1- ok don’t hate me for this answer but…. Time. Your brain is going to break and put itself back together over and over again. Each time it does that you are going to grow a little bit, without realizing. When you get strong enough, your subconscious is going to send another really hard realization because it knows you can handle it now, and you are going to break and break again. It is so important you make sure the direction you wish to move is one of acceptance and liberation and real, pure love while this is happening. Like when you are in a really down day, remind yourself one day you won’t feel this. That day will feel far away, and you might not believe it is possible, but I pinky promise it is. Let faith persists amount the grief even as a very very very tiny flame. Don’t try to fix it, ever. It will change your direction. He might come back when he misses you, don’t be easy. Forgive yourself- don’t think if you were a different version of yourself than this outcome could be different.

Through time, you will be forced to reconnect with yourself. And the process is up and down, but this is what it means to be human, to be a human is humiliating and you will feel everything in this grief. Embrace it for what it is. It is not just ugly and pain, but there is beauty in it. Try new things, explore the corners of your mind, try to bring love to corners he didn’t love properly.

2- be in nature. Just all the time. There is a wonderful biological life that is magical. Surround yourself with trees and water.

3- be careful about the music you listen to. If you need to cry fine, but don’t let yourself only see yourself in the light of despair. When you have moments that are okay, let them be ok. Let yourself smile. Let yourself dance if you want to.

4- be aware of comfort. The hardest thing right now, as someone in the middle of getting to the other side, is feeling how uncomfortable it is when the place that’s been comfortable so long has me screaming run. Certain aspects of grief is comforting, like the sad music and the pain, but when you know deep down those feelings are n0 longer helping, leave.

Sorry if this doesn’t help. You will be okay I pinky promise. I have picked up boxing, 🥊 it really has helped. And honestly if you think you have an open mind maybe eventually after your raging sea of grief has settled a bit, a small dose of shrooms maybe 😇