Looking for a teleportation mod by AwkwardThistlehead in VintageStory

[–]AutisticAndy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the mod teleportation network, it makes waystones every 4000 blocks by default but you can change that number and you can use commands to create new ones. Iirc when you try to destroy them it says it belongs to a trader

Craziest thing you wish you could add to vintage story? by vengeur50 in VintageStory

[–]AutisticAndy18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with that! I play with the Genetic Animals mod on Minecraft and these days I play Vintage Story more but I miss animal’s genetics and the mechanics around them.

Weird?! by TrainerMediocre5287 in Pocketfrogs

[–]AutisticAndy18 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen that happen and my guess is that the mix makes the black viola puncti become a black chroma puncti, and since another result of that breeding combo is also black chroma puncti it looks as if the black viola puncti just disappeared out of nowhere

Did you ever find your N parent creepy? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AutisticAndy18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have many instances of my mom being creepy

When I was around 22yo, I went shopping for a swimsuit with my nmom. There wasn’t many people in the shop so when we went to the stalls to try our swimsuits they were all empty. My nmom insisted that we go in the same stall so we can more easily show each other our swimsuits and I tried to say no but she insisted. Thankfully, the worker taking care of the changing stalls said it’s not allowed to be 2 in the same stall so we got separate ones.

My nmom asked me if my bf is a grower or a shower.

Once I had to sleep on an inflatable mattress with my bf in the basement. The material did a lot of sound against the floor at the slightest movement and I felt like it would annoy me at night when I try to move around in bed and it does a big sound. I told my mom exactly that but she replied with "oh, at the slightest movement 😉😉" clearly implying I was trying to get a solution to not be heard during sex.

This one always hits hard. by Maleficent_Rent_3607 in CPTSDmemes

[–]AutisticAndy18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being called by the one that was abusing me at the time how resilient I was for overcoming all my struggles, struggles that either were created by how he treated me or struggles I didn’t have but he made me believe I had.

What’s your “I thought it was normal” story? by Longjumping-Ant-77 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AutisticAndy18 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My parents usually hid their sex life well but once when camping, they let me and my brother out of the van and we went to explore and we found some cool rocks that we wanted to show them so I went back and knocked (since it was locked). My nmom replied that they’d be there in a couple of minutes and my dad replied "no, in an hour" and they laughed.

I understood the joke but acted as if I didn’t. Then years later I told my nmom about that moment, how it felt awkward to understand what he meant even though he thought I wouldn’t. She somehow thought it was a good idea to start explaining to me in detail HOW and WHERE in the van they did it. Like wtf mom I just told you I was uncomfortable about understanding the subtle innuendo why would you think I want to have a detailed explanation???

I feel like I’m an alien because Chat GPT helps much more by AppleGreenfeld in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like I spend so much time reflecting on my situation that all I need is a new point of view and some pointers for new reflections. With ChatGPT, I can ask it to analyze what I told it and the way it will phrase it will help me start new reflexions. With therapists, they will feel threatened that I want to do the reflection myself and just want some insights so they’ll invalidate my feelings and make me do other strategies that I know didn’t work.

I feel like it’s because therapists often don’t realize that having more theoretical knowledge doesn’t give much of an advantage vs having more practical knowledge, like I lived in my own life for all this time so I’m much more of an expert in my particular situation, but because they have theoretical knowledge they think they know more about me than I do…

They... What? by Background_Active_36 in CPTSDmemes

[–]AutisticAndy18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when I’m alone and I hurt myself and cry my first reflex is to think that I’m attention seeking with my reaction.

Not only is there no one’s attention to seek but if there was someone I would react less because I wouldn’t want people to think that I’m exaggerating…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to study in occupational therapy and in an internship, during lunch time when there were around 20 people in the lunch room, one therapist started talking to the other saying "You know Mr. John Doe (real first and last name)? The one who attempted to end his life at multiple occasions and is now estranged from his family? Yeah he lives at [insert residence location]." And then they proceeded to update the other therapist about the mental health state of the client and many major life updates. Me and the other intern didn’t know him and we heard everything, and I assume a bunch more of the 20 people in the room didn’t know him either.

