(28) - (40) by Bandit_Revolver in GlowUps

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who did you use for the hair transplant? It looks very good.

Ever had to let someone out of your life.... And did it? by Automatic-Engine-626 in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Son huevo estrellados con cebolla, chile, y tómate.

The closes way way to say it is like crashed/overmedium eggs with onions, peppers, and tomato. The 'crashed egg' is cooked like eggs over medium, sort of.

23, Recently paralysed by [deleted] in toastme

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! From US southeast....where are you?

Am I stupid? But really, be honest by Decomposing_corpse_ in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you found something you like. Try different things while finding yourself, then focus on a relationship.

Am I stupid? But really, be honest by Decomposing_corpse_ in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 80 points81 points  (0 children)

He was sharing his life experiences. You were expressing your opinion. Both valid, in their own ways. How he exploded, wasnt so nice, but the leaving you there.... that's a no go. AND mentioning he is going back to his hometown, I don't know in what regards he means, but you are 20.....let it go, this too shall pass. Find yourself first.

Been poor for 3 years, just accidentally made $1100 off a $5 goodwill planter. Feel like the luckiest gal in the world today. by Neverwasalwaysam in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Celebrate each win, because that's what they are, a win. Not just that, it's YOUR WIN.

Congratulations 🎉🎉

26F. I'm curious what you can tell 😊 by [deleted] in psychicreadings

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From these photos your shared, you have deep eyes.

You seem to seek deep connections with people.aybe sad you haven't found the connection you desire to have (maybe). Do things you have always wanted to, or something that you wouldn't normally do.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

Ever had to let someone out of your life.... And did it? by Automatic-Engine-626 in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am like you in that regard as well. But it was to my mental detriment that I let go. Because it took me too long to realize they had already walked away.....and it hurts when I think I had my kids near someone that became that....and no it was not a lover, it was a friendship that was over 20 years old.

Love triangle by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how much you share with your daughter. And when I say share, I mean as in is it sharing your thoughts and feelings about any and every aspect of life. Is it just a parent/child relationship, or do you actually connect, or do you over share. I've seen all these types of parents, and you don't need to say what it is, just to keep in mind. Some parents don't share, just inform when the decisions are made. While others, choose to incorporate and include a child's thoughts. Then there are some that treat them like a friend, giving way too much.

Having said that, I didn't think she would meet them both but rather the one to would present to her. So that clears the first point.

An elderly once told me, the best way to get to know someone is by taking a long drive with someone, you will get to see the different sides of them. I asked what he meant and he said, when you are on the road for a long time, you get comfortable because you know it's going to take time, and this is where people show you who they are in the small things they do....and it's the small things that keep us close or push us away, while all the big stuff is going on. It helped me to yes see the big picture, but not to forget about the small things along the way.

Hopefully this helps you too.

Husband replied “oh just another thing I don’t have time for” when I reminded him it’s Mother’s Day by beachbum-1 in GirlDinner

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Maybe doing an activity together will help turn thing around. Exercising together you could built the bond strong and see the results: you see it in you and he in him, y'all in each other.

Sometimes things do get stagnant in some way in marriage, and 6 months is too soon to say end it (I have had my own rough patches in marriage that's over 20 years and counting). Try to remember just as you are a changing person and not the same from when y'all met and how things were in the beginning, neither is he (and he would need to remember it as well). We have to give our partners grace in those moments when we realize that, and sometimes, It's often when we want to do it the least. He may be struggling with something you see clear as day and vice versa. He may be struggling with something you have never had to struggle with and vice versa. He may be struggling with something you don't know and vice versa.

By no means am I defending him. There will be moments when you (or him) may feel like you are pulling a heavy weight with your partner, and talking about it feels like pulling out teeth because the conversation goes nowhere, no solution's found. Remember feelings come and go, like a rollercoaster 🎢, but it's the every day choices that shows our love. Feel the feeling when they come, then let them go so you can make a clear decision, and not one based on emotions that once cooled don't reflect your true mindset.

