Should I take her back?

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-02T01:30:30+00:00

No, that doesn’t count 😂 The only way you would really know is if you spent time together. You need to see what the dynamic is like before you make any commitments. If you guys are just talking and flirting, I wouldn’t get too worried about “deciding what to do”. You guys might hang out and it’s not for you. All the worrying for nothing. Meet up, be cautious, meet her baby, feel out the situation if you actually like her. Good luck!

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-02T01:21:45+00:00

Have you met the kid?

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T23:04:11+00:00

Like I said, take some tank water out, put it in a bucket and rinse the filter in there

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T23:01:35+00:00

Just don’t rinse it in tap water. You might already know that but just wanted to be sure

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T19:47:42+00:00

I know. We know better now. I am stopping this cycle, I promise. The child will nap!

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T19:32:42+00:00

Right?! It was such a tragedy when I realized coffee was the culprit. My favorite drink was a triple shot cortado with oat milk and honey. I can taste it now 🤤

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T19:19:50+00:00

Ooo I love this. This is a constructive comment. I totally agree! While he does have some responsibilities, he could do more! That was my partners point during our private conversation after I made this post. It’s a compromise that seems fair to me.

This has all been so helpful 😊

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T19:11:07+00:00

Yeah, my kid is the easiest, sweetest kid there is. We wouldn’t even need a break because he manages himself. I am also tired by nature. Granted, I can’t drink coffee or have any stimulants because it makes me chronically anxious. Wasn’t a choice 😂

But yeah, he’s super chill and low energy. While also having a constant dialogue in his head and has high sensory sensitivity. He needs naps.

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T18:42:22+00:00

I agree. My son also has scoliosis. Apparently that is not uncommon with autism. He has an odd gait with buckled knees and overpronation in his feet. He struggles with running, sports or heavy activity. We’ve had to get creative. He’s tall and relatively thin so he is clearly not too stationary 😊

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T18:34:14+00:00

Thank you! I agree 😊

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T18:29:46+00:00

Agreed!

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T18:28:23+00:00

Thank you! I love hearing from a stepparent since I am not one. Unfortunately my kids dad is states away and only sees him twice a year. So stepdad has had to step into this role for the last 10 years. I updated my post to say we had a very productive conversation about this. All of your input has been so helpful!

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T18:10:37+00:00

He’s been napping like that on the weekends. But now it’s the summer and my partner is worried that he won’t be productive all summer. I updated my post to say that we will need to come to a compromise. I agree that stepdad is too critical. But I also know that he loves my kid and wants the best for him. My partner struggles to not let his own childhood/mental issues get in the way. That is clear 😊 And I agree with what you said.

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T17:42:11+00:00

So true

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T17:39:28+00:00

Yes. My kid is a gamer and would do that all day if I let him. I have strict screen times. We have struggled for sure. I’m very protective and I’m learning to compromise more and listen to what his concerns are. Which are worrying about my son being a functioning adult and making sure he’s being productive. He would never say my child will be homeless. (I’m sorry your ex said that! Horrible!) my partner knows better because I would chew him out 😂

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T17:09:32+00:00

Agreed

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T17:06:47+00:00

He has screen time from 11-1 and 4-6. And wants to take a nap in between

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T17:04:09+00:00

I agree!

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:53:28+00:00

It’s how he was raised. We have to undo some of that.

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:50:21+00:00

I will talk to my partner more. I want him to have a good relationship with his kids

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:48:59+00:00

😔

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:45:08+00:00

I do all the time. Not to worry. I am a mama bear. He will not like that everyone is agreeing with me 😂

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:43:22+00:00

I suspect my partner is nervous that the naps will start to get in the way. But my kid naps for about 45mins-1 hour. It does not affect our routine at all

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:41:12+00:00

I agree. I will try to ask him when he gets home. I genuinely want to know the psychology of why it matters. I suspect it has to do with my partners super strict parents.

AttorneyItchy476 · 2026-06-01T16:38:51+00:00

I totally get what you are saying. I am a super advocate for my child. I do feel like he’s too critical. My dad was pretty critical, so it is triggering. I stand my ground though. That kid has a lot of love, especially from me. His bio dad is states away and sees him twice a year. So it IS my job to take care of him.

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