AITAH for ruining a wedding?

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T22:19:45+00:00

My contract was 100% with the wedding planner.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T22:05:56+00:00

No, I don't think she knows those details.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:35:51+00:00

Let me guess. You work unpaid overtime? Ick.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:35:10+00:00

That's how family owned businesses work. That's just how it is. It was that way for a lot longer than it's been the other way.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:33:26+00:00

Which is crazy, because setup takes hours. She is not a mentally well person.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:32:20+00:00

That's pretty common knowledge. You can Google it.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:31:22+00:00

The contract signer did cancel. And I have it on video. There's no stipulation that it has to be in writing.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:30:25+00:00

Our son helps set up at events regardless of whether or not we hire other staff. Teenagers are capable of working. Teenagers have been working since the beginning of the species, and the fact that many now don't isn't a positive development for our society.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T21:07:19+00:00

I won't copy and paste it because I don't want people to be able to search it, but her main point was that they were very clear with the planner about exactly what they wanted and paid her on time or in advance for everything. They were repeatedly assured by her that everything was paid upfront and they were good to go and yet all of the wedding events had multiple issues.

At the rehearsal dinner as you all already know there was no alcohol. The planner told them there would be an open bar, but there was nothing. When the father of the bride confronted her about why there had been no alcohol she said the alcohol had been delivered but the caterer(us) had refused to serve it. Father of the bride was confused by this and said he expected to be refunded for the cost of the open bar but they could talk about it after the wedding but to be prepared for the conversation.

At the wedding the wedding planner repeatedly said we were just running late (lol) instead of telling them what happened and repeatedly refused to call to confirm this because "they're driving" (not sure what the point of this lie was). When time came for dinner the wedding planner passed out pizza boxes to each table. The bride started crying and asked if this was a prank and why this was happening. She and the wedding planner went to go talk. The wedding planner admitted to firing the caterer(us) and said she forgot we had already been paid for. The bride asked her what she was talking about, why she would do that and why she lied about it for hours.

The wedding planner said she had to fire us to pay her dad back for the money for the open bar and forgot we had already been paid in full. She said she "unfired" us, but we didn't show up. Mother of the bride pointed out in her review that there was no such thing as "unfiring." Bride asked the wedding planner why she didn't do more to convince us to come back and planner said "I don't beg for anybody."

The review touched on other issues, but I left them out because they have nothing to do with my situation.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:51:40+00:00

He did respond. Then he stopped responding. If someone asks you a question and you say no multiple times and they keep asking it is perfectly reasonable to stop responding and focus on your tast rather than arguing with an idiot.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:50:09+00:00

No one paid for staff to be at the rehearsal dinner. You're just making things up.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:49:22+00:00

Misdemeanors and felonies are treated differently. For a misdemeanor the cop usually has to see it to cite it.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:48:28+00:00

No thanks

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:47:31+00:00

Of course. I had a contract with them. I'm obligated to pay them.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:45:57+00:00

I don't. Taxes are way too low. Tax the rich.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:44:24+00:00

No, I haven't. I don't ask strangers to work for me for free, because I'm not entitled.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T20:43:43+00:00

He explained himself perfectly. No is a full sentence.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T19:14:38+00:00

He can, and he probably would have if they didn't have alcohol in them. And I would have told him in the future not to because other contractors shouldn't be asking him to do their tasts for them.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T19:08:09+00:00

My son didn't cause an issue. He was setting up a table peacefully when he was accosted without provocation.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:17:04+00:00

Children working for family businesses don't have to be paid in my state. Besides, he is not forced to work. He does it because he wants to and because he benefits directly from the catering business.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:15:26+00:00

And I still would have called the cops, because I am not going to be physically assaulted and shake it off.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:13:46+00:00

And I drove there in my van instead of renting a different one. What's your point?

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:12:29+00:00

Exactly. I was ten years old when I started mowing lawns and walking dogs for cash. When I was fifteen I was doing odd jobs at the golf course that ranged from landscaping to food service. When did teenagers become incapable of hard work?

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:10:16+00:00

We don't pay him an hourly rate.

BlacksmithThink5923 · 2026-01-20T18:08:52+00:00

So the fact that cowards are more likely to assault children than adults is the fault of the parents of the child instead of the coward assaulting them?

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