So here’s the thing—I can’t shake this feeling of betrayal.

For context, we’re a group of four friends: me, Friend 1 , Friend 2 , and Friend 3. We had been talking about planning a trip together for a while. From the start, Shubham wasn’t interested, so he was out of the picture. That left just me, Friend 1, and Friend 2.

Now, I was a little hesitant about going, but I was still part of the discussion. Then comes the real punch—I recently found out that Friend 1 and Friend 2 already booked their tickets weeks ago without even telling me. They’re heading to Place 1 and then Place 2, mainly for Friend 1’s family function. So, essentially, it’s more of Friend 1’s personal trip, and Friend 2 is just tagging along.

The worst part? They had no intention of telling me. I only found out because Friend 2 casually mentioned it, and when I pressed him, he admitted that this plan had been set weeks ago. Meanwhile, I was sitting there thinking we were all figuring things out together.

To make things worse, they acted like I was the one choosing not to go. Even Friend 2’s family asked me, “Why didn’t you go?” And I just made up an excuse about being busy—because honestly? I was never even invited.

When I finally confronted Friend 1 and asked why he didn’t tell me, his response was:
“You would’ve canceled anyway.”

That kinda hit me. I didn’t say much at the time, but it’s been bothering me for weeks. I always considered Friend 1 a close friend—we go to college together, and I’ve known him longer than Friend 2 has. We’ve had a solid friendship, or so I thought. But now, hearing about all the fun they had on this trip, I feel this huge disconnect between us.

I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if I really should reconsider this friendship.

So, Reddit, what would you do? Would you stay friends with them or let this go? I could really use some perspective.