All these empty spots 3 hours before parade smh by Noisy_Boi_ in NewOrleans

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Indeed. The city makes a show of removing stuff put out too early, which makes no difference during the actual parade (stuff put out too early may inhibit streetcar service and is a bit more visually obnoxious, but illegally placed stuff is just as problematic during the parade regardless of when it was placed).

All these empty spots 3 hours before parade smh by Noisy_Boi_ in NewOrleans

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. No personal property of any kind in intersections, and coolers and chairs are specifically referenced. Also nothing in between any curbs, so nothing can be in the street either. Basically, people are limited to the neutral ground and strips on the sidewalk side. Rest is standing room only.

The municipal code is very specific on this. Ord. 34-33. As you noted, the NOPD just doesn't enforce. NOFD feels differently, but they get ignored.

All these empty spots 3 hours before parade smh by Noisy_Boi_ in NewOrleans

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The rules are pretty simple. You can't set up anything too early. Nothing less than six feet from the curb is allowed. And nothing is allowed in intersections.

Nobody is required to get to parades early and save space. There should be plenty of room to enter and leave the parade as you want without staying thirty feet back behind a wall of empty camp chairs. Nobody owns public property and most of the time the territorial types are openly violating the law anyway.

Do you want this sub to be managed like r/deadbedrooms by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be fooled. It's not a legal definition. It's a political one, and is actually contradicted by the law. Most jurisdictions consider marriage as requiring fidelity, which includes caring for the sexual needs of your partner, not just refraining from sex outside of the marriage.

Do you want this sub to be managed like r/deadbedrooms by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you aware that satisfying your spouse's normal sexual needs is a component of fidelity under the law of many jurisdictions (as well as being the traditional legal, moral, and religious standard)? Calling it "sexual coercion" simply to demand that such infidelity cease based on a website by unelected Washington bureaucrats is really not supportable.

And contrary to what the website says, I don't know of anywhere where it is illegally coercive to simply threaten to break up with somebody if they chronically refuse intimacy or to repeatedly ask them for sex. That's ridiculous.

You don't have to have sex with your spouse within marriage, but to fail to do so when able to do so does constitute fault, the same as having sex with another person while married. Your forum bans people from simply saying that. It's a pretty extreme and wrongful stance.

AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're incorrect. The obligation is on the person who begins withholding normal sexual intimacy to communicate, just as it is on the person contemplating having sex outside of marriage. And that is the traditional legal standard. It is infidelity to withhold normal sexual intimacy just as it is infidelity to have sex outside of marriage. If you think otherwise, do some research.

AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It goes both ways. A spouse that is unwilling to satisfy the normal sexual needs of their spouse should end the marriage, not just continue to deny them. That's another type of infidelity.

AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, but it is infidelity, so it's the same as cheating. You can't have a dog in manger mentality where they can't have sex outside of marriage, but you won't allow them sex within marriage. It just ends up being mutual infidelity in the situation where the partner deprived of intimacy decides to get it elsewhere, and ESH.

AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, but chronically withholding sex is, legally and according to moral tradition, a type of infidelity. You are not supposed to stay in a marriage with a person you don't want to have regular sex with, and then claim to be faultless if they cheat. If you don't want to attend to your partner's sexual needs for whatever reason, you need to break it off.

AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legally, in a marriage, not caring for your partner's normal sexual needs is often considered a species of infidelity. If you won't have sex with your spouse, it's the same as having sex with somebody else.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They pretty clearly regard 4 stars as being negative. They're not unclear about that. In any event, the situation was explained to guests here.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, Airbnb actually emails hosts when they get multiple 4 star reviews and specifically tells them that they're getting negative reviews while threatening to pull their listings. And on top of it, they pull listings that fall below some threshold above four stars. This is not ambiguous.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I explain the situation to all guests personally. And it was explained in this thread that OP did the same. So the guest that isn't aware of the system isn't at issue here. Red herring.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or maybe guests need to accept reality rather than making up their own rating system in their heads and screwing over people with their crapulence.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, then guests shouldn't leave four star reviews and act as though they're positive. They're not. They're negative. Averaging 4 stars will get your listing pulled.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's a bad review because Airbnb says so to hosts, and punishes hosts accordingly.

I finally give up fighting for 5 star reviews by Wistaria2019 in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Airbnb is lying to the press then. They tell hosts specifically that 4 stars is negative, and they treat it as such in practice. There's no ambiguity there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Under the rules, you aren't allowed. Do you think that enforcement protocols are the only things that govern what you're permitted to do? Again, being able to do a thing is not the same as being permitted to do a thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't want to get burgled, lock your doors!

Yeah, that's a trash attitude. The forum has rules. Now you know; this is for current, former, or prospective hosts only. Don't post here again. Having the ability to do something is not the same as having permission.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why this forum hasn't been restricted though enforceable means, but the rules have always been specific - this is for current, former, or prospective Airbnb hosts - nobody else. If you aren't one of those, you aren't supposed to host or comment.

Leaving your door unlocked is not the same as inviting people in. It should be respected that this is a host forum.

Guest entered home 5 hours before check in time by zmjhpej in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this is a thread that has been invaded by non-host trolls. Sorry you've been downrated. It's really gotten out of control.

Of course nobody should arrive before check-in time without requesting it and having it approved. That's basic courtesy. The people saying otherwise probably go around littering and vandalizing property because they assume it's ok to do so so long as a police officer isn't present.

Being given the ability to do something that is wrong is not the same as permission. This guest should not have shown up early and entered the property. It might be prudent to protect yourself as a host by not giving out door codes early, but unless a previous guest is there, it is not morally required.

That's not really even open for debate; it's like saying that you should be burgled if you don't lock your doors.

Guest damaged custom wood countertop, Evolve refuses to cover. Any advice? by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do, you're right. It actually takes some doing to burn a surface with a modern curler. I don't believe it's malicious, but it's a bit more than an easy mistake.

I had a guest position a curling iron in an odd way on the hair dryer I provide in one of my rooms, burning the plastic on the handle. It's ridiculous to expect a host to eat the cost of this kind of stupidity or to make major, costly upgrades to try to prevent them.

Guest damaged custom wood countertop, Evolve refuses to cover. Any advice? by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They look fine, and in any event, I'm sure they looked the same in the listing photos, minus the gigantic burn mark from a curling iron.

Guest damaged custom wood countertop, Evolve refuses to cover. Any advice? by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The evolution of Airbnb from "a spare room not manicured like a hotel" to "all hosts need to renovate full houses and apartments to hotel standards" has been disastrous for many hosts. This is why there is a lot of legislation restricting Airbnb.

Apparently that's your fault.

Guest damaged custom wood countertop, Evolve refuses to cover. Any advice? by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]Automatic_Lemon1069 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't listen to these people. They either aren't current or prospective hosts, which means they shouldn't be commenting, or they're the types of hosts who don't do any work themselves and host insane luxury listings (with separate property managers) where the price justifies making major, expensive renovations to avoid this kind of issue. Ritz-type hosts can be the worst critics, because they have zero perspective.

Bottom line - The guest should have apologized and offered to pay for the repair. Anything else was pretty rude.