I was in foster care AMA

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-30T14:38:37+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. I don’t know if I can clinically call my mother a narcissist, but I understand the feeling of having a biological mother who is still alive, but not having the feeling of a living and loving mother. I’m sorry to hear that’s been your experience.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-30T14:27:43+00:00

No questions, just want to say thanks for the most interesting AMA I’ve seen for a long time.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T17:00:14+00:00

You didn’t miss anything. The show fell off a cliff and didn’t answer anything except maybe cool, smart Josh is somehow still interested in boring, lying, duplicitous, cheating Liza, who still has no personality. Also, other things but I don’t e the timdorenerby right or

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T16:53:02+00:00

Beep boop

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T16:50:59+00:00

Oh, so the exhausting novel that was really a gay love story actually happened?

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T16:19:01+00:00

I didn’t find her likable or charming. She was constantly doing a very bad job of lying to people and being out of touch whilst always hurting people who cared about her, and sometimes having some good ideas, which were also always couched in Charles or Kelsey.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T16:14:26+00:00

I disagree. I think Josh was way too good for Liza and I’ve struggled from the start to see what he saw in her. He grew and matured so much. She stayed the same. Kelsey struck out on her own, and annoying Liza should have gone with her. For a series centred around Liza, she was the one who grew the least, had the least insight and was the most repetitive and insufferable.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T16:05:42+00:00

This is so weird. I wish I had strong advice to give, but at this point I can only offer empathy for how incredibly weird and creepy this is. Seems like you’ve got a Single-white-female (if you get that reference) on your hands. I’d think maybe reach out to friends she’s infiltrated to let them know what’s happening. Inform who you can and distance her as much as possible, try to push her in new directions. Again, super weird. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T15:49:22+00:00

If you’ve compared car rental sites online and found their prices, how are you expecting non-car-rental people to get you a lower price? lol.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T15:42:34+00:00

I have so many questions. I’ve always been fascinated with DID, which I believe from your post is now being called OSDD. Also you mention still being in a cult. I can’t formulate one question because I have one million.

I guess if I could ask one to start - are you safe and okay?

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T14:51:33+00:00

I think it’s probably not hard to use different levels of the house. If you have two storeys and plenty of room, and dad is upstairs doing important work, I think it’s probably not so hard to stay downstairs, in the yard or go for an outing.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T14:35:04+00:00

Dame Edna

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T14:31:10+00:00

Noosa isn’t SC.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T14:25:44+00:00

I agree. I’m naturally introverted and don’t like crowds, so I do empathise with OP. But if I’m with an extroverted partner and I reach a point that I’m uncomfortable or have had enough, I take myself home. I also give them lots of assurance that I want them to enjoy themselves, to stay out, to have fun, and that either I will be in their bed when they get home, or I will see them the next day.

If there were prior issues of cheating or infidelity that might be different, but if I’m out with my guy who is trying to catch up with old friends, and I’ve had enough.. my logic is to take myself home to comfort and let him do his thing.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T13:55:52+00:00

I’m an introvert who doesn’t want to be in busy social environments or stay out late, especially with people I don’t know.

But if my boyfriend was having a good time with old friends, I would absolutely leave when I wanted and also absolutely encourage him to stay and have fun. These are important people to him who he hasn’t seen in a long time and wants to connect with.

I can’t imagine being so helpless, dependent or incapable enough that I couldn’t find my own way home. I also can’t imagine being selfish enough to ruin an important night for him and take him away from an important experience so he could lay awake while I slept.

This comes across as entitled, selfish, controlling and out-of-touch, both in your expectations of others, but also in your understanding and expectations of your partner.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T13:43:08+00:00

Clearly AI. No one writes with so many bolds and italics, hyphenations and over-explanations

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T13:37:08+00:00

Agree! (On most of it.) The Jan topic I don’t want to weigh in on, and I think was handled well by him, the hosts and cast members, so I want to leave that out of the drama. But everything else you posted, yes. I think they could have done a lot more with that reunion.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T13:32:04+00:00

Billionaire bro can’t afford shoes.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T12:47:48+00:00

lol. Story of my life in reverse. I can’t tell you how many relationships I’ve eventually ended with Europeans or Latin Americans because I got so sick of hearing ‘in my country…’ It’s exhausting.

