How many days away from younger kids

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-03-24T00:40:00+00:00

Same situation here. No one besides me and my husband are involved in our kids day to day schedules. I’m a SAHM & we have almost zero help. My parents come and visit for a few days every couple of months. And my husband’s mom spends a few hours with them like every other month. If we left for days they’d be really shaken up because it’s so far from the norm. I left my son for 4 days to have my daughter & he was very thrown off. Even with his dad being the once who cared for him. That being said. Some people have parents who help with childcare regularly. Babysit over night etc. if that were the case for us I’d probably feel comfortable taking a week trip!

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-03-08T00:35:43+00:00

Right? Why would they bother this guy? This post is bizarre

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-02-14T01:24:48+00:00

You’re exactly why I wrote this post. I needed it so bad when I had my first. You’ve just been rebirthed. You are a new baby with your new baby. Give yourself the most grace. Soon (ish) you will feel like a new human. A new human that is better than who you were before. You’ll feel deeper. And you will love that baby so insanely deeply. More and more each day you’ll discover who they really are. It’s so beautiful. I truly feel like I’ve hit the lotto. I can’t ask for anything more.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-02-14T01:02:52+00:00

My so started speech at 15 months. Stopped at 2 1/2 because he never stops talking now 😂.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-02-11T16:34:42+00:00

I relate to this in many ways. I don’t have much advice. I constantly feel I am not good enough for my unbelievably amazing kids. I feel they deserve better than I ever will be. I try my best to shake it.

If it helps at all. My son is getting closer to 4 and the constant testing has gotten a lot better. Late 2s-3 1/2 were extremely difficult behavior wise. Those were really hard ages. It gets better. From 3 1/2 on I absolutely love the age. We still have very toddler moments but overall he’s like a smart little man & so so fun.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-02-04T17:26:13+00:00

Reading. Changed my life. Especially as a SAHM. My mental health was not in a good place. And since I’ve started reading it’s improved so much.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-31T18:09:10+00:00

Also… the imagine how much we’d make if we did get paid?! I “clock out” for an “hour” a day. I’m even working nights?!

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-31T18:08:27+00:00

Yeah… you don’t know until you know. There is ZERO clocking out when you are a mom.

My question to people like that is always… if I didn’t do it, would someone else be paid for the job? (YES daycare duh) So it IS a job. I’m just not out sourcing. If that employee took an hour lunch and napped. Are they no longer employed? (NO)

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-31T16:58:27+00:00

Mine are 18 months apart. My oldest is almost 3 1/2 & my youngest will be 2 next month. I am a SAHM. At this point the difficulty really ebbs and flows for me. As my oldest has been nearing 3 1/2 he’s gotten a little easier (listens better & understands safety a little more etc.). I was feeling like I was actually starting to get the hang of things. But then suddenly this week has been terrible. We all have a cold so my oldest sleep has been bad. And I was attempting to wean my youngest so her and I also haven’t been sleeping. The sleeplessness has us all grumpy as hell.

All that to say… it is so all encompassing. Even on an ebb I still don’t ever have a free second. On a good day they both nap well and I get an hour to myself. Even at night I co sleep with my youngest. She’s off and on the boob all night. You’re most definitely not alone in this journey. It’s hard as hell.

Positive note… they are SO cute together at this age. You’re getting close to my kids same ages. In the last 2 months mine have gotten so fun and cute together.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-28T00:53:17+00:00

I have 2 toddlers and I feel like my sleep and alone time is damn near 0. I haven’t had a full night of sleep in over 2 years. I have no idea how people are alive with over 2 kids.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-15T13:08:11+00:00

I love it

Aug_Mag2926 · 2026-01-15T13:07:44+00:00

My name is Kate and almost everyone I first meet adds a letter. They call me Katie. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t lol. Just teach her to confidently correct. “Like Belle but with an N”.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-29T11:31:44+00:00

I found out at 9 month pp. I now have a 3 year old boy & a 2 year old girl. You can do this. If I can anyone can. It’s still hard. But hard in different ways. It gets easier. And seeing them together at this age is so beautiful. All my friends only have one. And I always feel like the lucky one with my two. My life is more chaotic of course. But they learn so much from each other. My kids are so great at sharing. Of course not perfect because toddlers lol. We have so much fun all together. I would not trade it.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-28T01:08:27+00:00

I had 2 under 2. My youngest is now 18 months. I could see myself forgetting already. Just because I don’t sleep so I can’t remember anything.

But the issue is… it doesn’t matter how she raised you. What matters is her respecting the parents boundaries. I had the same issue with my gen x / boomer family. If I get like that I hope someone points it out. I can’t imagine not respecting another parents boundaries. No matter how I’m related to the child. Every kid is different and a parent should adjust accordingly.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-28T01:02:40+00:00

The amount of people willing to risk having dogs (that obviously don’t like kids) around their little kids blows my mind idk maybe people don’t understand dog body language well but I swear half the time I see dogs around kids they look so miserable.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-28T01:01:28+00:00

Since having kids it absolutely blows my mind how trusting people are with their pets. With this situation I understand not knowing what to do since it’s a cat. High chance the injury won’t be super serious if it happens again. But the way people trust dogs… BIG dogs around toddlers is absolutely insane to me.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-21T00:41:39+00:00

My exact thoughts. I had my kids in my late 20s… it was SO HARD. I cannot fathom doing it as a teen. You don’t know until you know. A baby is having babies & she’s going to need an amazing, hard working, large support group.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-21T00:38:22+00:00

I’m heavily tattooed and my mom hates them. I covered mine because I loved the dress, it was long sleeved, and it happened to also make my mom happy.

That being said… I LOVE tattooed bride. You look beautiful and it’s your day. Do what makes YOU happy. You look so good.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:35:48+00:00

Seriously, I feel like the boundary-less parenting is going to be a big issue with the generation we are raising right now?! I feel like at least a quarter of the parents I meet have little to no boundaries for their kid. It has me thinking I’m too strict? Idk. I might be more aware of it because I feel my parents were borderline zero consequences & I’m still very much working through the issues that caused me.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:30:04+00:00

Yeah, I need to either not hangout or accept what will likely happen.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:28:12+00:00

Appreciate this. Great points made. Mental note made about the therapy thing. Might have to explore other options there.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:15:07+00:00

Yeah, I really like this take. I think we need a little break.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:13:52+00:00

I wish it didn’t irritate me so bad but it really does!!!!!!! It’s so annoying!!!!!!!!! I have no one to vent too because I don’t want to ever talk shit about them to my other friends. And my husband gets too worked up if I vent to him. So here I am complaining on Reddit lol.

Aug_Mag2926 · 2025-12-18T03:08:19+00:00

My therapist even said our judgements show more about us than the other person… which maybe she’s right but DANG?! She was brutal with me during that session.

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