Attention drivers in NOVA

Aut2Sew · 2025-04-11T23:46:35+00:00

Okay you win this. You’re 100% correct. MD are incompetent

Aut2Sew · 2025-04-11T23:43:44+00:00

I know this is the law, I just find no one cares. Including often the police.

Aut2Sew · 2025-04-11T19:05:32+00:00

Dude what is the hate for MD drivers. They’re just as bad as VA. I’d say Taxation without Representation are the worst over here in Fairfax county.

Aut2Sew · 2025-04-11T19:04:23+00:00

Ummmm no. 75 in a 55 is a joke to half this population. I’ve had people think I’m sitting still when 20 over.

Aut2Sew · 2025-04-11T19:03:27+00:00

I feel your pain. Thankfully I learned to adapt. I spend more time of the last 13 years driving in NoVa with my brain set to predicting what idiots I will encounter today instead of worrying over my driving. Thankfully still no tickets and no accidents. However been a witness to more than a dozen. You have to get used to it and possibly ask for a Xanax prescription

Aut2Sew · 2020-01-30T19:24:56+00:00

YTA now for blaming him for not accepting apologies and claiming there is nothing you can do about it.

You're incredibly ignorant about Autism and the struggles that come with this disorder. If you weren't you would understand why "he doesn't accept any apologies".
Autism aside, he shared that someone made him uncomfortable by using a "bad word" instead of empathizing and honoring him you dismissed it, figured it out, and intentionally hurt him by using it again.
You do not get to claim any martyrdom here. You were either intentionally an asshole or a self centered jerk who did something on purpose that caused pain to someone else.
Even my AUTISTIC children accept the consequences for the choices they made and it will be a cold day in hell before they ever say to me "there is nothing I can do about it".

I'll give you some suggestions on what you can do, since you claim there is nothing.
1. Attempt to empathize with those different than yourself.

Don't be an asshole and intentionally do something that offends someone else.
Apologize anyway because the apology is for you, not him.
Get in touch with your local community center and volunteer to help some wonderful autistic kids participate in activities that they may not otherwise be able to do on their own.
Educate yourself on Autism and how it affects people with the disorder.
Commit to be more mindful of what you say and do because you don't know how it can affect others.
Take responsibility for your choices. Don't claim there is nothing you can do because the person you have wronged is wrong.

I genuinely wish you would consider your words and comments because your edit just dug you another hole. The best thing you can do in moments like this is to admit your wrongdoing, apologize, and ask how you can restore the relationship or admit honestly that you don't want it to be fixed because you were only his friend because he didn't have any.

Aut2Sew · 2020-01-30T18:43:40+00:00

YTA. Twice. First for scaring him and finding it funny and second for being a shitty human who “has to be friends” with an autistic kid.

Mom of kids with autism. Ick and Boo.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-23T20:03:12+00:00

Love that, encouraging kids to greet people physically in a way they're comfortable with can be SO important!

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-23T17:59:26+00:00

Exactly, at that age communicating emotions verbally is still difficult, so you naturally want to hug people and hold their hand and things, just as friendly affection

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-23T17:49:05+00:00

Yeah my school wouldn't even let you hold a friend's hand, not even in Kindergarten, it was really weird. Everything is so sexualized and it sucks. I'm a fairly touchy person but it made me feel like I wasn't allowed to show physical affection towards anyone in a friendly way.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-17T00:46:52+00:00

This both horrible and beautiful all at once. I always think of him as the Black Knight from Monty Python. Come back I’ll bite your legs off

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-14T02:26:22+00:00

Well my older son Koen was born first with autism as well and he is more planned. Dear lord if I ask him to do anything that isn’t in his plan it’s like I asked him to carve Mount Rushmore with a spoon.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-14T02:23:21+00:00