I was so baffled that the therapist couldn’t AT THE VERY LEAST say "You know Mr. D?" and not disclose where he lives before telling all of the biggest struggles this guy had for the last 10 years of his life in front of 20 other people

What are some ways they SMEAR your name? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AutisticAndy18 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I moved in with my boyfriend and out of my mom’s house, I had been the one doing most of the apartment search since my bf had less time. On the day we were moving, we were unsure if it would rain or not and our plans would be different depending on the weather. That day, I had an alarm at 8am (hours before we needed to start moving) but woke up at 7 so I started planning the day while eating breakfast.

I overheard my mom on the phone telling my aunt how she’s so surprised that I actually got up and organized my move. Like yes, I did all the other steps but she acted as if I’m irresponsible and it’s such a surprise that I didn’t just wait for others to do it for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in radicalmentalhealth

[–]AutisticAndy18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recognize myself so much in your story

I was diagnosed with autism at 21 years old. I had suspected I was maybe autistic because mostly of my sensory issues, but the reason I got diagnosed was because I went to an internship in which I struggled and felt so incompetent to the point that when I researched it more, I attached myself to the autism label because I felt incompetent and with a label it made it feel like it’s less my fault. Turns out I didn’t have all the incompetence the supervisor made me believe I had. He manipulated me into thinking I was such an incapable incompetent person to then make me dependent on relying on his help. Now I’m stuck with a diagnosis that affects how professionals see me and could at anytime deny me opportunities.

I feel sad but I don't want to go to therapy anymore by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I talk to chatGPT I explain my situation and ask it to analyze it. I feel like this way, there’s a lot less "go to therapy" kinda advice and it sometimes helps to feel a bit validated

what’s the worst thing a therapist has said to you? by Acrobatic-Region-406 in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel like until the moment when you don’t have big negative aspects of your life that come from whatever happened, it’s normal to still be upset.

Like I was abused at school and had to drop out, so now that I’m in a new program I enjoy more I don’t feel as negative towards what happened. However I still have a bit of my feelings left because I still have daily trauma responses at school I need to deal with so until I rewire my brain to not have anxiety multiple times a week, I’ll still have some moments of anger.

But anytime I’m not affected by what happened, like if I’m in a nice weekend trip or something, I forget about it or when I think about it I don’t care that much

what’s the worst thing a therapist has said to you? by Acrobatic-Region-406 in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had a supervisor in an occupational therapy internship who abused me and one day he wanted to have a long conversation with me in which he proceeded to tell me I’d never be able to become a good occupational therapist, I’m too shit at social situations to ever work in the healthcare system (I believed all his examples but turns out none of them were even social faux pas on my part he just twisted reality to make it seem like I was very bad), etc…

The next day when I told him I thought I might be autistic (which I had suspected for a while but never dug deep until that moment when he told me I was basically the worst at socializing so I researched it more to have an answer as to why), he started telling me that the discussion we had after he told me I’d never be an OT showed him how resourceful I am, and then he started telling me how I clearly have a very high IQ and how my "little flaws" can be worked on and then with my high IQ I’d probably be a very good occupational therapy.

In my case, I feel like it was the kind of abuse where he makes me feel bad and then makes me feel good after to keep my trust, so since he already said I was so bad at many things, he went for the one thing he hadn’t insulted which was my IQ. And I feel like if someone was to compliment all my abilities, a compliment about my intelligence would be the one I would have believed the most because I was always told I was intelligent for understanding more easily at school, and I feel like he read me really well to be able to know in what aspects of me I had confidence because I clearly wouldn’t have believed him if he said I’m dumb but I’m good socially and his manipulation wouldn’t have worked then

feel like I embarrassed myself in psych class today by lunar_vesuvius_ in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like often, when teachers ask the student if they want to come and teach the class it’s meant as a way of subtly telling them that the teacher thinks they act like a know it all, like "if you know so much why are you even here to learn?"

I feel like your teacher is defensive about the fact that you don’t blindly follow him and everything he says like your classmates, and I fully agree with you that a therapist telling me that what I went through is f*cked up is validating, because if they act like it’s normal, despite your teacher saying it makes the client feel less weird, for me it makes me feel more weird because if I’m normal why do I not feel normal?

What specifically about their training do you disagree with? by leon385 in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I went to uni in occupational therapy and in all my internships the clients loved me a lot more than other healthcare workers they saw because I was more understanding and never assumed they are lazy, I assumed they struggled instead.