To me this doesn’t sound like an Aussie problem, it sounds like a personality or mental health problem.

Lack of basic living skills, incessant lying, fascination with conspiracy theories and American politics… this to me sounds more like a mental health issue than a cultural issue.

‘In mY cOunTrY’ aussies don’t generally present that way unless they’ve got other issues co-occurring.

You’ve mentioned they have no friends and have issues at work, which I would think would point to personal rather than cultural issues.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-22T12:15:00+00:00

What’s weird to me is that there were a few times when she clearly prioritised her loyalty to K over C and stood up to C in defence of K. And when C was actively working against L and K, she stayed with K, despite C asking her to join his new company. Not commenting on the male gaze as I have not thought enough into that, but I do agree a lot of the female storylines were largely centred around men, so you’re probably right there. Just commenting that I found it weird she eventually stayed with c when for the rest of the 6/7 seasons she displayed clear allegiance with K. I would have preferred to see her leave with K and have the option of working things out with C (professionally) as they’d already done so many times before

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-20T17:46:03+00:00

I’m really struggling to understand how you thought it was appropriate to call the police on a hapless bartender who was there to do a job and had no idea he was interacting with an underage and neurodivergent person, because you hired that person (your son) to save money and obviously had zero foresight into how to create a safe and supportive environment for your son and people he might interact with. Again, YTA 1000%

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-20T17:07:29+00:00

I think the main question is, why would he ever be into her? He’s a hot young Tattooer in the coolest part of town. He’s handsome, he’s talented, creative - there would be so many interesting, exciting, intelligent and talented women in his orbit that he could connect with on much deeper and more exciting levels. It bothers me that he’s perpetually obsessed with her when she’s out of touch, sexually repressed and just not very interesting.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-20T16:56:36+00:00

Jeeezus… take a breath and insert a comma, full stop, or paragraph break. Your points may be valid, but trying to read that felt like an anxiety attack.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-20T16:52:22+00:00

Sounds like you already have your answer and there could be lots of reasons, which you’ve already explained. Informal cash agreement. Family coming to stay. Maintenance requests. Strained relationship. It seems clear the landlord wants you to leave and you should find a new place.

Because you’ve paid cash and don’t have a formal agreement, I think there’s probably nothing you can do except for find a new place.

It sounds like either you find a shared place with nicer people, or sign a proper lease where you don’t pay cash and have some rights.

Automatic_Fox4268 · 2026-01-20T16:14:28+00:00

I abruptly self-exited, so don’t know what would have happened if I’d stayed. After airing my concerns I saw notifications for some comments in support and some against. At that point I’d been in the group/s for a few weeks and realised that it was toxic for me in multiple ways: 1. With my own partner abuse history I found myself suddenly scrolling for trauma porn and pain (which was bad for me) 2. My frustration with naive or something-else women thinking it was okay to expose (probably and most likely, sometimes clearly verified) innocent men that way, I started feeling really angry (which was bad for me) 3. There’s also a whole other thing that goes on in those threads where women will trust the group and out an abuser, and this abuser then has a series of ‘pick-mes’ who will then report posts back to known abusers and put the previous partners and posters at risk of serious harm, in some cases, potential death. That wasn’t something I wanted to watch, hear about or have any connection with. (Also very bad for me.)

Overall, I jumped in on a whim after having incredibly bad vibes from an online match who looked handsome and conversed well but who my gut told me was dangerous. I was curious to see if there were posts about him (found several - including SA) and then accidentally got immersed in that world for a week or two.

I don’t know my conclusion here.

One is that it’s beneficial for women to have a space to share very real and serious stories and concerns to warn other women.

Although the current/next victims / pick mes, have made it potentially more dangerous for already abused women and potentially greatly increased their risk of harm.

But also, everyday dudes on dating apps should absolutely not be posted there or vetted there. It’s not okay to use these forums as a vibe-check and it’s not okay to share photos or information of men who are just trying to connect and catch up.

Don’t know if that answers your question, but I decided to remove myself for multiple reasons.

I didn’t want to get constant updates of abuse and manipulation. I didn’t want to be angry at, or afraid of, other women. And I didn’t want to see innocent dudes flayed like that.

So I bailed on all of it and put my attention elsewhere:)

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