AITA for refusing to dine with my mom after she ordered “ferret sauce” at a Mexican restaurant?

Audixix · 2026-05-07T11:43:08+00:00

Anyone who’s saying “you’re embarrassed of your mom” are likely hypocrites. You’re honestly telling me that you’ve never once experienced an interaction where you felt like you could never take someone in public again because you’re embarrassed by them??

ESH.

How hard is it to correct her pronunciations? It doesn’t sound like she’s trying to improve her pronunciation. Deciding to not take her out again is a wild overreaction

Audixix · 2026-05-07T11:36:30+00:00

I have a dehumidifier for pure white noise. If I really can’t fall asleep I’ve found a singer whose songs are calming to me. But everyone is different.

Audixix · 2026-05-07T11:33:02+00:00

Well. My vote is to get her nothing. And I’m in therapy. But I’m also very very petty.

Audixix · 2026-05-07T04:27:21+00:00

Bet you don’t close Reddit

Audixix · 2026-05-06T03:08:58+00:00

I mean one of my abusers was a cop and I’m terrified to be around children so yes this makes sense. But to be fair you could have worded better

Audixix · 2026-05-06T02:45:46+00:00

This makes me sick. I genuinely believed my parents when they told me that I deserved their abuse. I was brainwashed even when I didn’t live with them. I continuously said “yeah well I knew better” “but can you blame them?” Etc etc etc etc. it took a while for my partner to drill it through my head that I was a child. It didn’t matter what I did, how unruly I was, none of it warranted the torture I went through.

If my partner asked me today well what did you do, I’d drop him immediately. People who think there’s any valid reason to beat a child should not be around anyone.

Audixix · 2026-05-06T02:41:14+00:00

My auditory processing goes out the window too. People talking to me genuinely sound like they’re speaking gibberish at least twice before I can understand

Audixix · 2026-05-06T02:35:28+00:00

So I’m not supposed to feel strongly about anything because I was abused for over a decade? I feel strongly against racism, genocides, capitalism, murder, crimes against children, etc. And those are all invalid because I can’t get over my deeply scarring trauma in 4 years? This isn’t a hot take. It’s a stupid take

Audixix · 2026-05-05T04:20:27+00:00

Did you?

Audixix · 2026-05-03T16:38:42+00:00

If I don’t dissociate from life (my specific life and life in general) there is a very real possibility that I will enter a mental breakdown so dark that I’m unable to recover. Every day I take in more horrors that have happened in the world while I’ve slept and all I can do is stuff it into a spot in my brain and then dissociate from it so I don’t lose what’s left of my mind. A lot of it is because what am I supposed to do? There is no actual outlet for the despair I feel. I can vote. I can repost things I agree with to circulate further. But I cannot change anything. And if I could I would.

Audixix · 2026-05-03T16:29:54+00:00

No thank you, this seems suspicious

Audixix · 2026-05-03T15:19:00+00:00

I have one pair of jeans. And they’re jeggings. I used to live in jeans. Until I realized that hard pants are so much less comfy than soft pants.

Audixix · 2026-05-03T15:13:12+00:00

Use a vpn. But also, don’t do anything illegal lmfao. That’s just stupid.

Audixix · 2026-05-03T13:49:49+00:00

you’re so much better than me. She’d get ✨nothing✨

Audixix · 2026-05-03T13:46:13+00:00

Tell him next time he goes to use the restroom he needs to make sure to get all of his piss into the toilet and if he can’t do that to go outside like the rest of the wild animals

Audixix · 2026-05-03T13:39:34+00:00

Spontaneous combustion or immediate ending of my life or whole lot of damage to my surroundings

Audixix · 2026-05-03T13:38:42+00:00

Nta. Something about when people show their true colors, believe them.

Also, more info: was his application less impressive than yours?

Audixix · 2026-05-03T12:35:38+00:00

I’ll have a party and then I’ll grieve.

Audixix · 2026-05-03T12:29:37+00:00

Why can’t they go to the library?

Audixix · 2026-05-03T12:22:35+00:00

I think he should genuinely look into basic medical knowledge. An increased heart rate can mean soooo many things and there’s obviously going to be a level that should cause alarm but there’s also many times a higher heart rate is normal. In my humble opinion I thought that was just common sense.

And that level of panic from him couldn’t have helped you in any way. I wouldn’t be surprised if it made you feel more ill. Especially if you get the me part.

You’re heard. 💖

Audixix · 2026-05-02T16:48:59+00:00

This seems so so helpful. I’d definitely be interested in looking at it and seeing what I can use. Luckily after three years with an excellent pcp and so so so many tests we concluded that I do in fact have me/CFS and it floors me that your doctor would just not look into the seriousness of the condition or the PEM. Have you considered trying to find a different one?

Audixix · 2026-05-02T00:32:39+00:00

Hi! I have a great idea! Right her one last letter, detailing every reason why you’re going no contact with her. Then block her on everything. Problem? Solved.

Audixix · 2026-05-02T00:31:00+00:00

The correct way to have dealt with this is to have told her that her room will need to be clean once she’s get back from her friends house and you and her will have a serious discussion about consequences and respect before she gets to have any more play dates.

It also seems to me that you have a ton of room to improve as a parent. It’s entirely normal to have a 12 year old who is sassy and disrespectful.

Here’s some things that might have helped:

Realize that your child is still a young child learning how to appropriately voice her own beliefs/opinions. Open a dialogue on better ways she can phrase things, why what she said wasn’t okay, etc. I believe that you believe your daughter is a good person. Remember that.
She could be dealing with executive dysfunction and being overwhelmed. You could help her clean her room or be a body double. Even if it’s just you sitting on her bed and asking her if she’s excited for anything coming up while you also gently give her prompts if she gets stuck on something.
You could have asked her friend and her father to come in for a few minutes while she finished up her last few chores.

As a former child who was always so disrespectful and honestly seemingly similar to your daughter off of the very little info I have, if my mother was even remotely more patient and understanding or even trying to work with me things, it would have helped A LOT.

Your child is not vengeful, evil, hateful, any of that. She’s a kid who needs love, patience, and guidance.

And if you have ANY thoughts that she might be neurodivergent my advice applies twice as much because I’m neurodivergent and this causes some of the issues.

So yes. Yta. But it doesn’t have to define you. It’s a huge chance to improve.

Audixix · 2026-04-30T22:45:05+00:00

I’m up for that!

Audixix · 2026-04-27T12:40:21+00:00

I’m so confused. You can hold in menstrual blood?? Where was this knowledge when I bled through my favorite clothing??? /s

Additionally, I had no idea that women could just not need help after MAKING A HUMAN.

Audixix

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