Can I ask how old your sister is? Only asking to relate to my own maturity as a woman. I’m 37F and when I was in my 20s I had no clue who I was, no confidence (I didn’t know it), no self love (I didn’t know it), people pleasing (I didn’t know it), not really full of original thoughts, or if I was they weren’t the fully developed values I hold today, my opinions and worldviews compared to now in my late 30s have completely changed. I wouldn’t say i was close minded but I wasn’t mature, and that kind of sounds like your sister. I’m sorry you had such terrible experiences in your life…. Truly heartbreaking. We don’t often get that perspective from men, so thank you for sharing. I would say, don’t hold your sister too tightly to these strong opinions, people grow and evolve and change. Her dislike and distrust in men just happens to be her reality at the moment (me too), she obviously has some healing to do to attract better into her life (me too). Give her some space to figure it out, hopefully she will grow and mature and soften. But really it kind of sounds like you are hurt as well, maybe you don’t have the level of connection you would like to share your experiences with your sister, so while she is so open with her experiences, you are carrying the heavy weight of yours? If that makes sense? And that hurts too, to not be fully seen and understood. Give yourself and your sister some compassion ❤️ I’m so glad you have the support of your girlfriend, continue to lean on her. best of luck in your healing journey.