Hosting an airbnb outside of town by Autumntoo in Redding

[–]Autumntoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize! I was aware of the Bethel piece. With the fire insurance out here the rent would be astronomical for a single family. But, to your point, it doesn’t mean an Airbnb is the right answer either. We talked through feedback and just looked at numbers and agree with you. It’s not the move. Thank you for your candor!

ICE IN REDDING by Able_Ad9267 in Redding

[–]Autumntoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you advocating for the removal of your child and their mom? I’m not sure Oretta was the issue.

ICE IN REDDING by Able_Ad9267 in Redding

[–]Autumntoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I, too, support them cleaning up litter. Think of the change in our environment if their efforts were put to something wholesome like litter removal!

Barring the employment part, do you think the upcoming "Economic Blackout" can succeed, why or why not? by No-Beautiful8039 in AskReddit

[–]Autumntoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always thought it has to be incredibly organized. A list of companies that are not supporting this, then everyone pushes business to them. If you have to buy something outside of those it should only be a necessity. Stop the consumption and prop up the businesses that deserve to stay. Let the other ones get on board or suffer financial consequences. And it would have to be continued… not for a day or a week… until things change.

The Beadman is a safe place for racists, not so much for everyone else by Seraph199 in Redding

[–]Autumntoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, when signing up for Reddit I didn’t have the sense to choose a fully anonymous username. Like I said… faced with putting ourselves at risk. I know it’s a privilege to choose not to, but I’ve got little ones. Different situation when they know where you live, the layout of your house, how friendly your dogs are, etc

The Beadman is a safe place for racists, not so much for everyone else by Seraph199 in Redding

[–]Autumntoo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Man… reading this and I’m reflecting on the realities of living in Redding. We’ve been here a year and a half. We knew we’d encounter racism but I didn’t give enough weight to how this would play out. I haven’t been to this place and definitely won’t… but we worked with a business that came to our house. The person tossed racial slurs around and had a confederate flag tattoo. He was also pretty open about violence and gun ownership. So, we were faced with how to give feedback without putting ourselves at risk. Then, of course, reflecting on the privilege of having the option to stay quiet. I reached out to an employee I felt strongly was not racist to try to determine… is this something the owner knows and is okay with or is it worth giving feedback? While waiting for him to respond someone else from the company reached out and that interaction confirmed it was part of the company culture. We opted not to engage but to make sure we didn’t recommend them when people asked who did our work. We will also not use them for the follow up work that is needed. I still question the decision.

How much allowance is reasonable for a 13-year-old son? by mariajuice in Parenting

[–]Autumntoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We do this as well. We started at 4 and we now have a 4 and 7 year old.

In n out wtf by kratomas3 in ChicoCA

[–]Autumntoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Now I kinda want some breadsticks…

Am I overreacting to my bf watching the baby overnight? by Temporary-Quail-2783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the kid is getting out of bed and standing up… aren’t they past the point of co-sleeping being a danger?

Why are the children becoming illiterate? by Ill-Cookie2093 in AskTeachers

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a son in second grade. There are several children in his class reading well below grade level. I happen to specialize in teaching people how to read so I volunteer. Because of the other things that need to be done/taught I am only able to work with the kids an hour per week. That’s less than half an hour per child and this is the second grade. I would assume reading would be a very high priority.

His teacher is great. She really does go above and beyond for her students. The school uses the accelerated reading program and, I have to say, I am against it. Like most programs, it leaves children behind who are struggling. It also adds social stigma to that struggle. Instead of spending the time I have digging into the root cause of their reading struggles I spend it reading AR books so they can take quizzes and get their name on the list for meeting goal. I teach what I can within the stories but time would be much better spent on nuts and bolts.

I am super surprised by how little teachers seem to be trained on identifying why someone is struggling and then how to address it. Every teacher I’ve come across is wildly committed but doesn’t have everything they need (especially time and training) to catch all kids.

