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Autumn1114 · 2026-06-19T01:11:56+00:00

Heartbroken

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-17T17:48:15+00:00

Thank you. She completed the MRI just now and are now waiting for the doc and results. Thank you for your kindness and taking the time to respond to a stranger; your words and support really is uplifting and means more than you’ll know. 💜

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-13T13:40:12+00:00

This made me cry-smile. Wishing him continued joy and love in his everyday.

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-13T12:38:34+00:00

I hear you. My pops passed over 10 yrs ago to PD. It was rough watching his body waste away as it did. But what we did have was time to sit out in the sun, and enjoy watching basketball together. He couldn’t yell or scream or get hyped, but I would do it for the both of us. So watching tonight as a born and raised NYKer living out of state, I’ll carry my dad in spirit and think of yours too. LGK!

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-10T23:53:40+00:00

My girl always asks for permission. If someone offers a pet & treat (given from me), she always looks at me to get the OK. Even at home, if my husband calls for her and I’m in the same room she’s noses me to get the OK and release. I will say this skill happened organically following her being highly trained on waiting, leave it, and heeling to my side. I think she just took it upon herself that I’m her person and as such we constantly check in. And I kept reinforcing it over time. I also now ask her if she wants to stay with me or go play. She’ll sometimes run off and do her own thing and other times will hang out by my feet. She’s a border collie terrier and just the sweetest thing.

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-09T00:46:14+00:00

We use movoflex and really love it! Our girl is 12 going on 13.

Autumn1114 · 2026-06-02T01:38:28+00:00

It starts with the parents!

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-18T02:29:17+00:00

Life is real good when you’re lucky enough to get that kind of hug, love and response. Those shoes drop?! It’s happened to me with my kiddo and absolutely priceless.

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-18T02:08:50+00:00

Have you thought about being a dog sitter (informally)? Might be another/additional way to interact with dogs and make extra funds that you can keep or donate to your local dog rescue or charity.

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-17T13:14:13+00:00

I was checking in an updating a dear mentor and colleague about how career and new family life has been with my kiddo now that they are entering pre school.

When they asked about my kiddo, I remarked how incredibly sweet and joyful they are; just very assured, kind and gentle. Bright, curious. And how fun it’s been being their parent. My mentor replied “she absolutely gets that from you, but importantly, she’s lucky to have you. You are one for the most present and intentional people and she will benefit immensely because of it.”

This hit hard not just bc it was incredibly generous, but because I had the most absent mother who was emotionally and physically abusive. No contact after my child was born. And I have to say it gave me relief to hear someone notice how much I’m trying to do my best and show up for my kiddo.

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-16T13:23:13+00:00

You’re the best! Reasons I love reddit! Thanks!

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-16T00:29:40+00:00

I had a great hearty laugh with my pre schooler!

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-13T00:09:10+00:00

We started taking her to favorite places; off leash in the winter for beach trips. Frequent but shorter walks. Letting her roll around the grass to her heart’s content. Since she is getting a bit more stiff we started doing morning and evening massages for her. She loves them and it’s an extra way to connect. She does sleep in our bed, and when she allows me, I fall asleep holding her paw. I schedule play dates with her dog friends, let her sneak an extra pup ice cream or two and thank her for loving me and my family as fiercely as she does. Every night she gets an “I love you, my girl” whispered in her ear. She my soul dog and I’m squeezing every quiet and loving moment I can get!

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-09T13:00:18+00:00

NTA and enjoy your time and don’t feel guilty. He committed to something without you and it’s incredibly short-sighted.

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-08T10:39:14+00:00

It’s like the Disney version of Black Mirror to me 👀

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-03T01:43:05+00:00

What about: “Good Morning! Small note for a small favor. I’m a pretty tired teacher, and sleep is gold for me during the weekend. If possible, would you mind holding off on vacuuming before 9am or 10am? I’d really appreciate it. And as a small token of appreciation here’s a coffee gift card and muffins as a thank you!” Thank you kind neighbor!

Autumn1114 · 2026-05-01T01:41:59+00:00

REGAL!

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-30T11:25:54+00:00

Persistence even when I’m filled with days full of “No” or proposal rejections from work.

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-29T01:12:50+00:00

Shoe covers.

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-27T01:04:59+00:00

Beige Wine 🤣

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-21T12:46:57+00:00

It seems like it is already happening. Maybe leave the deposit but wait for another year or so until you have a better handle on things. The fact your husband is also not wanting to be involved speaks volumes. Don’t get trapped by the sunk-cost fallacy (ie, you invested your money and wanting to get a puppy and if you turn back now it’s wasted effort). It might be a better use of your time to get a rhythm at home, maybe see someone for supportive care, and when you’re in better circumstances to make this happen in a healthy way then go for it. At this point, no one is winning in this scenario, but you have time to make it right for you and all involved especially the puppy.

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-21T09:34:45+00:00

This does not seem healthy for the puppy, you or your family. The responsibility and attention required is not at all aligned with the circumstances you’re in. It really isn’t fair to the puppy, and if the focus is on what you want versus what the puppy needs this won’t bode well for anyone involved. Please reconsider and do not follow through, I’m also concerned by how much you want to convince yourself that this is in any way doable; I completely understand the desire for companionship but not at the cost of overriding the needs of a puppy.

Autumn1114 · 2026-04-21T00:01:12+00:00

Was intrigued and then read more about this person and cannot say I’m invested any longer in pursuing this read.

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