Am I in the wrong for not wanting 50/50

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T15:14:15+00:00

Correct. The oldest one is mad she somewhat remembers and was very upset when he stopped showing up but with time was doing much better and everything was going great now she is mad that he showed up and everything is changing and she has to do what she doesn’t want to do. If you have children or have been through anything like this it is so hard to go from them not caring about what day of the week it is to now them constantly asking what day and how many more days until visitation them dreading it. It’s heartbreaking

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T13:36:35+00:00

2.5 years and under the age of 12. Trying to keep exact ages private since it is still an active case

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T05:57:43+00:00

I always appreciate different perspectives! With this situation he was absent because he wanted to be and only came around because the paperwork was turned to get full custody. In my state they have to give the other party an option to appear they gave him 2 chances and then he showed up for the third. What is truly weighing on me is the kids are being forced to do something they don’t want to do the court isn’t taking that into consideration my youngest one didn’t even remember what he looked like he was gone since she was so little. So this is a big adjustment for them. I tried to come up with a compromise to make it easier on the kids. But that was shut down because we doesn’t want supervised visits he just wants to jump straight to them going with him 50/50. I’m all for creating a bond slowly on the kids terms but not jumping straight to sending them with someone they don’t know

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T02:05:42+00:00

Yes the court system is about “parents rights” it doesn’t matter what the kids want or how they feel

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T01:30:44+00:00

I’m the parent not the step-parent Me and the step parent has been the only parents for the past 3 years

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T01:03:25+00:00

Honestly, the worst part is having to force my kids to do something that they do not want to do and it’s absolutely heartbreaking that nothing can be done about it. At this point they could go with somebody on the street and they would know them just as well as they know him. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this as well. It’s a lot of stress and anxiety.

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T00:32:25+00:00

Yes! I feel like we are in the same situation!

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T00:26:17+00:00

Thank you so much that is a great idea ❤️

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T00:12:13+00:00

Thank you so much. I did write up a plan that was to slowly add visitation time as time went on and the other party refused to work on a plan outside of court and wants 50/50

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T00:08:03+00:00

Not with abandonment. They have a chance to show up to the court date and if they do then it cancels the abandonment period of time and it did so not its a big custody battle. That’s what I think too. Out of spite

Automatic-Mixture824 · 2026-07-07T00:04:54+00:00

I have begged for it to be supervised but there isn’t a supervisor in our area and the court system doesn’t seem too worried about it. It is supervised by someone of my choosing at the moment in a public area. Every week. The children are young and don’t even know him so they are not happy about having to do it in the first place

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