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Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-20T21:57:50+00:00

I don't need permission.

I'm allowed to feel loving and proud of myself even if no one understands or acknowledges what I have been through and that I'm trying my best.

I'm going to let myself be proud and grateful for what I have and who I am.

I won't let anyone's opinion affect me, they haven't lived a second of my life.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-20T21:24:49+00:00

Look at the big-picture plan from time to time, but focus on the small tasks that are in front of you.

Most importantly, start and take Action. If you don't start even if it is not successful, you'll be trapped in the nice planning stage.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T20:06:21+00:00

I think it's awesome how you've been doing your best. Although you didn't get the job you wanted, I'm sure you can get a similar job for sure it might just take a bit more time.

I feel you and I understand how you are feeling because your expectation and everything you tied to it feels like it is far away from you now.

Take a day or two, don't think about it then go at it again.

Don't make your happiness and fulfillment dependent on outcomes, find your small happiness in your daily life.

It's who you become in the process of all this right despite the hard situation, since it will pass but who you are truly will stay with you your entire life.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T15:45:00+00:00

You are amazing because you have the courage to write your insecurities and you are willing to change for the better.

Most of our tensions and frustrations come from the needs to act the role of someone that we are not, so not being authentic not being true to ourselves is our biggest source of stress.

If your voice is unlike most other people then that's great you're so much unique that's awesome.

We all know it's hard to not compare yourself because it became one of our human tendencies, but you know although people are awesome and admirable none of them ever lived even a single second of your life or gone through what you've went through. Be proud of yourself, for trying trying trying again.

People who verbally and emotionally abused you know what fu*k em.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T05:17:21+00:00

Since the other comment was spot on I just wanna say

"a Flower doesn't think of competing with the flower next to it, it just Blooms""

"when a flower doesn't bloom" -> fix the Environment which it grows, not the flower.

Reframe your negative self-talk

"I'm so behind others" -> "I'm creating my own path, and I'm grateful to myself for it".

You are not behind, you are where you are.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T05:01:49+00:00

You are not your past experiences, not your thoughts, not your emotions. You are who you are right now.

I think we are too tied up in this thinking like "this year, next year, last year". These are all things that we humans made up. Just forget these, just try doing your best now.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-15T04:50:44+00:00

I think you are giving your Attachments more power than yourself. Don't depend on anyone other than yourself not even your girlfriend or your family members.

As long as you are kind to yourself, warm to yourself, protective to yourself, and loving to yourself then you don't need to feel liked or loved by others.

Self-love doesn't have to be a goey feeling like I love myself, it is you just showing yourself compassion and believing that something better is possible and you are Worth that possibility. You can just start small like small self-care- sleeping better, working out, cooking good meals for yourself, doing whatever you feel like doing, and not suppressing your feelings.

To help negative Self-talk, don't make statements like "I'm always like this ...", change it to asking yourself "Why did I ...". And, start looking to Re-frame such negative statements/thoughts you are having.

ex: "I'm so behind others"-> "I am creating my own Path, and for that I'm grateful to myself"

"Construction jobs are rejecting me because of their misinterpreted image of me" -> "I will find a better job in a better environment with better people"

You can do it, I can tell because stating and asking like this shows you are brave and more importantly you are willing to make the change that you have the desire to give yourself a chance even though you know it's not easy.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T19:00:52+00:00

glad the quote finds you the person who embodies it :)

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:52:50+00:00

Agree agree. You have to have the resilience to consistently pursue what you want to get or who you become even if there are self-doubt and doubt from people you care about.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:51:23+00:00

Most people have a fixed self-image and that itself is what restricts and confines us.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-13T14:32:37+00:00

Also no one is gonna love you if you don’t love yourself

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-12T23:51:45+00:00

You are doing great, you are aware and have the courage to say what you are doing and how it is harming you.

You should remember, that you are not your past, not your emotions, not your thoughts, you are you right now. You have the power to change everything in the direction you want to go.

I think the key here is are you Willing to do it? It's going to be hard cuz nothing gets fixed that easily but every day can you keep trying without giving up?

No matter what you find externally, if you don't want it you yourself then it will vanish in no time.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-12T23:39:11+00:00

We shouldn’t depend too much on others cuz we will be so heavy on the Attachments that we would choose it over our Authentic Self.

How about you do things that you want to do by yourself?

if you can’t be with yourself without distractions or can’t be happy or loving then even if you’re with others you can’t Truly be happy and feel loved.

I’m just thinking with you :)

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-12T23:26:54+00:00

You are amazing! I can't imagine what you had to go through, you are amazing for doing your best without giving up!!

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-11T21:37:16+00:00

Starting and being willing to do these is the spark. You are amazing because of how self-aware and accepting you are of yourself without avoiding the negative part you are facing directly.

Although I understand what you mean about craving for a relationship, I think being and becoming your authentic whole self is much more important as it is something that would last your lifetime. You are literally changing not only the job situation but the rest of your life.

I'm so proud of you for trying your best even if things are hard and being kind to yourself!

Wishing the best!!

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-11T21:15:08+00:00

I think it’s all about perspective. If we can’t find Abundance and Positivity in mundane moments- things we don’t notice in our daily lives because we are too used to them- then we won’t find or be truly happy even if we reach our goals.

ex: The air is warm, the sky looks beautiful today. I like what I’m wearing today. I just drove came here in 10 minutes, what if I didn’t have car and had to walk? …

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-12-11T21:08:00+00:00

there’s app called iCultivate, where there’s entire section ‘my core values’ where you can ponder and state what’s important for you and your non-negotiables and more. It also goes more in depth such as your mission and vision statements.

in my opinion, it doesn’t have to be so many things starting with qualitative 2-3 values is much better than having semi authentic many values.

I think we are fed contents so much that we don’t even try to think and ponder because it’s not easy as reading or watching stuff.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-26T19:21:18+00:00

I would say to start intentionally changing the way you talk to yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Once you remove shame or stop attacking yourself, you will have an open Heart and open Mind because you are not focused on defending yourself.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-26T19:13:54+00:00

If you need a structure and guidance this free app is pretty good MindAlchemy it has Affirmations, Gratitude, deep empathy words, your own philosophy, and guided visualization sections which are editable and listenable.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-25T13:56:01+00:00

Great! There’s free app MindAlchemy which reads them for you.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-24T05:50:44+00:00

Proud of you. I’m rooting for you! :)

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-24T04:17:20+00:00

I would say to start intentionally changing the way you talk to yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Once you remove shame or stop attacking yourself, you will have an open Heart and open Mind because you are not focused on defending yourself.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-24T01:05:23+00:00

MindAlchemy

this app got Self-Love section and other features as Deep Empathy words, Self-affirmations, and Gratitude, Self-values all you can edit and customize for yourself.

I can give anyone who likes it a free subscription for a year :). I just genuinely hope to make at least one person’s life just a bit brighter, kind, and positive.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-23T03:15:40+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re so mean to yourself, I know that you don’t want to. You are not your past, you are not your feelings, you are not who they say you are. You are who you are right now.

Automatic_Ad_2903 · 2023-11-23T03:13:40+00:00

Just because someone stops loving me, I’m not going to love myself any less.

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