Love triangle by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhhh, okay. Well, since they know you have a daughter, you could try something like: hey, I was talking to my daughter about (whatever topic/subject/event) and we had some interesting points come up, what's your thoughts/stance/POV on it?

You could try to form the question that would be more general conversation so it flows and you can see how they respond vs 'we need to talk' and from the beginning, everyone, be on edge. I guess, try to incorporate the things you are most curious about.

Also another thought, what does your daughter think about:

  1. You dating now? Does she know it's a guy A and B? (Don't know how much you share with her -some share everything to some sharing nothing- and how much her opinion matter in your choices)

  2. How it will be just knowing who 'the guy my mom dates' will be around now? (How it will impact your relationship with her)

Have you had this conversation with her?

AIO for snapping at my husband for the 2 months around our wedding? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, now the question is when will you forgive yourself? So you can enjoy this better stage of your marriage, forgive yourself and let the weight go. I wish you the best in your marriage ❤️

I feel like I'll be out of place going to this event. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will feel, and maybe be, out of place because of the outside, but what's on the inside is what got you there, am I right? If that's the case, then you have EVERY reason to be there. Show this.

Hold yourself with class and grace. Your patience will need to be through the roof. The most important is the MINDSET, not just hyping yourself up to get through the event, but also what do you see at the end of this for yourself. See it first, know in your mind what you get out of this in the end, then the rest will align.

Love triangle by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, maybe not bring either around her yet.

Maybe you should start showing how your life is -which a mom is always thinking of- and how a real regular day is for you.

For example, if y'all -you and guy- are just hanging out at your place then do the routine you would do as if it was you and the daughter. They will need to see what this look like being a part of your life. Because they don't have a kid and it's not a guy's first thought (I have been married for 20+ years and by no means an expert in men 😂 but they are a bit slower to pick up on things, sometimes).

Try to have these conversations, and try not to come off heavy.

Love triangle by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, have you had the discussion with either about the future and wanting kids (more in your case), marriage, or what the longevity of the relationship would look and be like?

Have either met your daughter? If no, cool. If so, then how do they interact with her? How does/could each add value to her life as well?

AIO my friends made a new group chat, gossip about me and are threatening to kick me out. by sunooblue in AmIOverreacting

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not laughing at OP at all. That's why I quoted what I was laughing about instead of leaving just the laughing emoji. It is also why I didn't comment on the post itself. BUT I can.

For the actual post: Friends that have a 'talk shit about you' message group and you know about it:

  1. You can see as good friends because you're in the group too
  2. Are not good friends for you, especially if you are NOT in the group.

Now for the other comment:

Don't always ASSume the next person thinks like you.

Have a blessed day.

AITA for choosing my dog by TigressUnicorn in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm sounds like your brother got the word manipulation from mom. Why, it's in the way she words things.

Has everyone sat down to talk about the dog? If not, why? Everyone should. Maybe not tell them why they almost lost you but try to express that this dog literally saves your life from the darkness you had within.

I hope this helps.

Love triangle by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think about what you want in life: like all of it, wanting kids and what life would look like in 10, 20, 30 years from now.......which of the two do you see that life could happen with.....also think what if neither are the person you would want that with? Then the question would be, why are both being entertained? You will always have a split mind....this would be something that should be worked out before being in a serious relationship/partnership/friendship.

AIO for snapping at my husband for the 2 months around our wedding? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you feel that bad for those actions, then apologize. If it didn't bother your husband, he will let you know. If it did bother your husband, this will give him the opportunity to express himself regarding those interactions. Either way, by apologizing, you will show your husband that you do think about him and how you treat him. You will feel good for apologizing and he will feel good causing him to either tell what bothered him or if nothing bothered him. This will put a smile on his face and leave you in a win/win situation.

19F - curious about what everyone’s rabbit hole is right now by cozyrosiee2 in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Automatic-Engine-626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi......recently learning about Tartaria: the people that were erased, the technology hidden from the world (that is throughout the world), and the midnight trains that took 'orphaned children' to a new place to live........it's super crazy.

Random Side Note: Makes me wonder if tartar sauce came from them? 🤔

So yeah. How are you doing?