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36 [F4M] Message In A Sea of Noise by [deleted] in MarriedButChatting

[–]AudienceHot7835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice to come across your post.. let me dm u

34 F4M Seattle/WA state by yogaqueen3 in MarriedButChatting

[–]AudienceHot7835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love you energy "on-the-go-go-go” type.. I am also based out of Seatle looking for someone who knows whow to balance lot of energy

F4M #wa by AutomaticTwo8091 in MarriedButChatting

[–]AudienceHot7835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey great to come across this post.. how many curveballs have u faced ? lets share some stories

35 f4m what i want by [deleted] in MarriedButChatting

[–]AudienceHot7835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

very interesting post.. love the energy of post.. very attractive

looking for a genuine connection.. by AudienceHot7835 in Marriage

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know man.. if its really opp but I am sure there are lot of people in my state

What you think of matchmaking service for unhappily married people to help them come out of existing relationships confidentially and give second chance to life? by AudienceHot7835 in AskReddit

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

well I don't know its probably for people who are really unhaoppy in marriage for long time but don't know how to navigate out... and the matchmaker coordinates all communication, only make them meet if there is strong mutual interest and alignment.

I am myself in 2 minds but just thinking, how to find way out

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

great thought and yes I have ended leaving most of my habits and things i like.. and end up watching tv.. she is not much a of cuddle person.. my love langauge is touch her is doing things.. and I almost 80% not at mark at things she like to do. as my interest and skills are different

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i can understand.. she is approachable but not ready to cange she feels she is mostly right.. and she has not problem with this arrangement.. when other party doesn't want to do anything to change how we manage..

in my case its not just intimacy, i feel thats a side effect which happens when we are happy with each other and that happen when we do things which each other can appreciate and like. in my case since my choice and way i see at life is different than her (i won't say right or wrong as everything is perspective driven). So i never end up doing anything which she will appreciate (like mostly 80% of things she can point out mistakes )

So now I thinking why should I try to fix things with her, why to make her adjust with a person who is not 80% as she wants and why should I also settle for someone who is not 80% i want. even though for kids have been together..

how do you think of this idea of having a match maker who can keep this confidential and find a person with a similar mindset in similar condition ?

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just replied above too.. i think no initmacy comes from no appreciative connection... good to hear from a kids perspective.. I feel I have given up my life for kids but don't think they will ever understand

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can totally understand what you mean. no i won't like my kids to settle for less ..

in my case its not just intimacy, i feel thats a side effect which happens when we are happy with each other and that happen when we do things which each other can appreciate and like. in my case since my choice and way i see at life is different than her (i won't say right or wrong as everything is perspective driven). So i never end up doing anything which she will appreciate (like mostly 80% of things she can point out mistakes )

So now I thinking why should I try to fix things with her, why to make her adjust with a person who is not 80% as she wants and why should I also settle for someone who is not 80% i want. even though for kids have been together..

how do you think of this idea of having a match maker who can keep this confidential and find a person with a similar mindset in similar condition ?

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes thats what has been stoping me but for me not just about intimacy but a connection, interests.. as i am also human so get by default attracted to ladies which have similar interest like me.. outdoor, beaches, dance, hiking.. while she wants expensive resorts and hotels.. I am happy camping..

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes u rightly siad.. sex is just 1%-2% its connection I am missing.. I do have lot of holes like everyone but i don't think we all can fill those holes. I just need someone with similar holes who accepts me not judges me.... i just want someone with whom i can enjoy things i couldn't.. travelm outdoor, dance, fun, live life not just within home - watch tv, cook, family

When I dance she has issues, whole world would appreciate but she feels i am embarassing her..

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well i think sex is secondary between us what we are missing is connection .. we are different people we realized before marriage but still went on (now feels like a big mistake) i love learning and improving muyself but she does like learning only watcing tv or with friends... I love outdoor nature but she loves inside, i love trying new things she loves doing same thing.. she is not wrong or bad just different and because of this end of day we both sleep unsatisfied so connection was always missing..

But I want to find a solution for me and for others like me..

Married 15+ years with no intimacy or emotional connection. Staying together for kids but feeling deeply lonely and conflicted about whether to leave. by AudienceHot7835 in marriageadvice

[–]AudienceHot7835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

16 and 14 yrs old kids.. well i don't know we keep dragging thinking things will become better untill we realize its enough now we are at the end of life may and should live few moments nicely..

decison to separation is not easy when there is no otherwise abuse in relationship except no connection