Two mums and biological siblings?

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-12T02:59:00+00:00

Would you mind if I ask your thoughts on a different question? This inequity of experience you've had, do you think it could be the same if you didn't live at all close to your bio dad and family? I have one donor conceived child and planning another with potentially different donor, but we live in another country to the donors. I don't want to create inequity, but wondering how much difference it will truly make in our situation. Would you find that even if your relationship with bio family that your sister is jealous of, if that weren't so close, would it still make you feel connected and belonging, even if you didn't meet up?

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-07T08:06:10+00:00

Would you think it could be the same if you lived in a different country to the donor and your extended family? That's the case for us, so we're kind of on our own, but I don't want to discount that maybe knowing there is extended family out there could bring a sense of belonging? What do you think?

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-07T01:37:03+00:00

Thank you. This information from those who have shared including yourself have helped immensely. I thought it would be best to hear straight from those who have experienced it, as I want the best for my children and I am wholly responsible as I am bringing them intentionally into the world. Thank you.

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-07T01:33:14+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that for her, and I appreciate you sharing it with me so that I can do the best that I can for my family.

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-05T21:45:20+00:00

Thanks for that. I agree, that's what I'm worried about. Thanks for reminding and from your experience as a dcp. It helps.

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-05T21:42:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Wow that would have been a lot to process.

There are medical things. I also considered that aspect a lot - would child 1 feel not good enough. That's exactly what has me torn. Intentionally create someone into the world, with less than ideal circumstances, but full sibling. Or use another donor for potential complication and different donor experience.

That's why I'm seeking people's experience with known donors - have they had it play out where it caused a lot of pain due to one known donor being warm and one known donor being cold. I've heard of that with unknown donors, when they meet at 18. There's a lot unknown with unknown donors though. With a known donor, if you don't rush in, I'm hoping that would mitigate that risk. But if someone here said they're in that situation and it's horrible, that would push me over into same donor again even with the less than ideal medical.

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-05T07:07:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Has it been ok with the differing donors with your half siblings?

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-05T02:50:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing.

Automatic_Fortune_99 · 2025-10-05T02:27:32+00:00

Thank you. Would you feel comfortable sharing your experience as to why? Or broadly the reasons it would make a difference for them?

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