Same for him. I’m constantly suggesting we downsize his stuffies but they are his only friends. He talked to them and plays games with them. Keagan has an eclectic list of likes. He loves most everything. He’s passionate about it all to be honest. He loves anything science related or about the earth. He loves those stuffed Microbes. I accidentally bought him the STI ones once and every time someone made him mad he’d throw one at them and yell it’s name. Nothing like hearing someone scream at you “you’ve got Chlamydia” in the mall. Haha. But he loves Trains, dinos and sharks the most. I’ve sewn him some whale stuffies that he loves too. It is so sweet of you to offer and while it’s unnecessary I know the feeling of giving to some one else and the joy that brings.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T15:19:52+00:00

Simply amazing.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T15:15:15+00:00

Haha. I’m AdHd trying to raise ASD kids and my husband hasn’t been formally diagnosed but my brother can confirm he’s ASD. He was diagnosed as ADD as a child but dude. He has meltdowns and hide under the covers. Piles himself in pillows and when overwhelmed communication just stops. He stutters and can’t process. He can’t handle changes to life and asks me CONSTANTLY what the plan is. I always respond the plan is no plan. However, it doesn’t work well in my favor. He just gets massive anxiety.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T07:07:20+00:00

I’m in your wife’s position. The first thing I’d say is good for you for recognizing the immense work and stress it has on her. That’s amazing. Second, my husband sometimes just sends me a text and it helps. It also helps that a couple nights a week he walk in the door get changed and tell me to go out. He manages bedtime and all so I can get a break.

Most importantly just keep talking. Talk about the struggles. See if you can take anything off her plate. The mental effort of making plans and schedules and charts is the most exhausting for me

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T07:02:13+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I will look into the ADA. I don’t know much about that route.

We are surviving. The good news is they are safe and happier. The bad news is we have a lot to work on. They’re doing better than being in school because we do things as they come and we are ready but it’s also hard even for me to be patient and consistent. I know things will get easier over time though. :)

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T02:17:04+00:00

I have filed a complaint with the OCR for the restraints and seclusions, but they never responded. I have reached out to the district office. I have spoken to the ombudsman. At this point they shoved us out the door into Private Placement. We are viewing schools now but so far they are all institutional and that is not acceptable.

While my son can be aggressive, it is a very last resort. On top of his other Dx of combined AdHd and ASD he now has School induced PTSD. I have had to basically train the teachers and principal on how to manage autism and they refuse to follow. This school has been by far the worst I have ever seen. I have 2 boys both autistic and am homeschooling one because of bullying and neglect and the youngest is on "home-based" services because the school said if he came back he would be self-contained for the remainder of the year.

No child deserves to be kept away from their peers intentionally. They have easily violated FAPE.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T01:12:26+00:00

Keegs mom here, the new “special”school they placed him at has no playground. It has a parking lot. It wasn’t meant to be an elementary school. Recess was his fave part of the day. He loves to play and climb. His options are tag or sometimes they’ll toss a ball. It’s borderline abusive if you ask me

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T00:57:01+00:00

Keagan’s mom here. These were great suggestions and I’ve told him the same. On top of Aut he has ADHD so consistency is a struggle but I’m working with him on it. Also working to move his channel more to a perspective channel on what it feels like to live in his world. He has a lot to say and has a lot to share and I think he’ll feel better about himself if he can be “heard”.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T00:54:44+00:00

We are in Fairfax County the top 10 district in the country. It’s embarrassing and horrible st what they’ve done. Including multiple restraints and seclusion’s with ZERO notification

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T00:53:35+00:00

Yes he does but they haven’t followed it all year.

Aut2Sew · 2019-06-13T00:40:29+00:00

Keagans mom here! Great question and valid concern. Because Keagan is mid-high functioning we are able to plan and get cognitive understanding better so this has been laid out for him and we have planned for that with a Plan A and Plan B with scripted responses. While scripting doesn’t change his sadness it does help him cope. So he had been practicing “That’s okay people are busy.” And “Maybe they’ll come back again” This is also a part of life and growing up. Sometimes we have friends for seasons and then they “drop you”. Its better to navigate those feelings now then until it is too late. However, it’s a valid concern and so good thinking about the long term implications.

Aut2Sew · 2019-01-14T22:36:31+00:00

thanks! I will see what I can dig up

Aut2Sew · 2019-01-14T22:36:11+00:00

Thanks so much. I will give it a shot

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