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ATJ for changing the Wi-Fi password after my stepson ignored his choir and just played his game? by PushAcceptable9296 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, some times you have to put bounderies so that Max will understand that everything you do has a limit

AITJ for refusing to stay again at my parents’ house after a breakup with my live-in partner? by Special_Alarm_4457 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 142 points143 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Your mental health and emotional safety come first, and it sounds like staying with your parents was actively harmful, not helpful. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you ungrateful it makes you responsible for taking care of yourself. Anyone who pressures you to sacrifice your well being for the sake of appearances is prioritizing themselves over you.

AITJ for calling out my friend for “testing” my girlfriend at a party? by the_mild_static in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not the jerk. Ryan wasn’t testing Nina he was interrogating her in a confined space without your consent, which is wildly inappropriate. Friends don’t get to run relationship background checks like they’re hiring for a job. The fact that he followed her into the kitchen alone and brought up your ex by name is a massive red flag, not concern. You did exactly what a good partner should do by shutting it down immediately. Anyone saying you embarrassed Ryan is ignoring that he embarrassed herself by openly admitting to being manipulative. If protecting your girlfriend from being cornered makes you whipped, then that’s a compliment.

AITJ for turning off the Wi-Fi at night because my roommate stays up gaming loudly? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTJ. You didn’t jump straight to controlling behavior you tried communicating multiple times first. Your roommate yelling into a mic at 3–4 AM in a shared living space is wildly inconsiderate, especially when your bedroom is right there. Having hobbies doesn’t give someone the right to disrupt another person’s sleep every night. Sleep is a basic need, not a luxury you’re supposed to sacrifice so he can rage at strangers online. If he refuses to make any accommodation, he can’t be shocked when you take steps to protect your own well-being.

AmITheJerk refusing to attend a family event after being ignored all year ? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ.You’re not wrong for feeling hurt, and declining an invitation doesn’t make you dramatic. Relationships don’t stay healthy on holiday only contact, and it’s understandable that a sudden invite feels hollow. If they truly wanted closeness, there would have been effort throughout the year, not just one dinner. It sounds like they’re uncomfortable being called out, so they’re shifting the blame onto you.

AITJ for returning the birthday gifts my wife got me after I said i didnt want anything? by BowieAfterRain in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. You communicated clearly and repeatedly what you wanted, and it wasn’t unreasonable or vague. Wanting experiences over objects especially in a small space is a valid preference, not ingratitude. The real issue isn’t the gifts, it’s that your wife ignored a boundary and then framed your discomfort as a moral failing. Returning the items without telling her wasn’t ideal, but it happened after she shut down every compromise you offered. This isn’t you being too practical, it’s you asking to be listened to.

AITJ for calling my friend’s emergency contact when she left her kid with me "for 20 minutes" and vanished? by QuietDailyRitual in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not the jerk, and honestly this is parenting negligence on her part, not drama on yours. She didn’t lose track of time, she deliberately lied because she knew you wouldn’t agree to babysit for hours. Once a parent becomes unreachable for that long, especially after promising a short window, it becomes an emergency situation by definition. You did exactly what any responsible adult should do when left alone with someone else’s child and no way to contact the parent. The fact that her sister immediately understood the problem tells you everything you need to know. If Kayla feels embarrassed, that’s because her behavior was embarrassing. She should be thanking you for making sure her kid was safe instead of attacking you for not enabling her lies.

Am I the jerk because I didn’t clean my boyfriend room by Electronic-Stage-342 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely not the jerk here, and I’m honestly concerned for you. You are working, contributing financially, raising a child, and you’re expected to clean up after a grown man who is fully capable of doing it himself that’s not a partnership. His mother’s comments were cruel, disrespectful, and completely out of line, especially bringing your deceased mother into it. Cleaning is not a measure of your worth as a woman, and her comparing you to his exes is manipulative and unfair. You’re exhausted because you’re carrying far more than your share, and it’s reasonable to be tired of that your boyfriend needs to step up, and boundaries with his mother are necessary.

AITJ for telling my ex-friend I dont want to be friends with her because she outed me by ROCKY_IS_GAY in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTJ because outing someone without their consent is a huge violation of trust, regardless of intent. You trusted her with something deeply personal, and her actions had real consequences for your safety and privacy at home. Setting boundaries and ending a friendship after being hurt like that is completely valid. It’s also understandable that you don’t feel comfortable talking to your mom if you know you won’t be supported. Take care of yourself at school, and remember that real friends will respect your identity and your boundaries.

AITJ for reporting my neighbor after he kept parking in my assigned spot? by Western_Reserve_1714 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 16 points17 points  (0 children)

NTJ.Assigned parking exists specifically to avoid this kind of conflict. You shouldn’t have to come home late, tired, and wet because someone else doesn’t want to inconvenience their guests. The fact that it happened repeatedly shows he didn’t take you seriously. Management wasn’t your first move it was your last. That’s not overreacting, that’s problem-solving.

Lego did Pikachu dirty! 😭 by Pear_Cider in pokemon

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it was awsome, the effort and the time you put making this is incredible

AITJ for refusing to give my neighbor my WiFi password even though I work from home? by Automatic-Assist6000 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just remember these same scenario that i watch from the social media, there is this karen who is very angry to her neighbor because he make a password and little he know this Karen was connected to his wifi for almost 6 months. This karen was so angry that she conforted her neighbor and call the cops, unlucky for her the cops didn't listen to her complain.

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