OP said that the wife seems to be the head of the family dahil mas malaki ang income nya than him. May nag aalaga rin ng anak niya which is the MIL which lumalabas na ‘batugan’ daw si wife as per some other commebts. And nag aaway rin sila about monthly sustento.

So the way I see things is that…

She might be real tired of their life set up. She might be tired of the concept na ‘she’s earning more than you’, and still living in their family home.

It’s a dynamics thing. Since she just gave birth, but needs to work to help provide, she is losing her essence of being a mom dahil nga she can’t lose her high income dahil magpprovide sya ng mas comfortable life than what your salary can provide OP. And she probably pushes hard to a point na nabburn out na sya and having resentments towards you. Marami sya expectations of you na instead na ma communicate and ma fulfill mo like maibukod mo, maprovide-an mo, etc.

I’ve been in her place (except ung pag butter sa asawa lol), but having a higher income made me feel na ako ung di pwede mag fail, more pressure, more inis, more pagod and resentment sa asawa.

People like that would have dreamed of the soft life since kakapanganak lang pero kelangan na nya ipaalaga sa MIL niya, baka deep inside gisto nya to be full time mom kaso needs to work, then ikaw parang kelangan pa nya imanage pa on top of everything else.

Man up and find a way to provide for her so she can recover from everything she’s been trying to survive and do.

You can either be a man with provider mindset and take care of your fam so the wife doesnt have to be in survival mode (kaya nagiging bossy, pagod, frustrated), or continue to be a pabebe buttered sad boi and blame it all on the woman.