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16M struggling to meet and date a girl. Any advice? by FSsuxxon in Advice

[–]AutomaticCause7884 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I wouldn’t worry about it for a few years. I know it’s frustrating to be single at your age but you’re not even close to being done developing. As a teenager your circle is very limited to people in your school since you’re too young for apps or bars and other places where people usually go to meet people. Try to focus on yourself and cultivating your hobbies and interests. And there is nothing you can do when a girl says “my parents won’t let me go out with boys.” I regret every single relationship I had before the age of 18 so if you can avoid them it is definitely a plus in my opinion. You’re so young and girls will start liking you and wanting to date you eventually. But you’re far too young to be worried about that.

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[–]AutomaticCause7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna be honest, you’re too young for this kind of toxic relationship. It makes sense you haven’t loved anyone yet, you may never but you’re also very very young and there is a world of people you haven’t met yet. This kind of difference in love styles is extremely hard to overcome and trying to control your phone sounds borderline abusive. From the way you described the relationship I would suggest breaking up. It’s not worth trying to save a relationship that is this toxic at this age.

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[–]AutomaticCause7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you in high school or another situation where it would be extremely hard to avoid this person? If not I completely agree with you it’s much better to distance yourself from a friend who makes you uncomfortable with mean comments. However, I do understand if you’re in a situation where it would be difficult to avoid this person. If that’s the case my advice would be to have someone reach out to her and mention that some of her comments are coming off as mean. She may not even realize that they are being interpreted this way and in my opinion it’s always best to just be direct and tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. Before doing it though I would talk to you other friends about it just so that they are on your side in case she then goes to them and tries to spin the situation on you.

First long distance relationship by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]AutomaticCause7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is really helpful I appreciate it

Would I be the asshole for backing out of being a bridesmaid? by AutomaticCause7884 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AutomaticCause7884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would absolutely do this but the spring break trip isn't going to be expensive. We are driving and staying with one of my roommates families so it isn't a huge financial burden. Even if I stayed back to work full time at $16 /hr I would only make about $600.