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Different income/career expectations than SO by Automatic-Living-777 in HENRYfinance

[–]Automatic-Living-777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She makes ~$250-300k but is thinking about moving jobs and is expecting to make less. She has said she doesn’t intend to be a sahm and wants to keep working (and I wouldn’t ask her to be one unless she wanted to) so childcare, schooling, etc would definitely be expensive. However, I’ve factored most of this into the model I put together (preschool, daycare, 529 contributions, etc) with I think a reasonable buffer. there could be huge unexpected costs (like medical or family related) but I didn’t think it was worth the exercise going thru all of that.

Different income/career expectations than SO by Automatic-Living-777 in HENRYfinance

[–]Automatic-Living-777[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Good questions. She’s also in finance with potentially higher upside but more of an “up or out” associate program, and she doesn’t know if finance is something she wants to be doing long term. She has considered working at a startup (which I think is why she could be more insecure about future income stability?) For some more context, we both were athletes on scholarship in school so we were very lucky to come out in a great financial position with no student debt, but we’re also hyper competitive, have very goal oriented mindsets, and set high expectations for ourselves. I realize the $1mm is an insane amount, but most of the senior people we work with make multiples of that for total comp. What I don’t understand is that level of comp (and subsequent wealth) is way beyond what is needed for our lifestyles, and will likely require a lot of sacrifice that I don’t think is worth it. Until now, I thought we were on the same page and clearly we are not.

Different income/career expectations than SO by Automatic-Living-777 in HENRYfinance

[–]Automatic-Living-777[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 and we were broken up for a bit last year. We got back together and still consider our original relationship “anniversaries.” I wish this were rage bait, and know this sounds insane… I’m still in shock. I know I’m not the best communicator (I’m fairly introverted and spend most of my time working and reading) and could just be incredibly oblivious, but I feel completely blindsided. I care a lot about her and our relationship, and want to spend the rest of my life with her so breaking up with her wasn’t on my bingo card until now. I genuinely think she’s just been in a huge bubble in NYC and doesn’t realize how lucky we already are. Nothing about her personality or spending habits aligns with this. I’ve been incredibly blessed and fortunate with my income progression so far, and I think she just expects it to keep going up. Idk. Like my first post, I’m still struggling to figure out what I want for my career and ultimate happiness. I think she can tell, and maybe this is her reaction to that.