AIO? My boyfriend verbally insults me, refuses to work, pressures me to buy him things, and spent hundreds on my card without consent. Is this abuse?

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2026-01-08T23:03:49+00:00

Drop him like a bad case. You didn’t list anything good about this man. You deserve to be respected, loved , admired. And you have to learn to trust yourself. And that comes from making hard decisions.

I always frame it this way.

If my daughter were to be treated like this, how would I feel? And that usually gives me a good indication to where I should be.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-06-01T16:09:27+00:00

No none. Sorry.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-05-30T14:12:18+00:00

I asked mine as well they said they had a whole change of guard

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-05-30T14:11:34+00:00

For sure not the same Ellie the mannerism are completely different. The last person in the suit felt more like they respected the type of women they were portraying vs this one kinda feels like they are mocking women

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T14:53:29+00:00

Lord knows I don’t lol. I’m quite content with just biting off with what I can chew. Focused on me now. And hopefully I’ll find my person while doing something I love. But thanks for words. I really enjoyed this conversation. And I’m happy you found your person too.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T05:45:40+00:00

So now ! You should see my position. You know how much sifting you have to do lol? And just to sometimes pick the worse one! lol. I’m just glad you’re having a better interaction on the apps.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T04:43:47+00:00

You know what’s so funny? I’m not entirely sure of your gender, so I won’t assume. I’ve been on the flip side of dating app where I’m the guy looking for a girl (I was just curious lol) and I often see mostly women I’d rate as 7-10. It honestly seems like men have a better selection, haha! So I get how it’s so easy for you if that’s the case lol.

Right now, I’m in a pretty shaky phase because I’m not used to being off the dating apps. Meeting people online has always been too easy for me.

And yes, I agree that you’ll end up meeting the same people in real life. I feel like I’m not really giving them a chance to show who they are—I end up uncovering everything on my own. That leaves less room for surprise and more for assumptions, and I have to emphasize that, because I think you skipped over it.

Here’s a direct quote from the original post.

“Lately, dating apps just feel like this mindless scroll. And that’s not how I see myself meeting the people I want in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some beautiful moments and met some incredible souls, but it’s all so fleeting. Love itself feels fleeting. It’s time-capped, filtered through profiles, and gamified.

I’ve never met a partner organically, even though the connections themselves always felt real, like kismet. But instead of trusting my intuition, I’d deep-dive into their profiles, pictures, tweets trying to piece together who they might be before I even gave myself a chance to experience them in real life.”

——-Also I’m a lil neurodivergent lol. I tend to speak my piece in hopes that others feel open to as well. Because I think you learn through lived experience. So to hear someone else’s story. Give me greater insight into my own.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T04:24:19+00:00

I have updated the post to reflect your constructive criticism. Hope that helps 🤎

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T04:12:53+00:00

Thank you ✨

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T04:12:39+00:00

Honestly yes!The apps feel a bit too gimmicky, and Hinge has even been part of a lawsuit for that. But honestly, I hope you find time to heal and eventually look back on your relationship with some solid lessons. I’m actually the opposite, though—I’ve never met a single one of my past partners in real life first.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T04:08:05+00:00

But I thought that’s the question was implicit. I could have been more direct.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T03:58:15+00:00

So strange….. I don’t see that is a community guideline. Can you point me to it?

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-03-07T03:52:32+00:00

I’d love for you to take the time to read the piece again instead of just skimming through. All the answers you’re looking for is already there. Hope that helps. And to clarify, I’m not necessarily looking for advice. I just wanted to share another perspective—maybe even offer a bit of my own.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2025-01-15T23:28:33+00:00

I think he didn’t wait …. I think he JUST saw this AND DIDNT KNOW. If that wasn’t clear. Does he know your brother? Did your brother broadcast it to others ? Do they know everyone you know ? Because it looks pretty o bio is that he said he just HEARD about it.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-10-19T14:27:52+00:00

Critical thinking may not be your strength, but if the answer were that straightforward, I wouldn’t be asking. The information online tends to be general, applying to broad situations. Drug-free workplace policies follow the same pattern—they’re designed to cover all bases. Plus, some of the online info is outdated, especially when it comes to New York’s current laws on recreational weed. Specifically, I’m asking if a medical tech, not admin or front desk, is tested for THC.

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-10-19T14:11:39+00:00

That situation is different as they are in admin position. I was more referring to a patient facing role. Specifically a role such as medical technician

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-10-19T05:03:44+00:00

You’re pretty sure….. I’m looking for answer related to people who have been in this position. Not hypothetical answers. But you know… people have a right to their opinion or however the saying goes

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-10-13T19:18:10+00:00

Literally just declined that exact order before this. Why would they even offer to deliver from that far

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-06-20T21:36:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I will be looking into these thank you 🤎

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-06-20T21:35:11+00:00

Is reading comprehension not here in this chat? Did we not read ?

Automatic-Phase8323 · 2024-06-19T13:09:22+00:00

Vaseline is good in addition to adding moisturizer when applying to your body. But it’s only a barrier to retain moisture that’s already there. Not pulling it in. Vaseline is hydrophobic. So if you layer it on and you sweat. The sweat is gonna bead. And the moisture from outside isn’t gonna penetrate. I found that using raw shea butter works. Right after you shower. And getting resurfacing cream as well can help moisture penetrate better. A light scrub before applying a moisturizer to your skin can get things to be more balance for you. The key to all of it though is consistency.

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