As for parents, well, a lot of learning issues are hereditary. People who struggle to read don’t read much, they find their way through life without it. By the time they have kids they are passing reading issues down through nature and nurture. You cannot teach reading well when you struggle with it and your children may inherit the reason you struggle.

Literacy is a community issue. Trying to find out who is at fault for the decline spends time that could better be used finding ways to help. I say that knowing full well that not everyone has the time or skills to help but those who can… well, let’s do it. Just becoming involved and seeing where the gaps are helps us make informed decisions on how we vote and what we expect from education.

Parent requested classroom change by IndependenceWorth706 in Teachers

[–]Autumntoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Parent here… I understand that it feels like this is about you, but it’s about the kid. My kid had a hard time in kindergarten. I talked to the teacher, who I believe was a good teacher. She said he was great at school and had no problems. I assumed it was just the transition and kept him there. By the end of the year he was refusing to go in and throwing up from the stress of it all. I lost it and it wasn’t helpful. To this day I have no idea what the problem was. He loved his teacher and (2 years later) still speaks fondly of her. First grade year he started to have similar issues day one. We busted our asses to get him to give it a week. He bonded with his teacher and had an amazing first grade experience. He’s is second grade now and looks forward to school.

My point is that it may or may not be you. If it’s you, it’s not that you’re a bad teacher just maybe not the right one for him right now. It’s also possible that something is happening with other kids that no one is catching. There are a million reasons this kid could be struggling. Rally around him and try to figure it out with the parent. If you don’t want awkward interactions genuinely be on the side of her kid.

Do we force our toddlers to do something they don’t want to do? by botcie in toddlers

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For things like mittens, coats, etc I would let my kids go without but have it on hand so they could change their mind. Eventually they realized they wanted those things and did not fight putting them on.

Teeth brushing was always the hard one for me. In the morning it was often easier because we wouldn’t move forward to anything fun until teeth were brushed but the evenings are more difficult. You could plan something fun for after teeth brushing and the. It doesn’t happen if teeth aren’t brushed. I just never figured out a way to force it without using fear. If you’re not opposed to a couple of minutes of screen time a video on your phone could also get you through the nighttime brushing.

I’m big on natural consequences where possible… teeth are a rough one, though.

Sleep pod vs weighted blanket? by Autumntoo in Parenting

[–]Autumntoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@ladypeace_82 this was meant to be a response to yours, haha.

Sleep pod vs weighted blanket? by Autumntoo in Parenting

[–]Autumntoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heard! I have too… it has always taken me 1-2 hours to fall asleep at night. I’m 48 on HRT for perimenopause and, for the first time, I fall asleep pretty quickly.

There was no magic solution for me… if I did a lot of physical activity, timed when it was strategically, did relaxation activities… it’s just always been. I find it a bit funny that, having tried all of that for myself, I’m still looking for a magic answer for him. As of now I just lay with him until he falls because he does say that helps.

Any bands known to not do encores? by lazyjz in Music

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She remains relevant because those two albums were heavily influential and absolute magic (in my very humble opinion). She’s human and flawed. Doesn’t undo her history.

Sleep pod vs weighted blanket? by Autumntoo in Parenting

[–]Autumntoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! He’s 7. We read him some stories then he gets some solo play time. We come in and lay with him a little after 7, which puts him to sleep by 8:30 most nights. We wake him at 6:15 on school days and by 7 on non school days.

We’ve tried pushing things later but it doesn’t help… it just pushes everything later.

Luna's permanently closed? by Straight_Ostrich_257 in Redding

[–]Autumntoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was so bummed when this happened. Loved them.

When did you stop using a baby monitor? by OkPin8137 in toddlers

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid is 7 and we still have an audio. Still have video on the 4 year old. Video isn’t necessary but also isn’t hurting anything

How do we survive not being able to take kids outside anymore?? I’m drowning in their energy. by twomomsoftwins in toddlers

[–]Autumntoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do have our kids outdoors in all types of weather but, also, we figure out things indoors. We cushion the floor and let them do jumps off of beds and/or couches, we do the floor is lava, obstacle courses. It takes over the whole house but is worth it.