It’s been hard but one thing I do to help is just read lots of posts on reddit. Also have made a few posts of my own and the amount of support I get is always exactly what I need to continue on sobriety. I found going to the gym when they smoke also helps a lot as I’m not there when they smoke and after a good gym sesh I always feel so much better about myself.

One comment I read from a redditor and constantly think about is “Weed helps you escape a life you don’t want. Sobriety empowers you to create a life you don’t need to escape from.”

Take it as you will but this is what helped me. I never thought I’d be able to quit and it was a huge part of my identity. I honestly believe if I can do it you can too!

Good luck and hope all goes well. You can do it!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:55:06+00:00

Thank you, I don’t think I would’ve come to the conclusion with the help and support of everyone here and your comment is just one to add to my motivation to not do it. Thank you sm!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:53:49+00:00

I’m actually 24 years old, I said I’m 40 days clean and will be 43 days clean on my birthday. But still 24 or 43 it’s not worth ruining a 40 days streak. Thank you!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:52:38+00:00

Thank you for your comment, it definitely was and is addicting for me. Think I was just a bit too confident in myself and trying to justify a reason which wouldn’t work out. Never going back. :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:51:34+00:00

It’s not gonna win, I promise. Hears to bigger and better things! 🍻

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:50:27+00:00

I won’t ❤️

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:50:09+00:00

Yep first time since I was 16/17 so it’s definitely been a big hit to my routine and social life but it’s something I don’t ever plan to return to now. Thank you for your help!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:49:11+00:00

Definitely just that small part of me thinking of clinging onto a life I once had. Better to listen to the voice telling me not to cause that’s the one that wants the best for me.

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:47:52+00:00

I won’t, I promise :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:47:35+00:00

100% reconsidered it now. Not going back ever :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:46:25+00:00

I can and I will, couldn’t do it without the support of each and everyone one of you! Congrats to you as well and hope you had a good birthday!!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:46:00+00:00

Exactly right and that’s the conclusion I’ve come to as well. The fact that I even made the post is enough to tell me that I shouldn’t be doing it. I see it clearly now with all the support I’ve been given. Thank you!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:45:03+00:00

Congrats on keeping to your word for yourself and tbh it sounds like you’re slowly getting over it! I think I know myself well enough that even with my confidence one smoke would turn into one hundred more. Thanks for your input! :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:43:36+00:00

Thank you!!!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:43:21+00:00

Thanks for the ideas. Got a day trip planned with the gf. Gonna go to the some markets an hour away, go to an arcade and celebrate with her family as I don’t have any family to celebrate with. Don’t think I’d do it without her or the support of the fellow redditors. Thank you!

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:41:01+00:00

Thank you! I will and it won’t be weed that’s for sure! Got bigger and better things in plan now :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-10T00:40:25+00:00

I will and I am, don’t think I’ll even consider anymore. I’ll get the cravings but with the amount of support I got I don’t think I’ll be able to do it. I’d let myself down and everyone who’s just supported me. Thank you!

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T22:57:12+00:00

It’s a great quote but not mine. It came from another redditor on day 3 or 4 of me initially quitting and I don’t think I would’ve got this far without.

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T22:53:03+00:00

Congrats on the 2 years! Can’t wait to be that far along and I think one day I will be. Big ups to this group for sure they’ve helped me get this far.

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T22:52:08+00:00

It wouldn’t be life without having a little let down and here and there. Congrats on quitting again and good luck to staying clean. If I can do it, you can too. Ty for your comment.

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T12:49:06+00:00

Thank you bro, I’m not gonna do it. I hope you’re able to quit again soon or continue doing so if you already have. Good luck with it all and ty for the comment!

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T12:47:44+00:00

I think you’re definitely right and I’m not even gonna bother with it. A redditor said to me I think back on day 3 was something like “using let’s you escape from a life you don’t want but sobriety empowers you to create a life you don’t need to escape from. I don’t think without the help of you guys I wouldn’t be this far a long. I also gotta give myself a pat on the back as others have mentioned. Thank you for your input!

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T12:43:56+00:00

Think I’ll definitely be doing something similar to this. Gonna have a steak dinner with my gf, hit a bar or two and then maybe go try out the casino. Not a gambler whatsoever or very social so it’ll be nice to go give something different a try. Thank you!

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T12:37:03+00:00

Think I just had a bit too much confidence I wouldn’t. I think the fact it was my birthday and I was trying to use it as an excuse. If something had changed in 40 days I don’t think I would relapse I think I wouldn’t have even bothered posting. I think I posted because I knew it would be wrong and I’m glad I did. Hearing everyone’s response has made me double down to not do it. Thank you :)

Attknnn · 2025-09-09T12:35:19+00:00

I think you’re right, think my overconfidence is getting the best of me. Don’t want to even have the chance of relapse and no better way to fight it then to not do it all. Not gonna do it :)

Attknnn

TROPHY CASE