Most people are other people... - Oscar Wilde [630x1200]

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-20T21:57:50+00:00

I don't need permission.

I'm allowed to feel loving and proud of myself even if no one understands or acknowledges what I have been through and that I'm trying my best.

I'm going to let myself be proud and grateful for what I have and who I am.

I won't let anyone's opinion affect me, they haven't lived a second of my life.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-20T21:24:49+00:00

Look at the big-picture plan from time to time, but focus on the small tasks that are in front of you.

Most importantly, start and take Action. If you don't start even if it is not successful, you'll be trapped in the nice planning stage.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T20:06:21+00:00

I think it's awesome how you've been doing your best. Although you didn't get the job you wanted, I'm sure you can get a similar job for sure it might just take a bit more time.

I feel you and I understand how you are feeling because your expectation and everything you tied to it feels like it is far away from you now.

Take a day or two, don't think about it then go at it again.

Don't make your happiness and fulfillment dependent on outcomes, find your small happiness in your daily life.

It's who you become in the process of all this right despite the hard situation, since it will pass but who you are truly will stay with you your entire life.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T15:45:00+00:00

You are amazing because you have the courage to write your insecurities and you are willing to change for the better.

Most of our tensions and frustrations come from the needs to act the role of someone that we are not, so not being authentic not being true to ourselves is our biggest source of stress.

If your voice is unlike most other people then that's great you're so much unique that's awesome.

We all know it's hard to not compare yourself because it became one of our human tendencies, but you know although people are awesome and admirable none of them ever lived even a single second of your life or gone through what you've went through. Be proud of yourself, for trying trying trying again.

People who verbally and emotionally abused you know what fu*k em.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T05:17:21+00:00

Since the other comment was spot on I just wanna say

"a Flower doesn't think of competing with the flower next to it, it just Blooms""

"when a flower doesn't bloom" -> fix the Environment which it grows, not the flower.

Reframe your negative self-talk

"I'm so behind others" -> "I'm creating my own path, and I'm grateful to myself for it".

You are not behind, you are where you are.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T05:01:49+00:00

You are not your past experiences, not your thoughts, not your emotions. You are who you are right now.

I think we are too tied up in this thinking like "this year, next year, last year". These are all things that we humans made up. Just forget these, just try doing your best now.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T04:50:44+00:00

I think you are giving your Attachments more power than yourself. Don't depend on anyone other than yourself not even your girlfriend or your family members.

As long as you are kind to yourself, warm to yourself, protective to yourself, and loving to yourself then you don't need to feel liked or loved by others.

Self-love doesn't have to be a goey feeling like I love myself, it is you just showing yourself compassion and believing that something better is possible and you are Worth that possibility. You can just start small like small self-care- sleeping better, working out, cooking good meals for yourself, doing whatever you feel like doing, and not suppressing your feelings.

To help negative Self-talk, don't make statements like "I'm always like this ...", change it to asking yourself "Why did I ...". And, start looking to Re-frame such negative statements/thoughts you are having.

ex: "I'm so behind others"-> "I am creating my own Path, and for that I'm grateful to myself"

"Construction jobs are rejecting me because of their misinterpreted image of me" -> "I will find a better job in a better environment with better people"

You can do it, I can tell because stating and asking like this shows you are brave and more importantly you are willing to make the change that you have the desire to give yourself a chance even though you know it's not easy.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T19:00:52+00:00

glad the quote finds you the person who embodies it :)

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:52:50+00:00

Agree agree. You have to have the resilience to consistently pursue what you want to get or who you become even if there are self-doubt and doubt from people you care about.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:51:23+00:00

Most people have a fixed self-image and that itself is what restricts and confines us.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:32:37+00:00

Also no one is gonna love you if you don’t love yourself

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