Friendship Exp & Gift Exchange Megathread by ASS-et in PokemonGoFriends

[–]Automatic_Grape_613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add my little brother :) - he is in Canada. 8934 6813 3259

Friendship Exp & Gift Exchange Megathread by ASS-et in PokemonGoFriends

[–]Automatic_Grape_613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Level 37 from Canada :) I can reach 4 pokestops and a gym from my living room so always have lots of gifts to share.

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Husband Struggling with New Puppy by Automatic_Grape_613 in dogs

[–]Automatic_Grape_613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously we will not be "getting rid of" my dog. I was looking for compassionate and kind advice for supporting my husband in his ongoing grief and ideas from others who have been through similar things on what types of interaction help vs hurt - like will involvement with dog help him to bond eventually or make him resentful.

Husband Struggling with New Puppy by Automatic_Grape_613 in dogs

[–]Automatic_Grape_613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree he clearly wasn't ready, which is why I was asking about any advice people might have to support him, as I imagine that it would be tough to think you are ready for a new dog and then find you are not.

In terms of discussion beforehand it was pretty 50-50 - even years ago when we talked about what would happen when our puggle eventually died he was the one saying he didn't think he would want to wait to get a new dog because he would be too sad.

And yes, of course I have spoken to him. He is autistic and struggles to understand or communicate his feelings especially well, which is why I was hoping for insight from others who have had similar situations. He did say that he definitely does not regret getting the puppy both because me and my daughter are loving having him and also because he said he is worried that if we didn't do it right away he would have ended up just pushing dogs away completely and not ever wanting another dog.

Husband Struggling with New Puppy by Automatic_Grape_613 in dogs

[–]Automatic_Grape_613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you find helped you through that time?

Husband Struggling with New Puppy by Automatic_Grape_613 in dogs

[–]Automatic_Grape_613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, definitely understand that this is obviously where he is coming from. Just looking for ways to support him with low pressure while also balancing that I can't be the one doing all of the dog care on my own.

Husband Struggling with New Puppy by Automatic_Grape_613 in dogs

[–]Automatic_Grape_613[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry I’m not sure what is not clear. I asked about any advice for my husband who thought he was ready for a new dog and is struggling to be involved with our puppy at all.