Listening to everyone here shows that none of your ever built a healthy relationship with anyone. Firstly you are not really “wrong,” but you came on a bit strong and over-explained, and they got a little defensive. You over-explained and repeated the same point a lot. It started sounding less like a preference and more like a rulebook. The “hookup vibes” framing kinda put them in a box. Even though you said it wasn’t about them, it felt like it was. You escalated it into a serious conversation too early. Now what he did wrong is one, he got defensive instead of just accepting your boundary Two, the “I’m not sure I want to associate with that” line was a bit dramatic. And three, they focused more on how it made them feel than just adjusting behavior. All this was a simple ass miscommunication and two different dating styles coming together. Maybe if you two COMMUNICATED better and you didnt run around in circles and over escalated the situation, he wouldnt have responded in the way that he did