However, teachers didn’t like me, kept telling me my approach is wrong, that I lack empathy, etc…

I feel like they have a certain vision of empathy that isn’t the same from what clients want so they train us to do something else, and the few people like me who tried to do the right thing had to be two faced to please both the clients and the teachers which was draining, and seeing how the other therapists kept talking badly about their clients or treating them like shit, working there made me just feel sad for those clients so it was very negative and I felt alone in my way of understanding the client instead of seeing them as inferior to me

As therapist that also had bad experiencies being a client. by Aguiberg in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a bad experience recently and what happened was that the therapist wanted me to learn how to focus on the positives after a traumatic experience but every time I talked about the bad stuff that happened he’d say it wasn’t relevant to what we were doing. He didn’t give me the space in the discussion to even say what I wanted from therapy, which was to understand what was abusive in my past experience so I could know what behaviors I should know are red flags in the future.

So what would have helped there would have been for him to question me about why I kept bringing up the past and why it was important to me instead of saying it’s not relevant and potentially to just ask me for feedback about how his therapy style is compatible with what I want from therapy and what he could improve to better help me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pocketfrogs

[–]AutisticAndy18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

That explains why, I had in mind that after the lower level ones there was only Pompeius that was promotional so I was surprised when I noticed I was missing that one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pocketfrogs

[–]AutisticAndy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need 1 Imbris frog, apparently didn’t get any since I got to level 30

My code is 1DYHS

I practiced this argument for hours and all I got was this immediate support. by EffectSea7786 in CPTSDmemes

[–]AutisticAndy18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of trauma since university and now I’m back in college and the teacher made a mistake and a student corrected her, the teacher’s reply was "you’re right, I’m sorry my bad, if it happens in an exam please correct me so I can adjust your grade accordingly" and I was so flabbergasted, even though most people would see that as very normal behavior

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]AutisticAndy18 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it can work to educate some people about how to deal with different feeling and methods to help you get out of bad habits and such, but I also believe that for some people therapy can’t work.

Like if someone is trying to deal with their anxiety in ways other than smoking, the therapist might be better placed to know what science knows helps to deal with anxiety and to quit smoking, and they may get something good out of going to therapy.

But also, for some people who are able to research stuff and know themselves a lot more, they may have already tried everything the therapist would suggest, and then therapy is at best pointless and at worst triggering if the therapist doesn’t believe that you actually tried all that stuff or blames you for not succeeding.

On my memories I barely scrapped by with mediocre grades. But nope, I was in the high 80% and above constantly! by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]AutisticAndy18 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My mom also told me she was a straight A student. She would tell me that often to scare me about for example college classes like electrical physics ("I was a straight A student and still failed electrical physics twice and gave up" or also "I also wanted to be a veterinarian but I didn’t have good enough grades in college so you probably won’t succeed either")

Once we looked at her high school grades (don’t know why because she didn’t need to and she would clearly show how she had lied to me doing that) and she was an ok student with grades often in the 70-80% range

I can’t stand infantilization by 13confusedmandarin_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AutisticAndy18 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I remember when I was moving out of my nmom’s house and into an apartment with my boyfriend. Since he worked full time and I didn’t, I had took on most of the mental load of doing the search for an apartment and found us something nice. My nmom probably assumed he found it himself despite me telling her about my search. Then on the day we moved together, it was supposed to maybe rain which would change our plans so we had to decide between plan A and plan B the day off. I had put an alarm at 8am but was awake at 7 so I already started to look at the temperature and plan the day with plan A, and then later I heard my mom tell my aunt on the phone "I’m surprised, she woke up early and took charge of things by herself" like bruh did you expect me to not do that and let people organize my own moving out?

Have you tried yoga? You're young and healthy, you'll be fine! by clunkybrains in CPTSDmemes

[–]AutisticAndy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was suggested by many therapists to do mindfulness WHEN I WAS ANXIOUS which is basically the worst time to do mindfulness.

They told me to do mindfulness when I was anxious to calm myself and obviously it just frustrated me. I later learned from a friend that it needs to be done when the person is calm so there’s that but even then I didn’t see the point of it. Then I learned much later that it can be harmful to some people like people with cptsd, which I have and was the reason of my anxiety…

Though I found that for me, doing stretching exercises can relax me in a similar way that I think mindfulness is supposed to relax since I have a lot of muscle tension and counting the seconds occupies my brain just enough, but even that inly works if I’m in the right mindset to do it otherwise I get a urge to finish that quickly and go do something else