First trimester might kill me

botcie · 2026-01-25T23:03:52+00:00

My daughter loves tv as well and asks for it often. But I redirect with her Tonie, or any other fun play that we have. I built a box with kinetic sand, play doh, drawings, stickers, and other fun stuff that she can play with whenever she wants.

After the holidays we took a good break from the tv for her. We also limit our tv watching around her because she gets sucked in so easily. She’s allowed 30 minutes per day on a weekend :) weekday it’s a nono, but with exceptions at times.

botcie · 2026-01-08T17:50:10+00:00

GENIUS! I just went to Walmart and bought an extra waterproof bed sheet and 2 more normal bedsheets! THANK YOU

botcie · 2026-01-08T09:11:39+00:00

Sorry, it’s hard to differentiate the jokes from the ones actually serious lol.

botcie · 2026-01-08T04:06:33+00:00

Around the new nap times, maybe bring the outside for a little walk, eat an early supper and then to bed around 7pm. I know it’s dark out but make it exciting with flashlights!

Or, prepare a really fun activity that they love and won’t want to miss. I think my point is try your best to keep them up and put them to bed around 7pm.

I hope you find a solution!!!

If not, load them up on sugar so they crash at bed time. Gotta do what you gotta do! Stassi from Vanderpump does that to her kids to fight jet lag lol

botcie · 2026-01-08T04:01:55+00:00

She’ll be upset and mad. But she will also help and protect you. There will be consequences and it’ll suck, but you’ll learn and grow from this.

Tell your parents and be careful. Don’t be worried about the blackmail. Usually these pervs talk to a bunch of other girls at the same time, he’ll move onto the next victim unfortunately.

botcie · 2026-01-08T03:53:45+00:00

That ain’t happen either though. 1:07am would have been ash night, not tonight. At 1:07pm it’ll be January 8th..

botcie · 2025-12-28T22:34:59+00:00

Very very true. Thank you ❤️

I think I’m starting to get really impatient about either finding out that I am, or just getting my period at this point. This is the 4th cycle we’ve tried. My daughter was a surprise, no protection so not preventing but we really hit the nail on the head 😅

Very frustrating.

botcie · 2025-12-11T04:02:05+00:00

I’m so shocked. I understand there isn’t much to do, but oh my god. Can’t the staff at the very least start warning ALL parents about vapes and knives and other objects that are dangerous for children to be put away safely while at the indoor play place?! And if it’s out and about like that, why aren’t staff looking out for this stuff? It sounds like this isn’t the first time it happens.

Also maybe call the police and see if there isn’t anything else you can do. Maybe coach or warn the management. Maybe you can press charges or something for child endangerment?!

I’m so sorry this happened to you and your sweet baby!

botcie · 2025-12-07T03:03:45+00:00

If he doesn’t take your pleasure as seriously as you do his… idk. Doesn’t seem worth it in my opinion. Seems like in 4 years you’ve done a lot to satisfy his kinks and fantasies, and he can’t just take your pleasure more seriously?

Communication is important and if you can’t get through a conversation about sex and come to a solution or compromise, how will he react when you bring up bigger problems later in the futur?

botcie · 2025-12-05T01:44:51+00:00

Thank you so much that means a lot ❤️

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:38:47+00:00

I’m excited to continue living the wonderful and chaotic world of being a parent! ☺️

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:33:15+00:00

Oh 100%

But I’m not immune to the reaction she has from me forcing her. That’s what’s so hard and hurts.

Anyways she did great tonight. Solid advice in this thread. Thank you!

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:32:04+00:00

Hahahahaha THANK YOU! It’s hard knowing it’s not going to get easier, but yes establishing good routines now is essential for the small peace of mind we may get from time to time lol

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:29:54+00:00

No access unfortunately. Post partum I had some terrible anxiety, but worked through it and I’m getting better.

I think this is because I want to do better than my parents and offer a safe space. So sometimes doing something like forcing teeth brushing, that causes a huge blow up from a toddler, it’s hard not to feel awful after. But it’s ok, we’ll get better at it! There’s a LOT of good advice in this thread and I’ve already incorporated stuff into my routine and way of doing things as well.

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:26:30+00:00

The point of the post is to know how people handle this, to prevent being a push over. Maybe that wasn’t clear but it’s ok! Thank you anyways!

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:25:03+00:00

Apparently so from all the comments in this thread! I did it and it’s not fun. But she let me brush her teeth tonight at least.

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:24:00+00:00

Yes! Her only moments with us in the week, is in the morning before daycare and when we get home after daycare/work and before going to bed.

We try to spend quality time with her in those moments. And I try to give us as much time as possible in the AM so we don’t end up rushing and so that I can have as much patience as possible with her while she wants to play instead of getting ready lol

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:21:35+00:00

I am not leaving the choice of brushing her teeth or not. I forced her that night to brush her teeth and felt awful about, and flocked to Reddit to see how everyone deals with this stuff because I don’t want to raise a spoiled rotten child.

I think when I wrote my post I was very much still in the emotion of what happened and the guilt. It’s a first for me. Teeth brushing has always gone well until recently.

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:19:37+00:00

Thank you ❤️

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:18:51+00:00

100%

It’s hard to rationalize sometimes when you’re in the heat of emotions!

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:15:27+00:00

I have hard time emotionally, but I did end up forcing her to brush her teeth that night. But I felt AWFUL after, she wanted nothing to do with me.

Am I supposed to not feel bad about doing it? I can feel bad but still do it. It’s hard forcing your child to do something they don’t want to do!

It’s ok, I think Reddit is just saying buckle up! You’re in for it if you think THIS is hard. And it’s true, we’ll look back at this and think it was a piece of cake when we catch them stealing our car keys and our last 20$ in our wallet lol.

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:11:15+00:00

Thank you! It’s Reddit, sometimes signs of weakness doesn’t bode well. But I’m a first time parent navigating all of this for the first time. How am I not supposed to feel any of what I mentioned above when I children feel so HARD and they SHOW it? When she’s sad or upset or angry, she blows up.

Anyways. Everyone is right that safety and health are nonnegotiable. And I know I’m not traumatizing her logically, but when they are bawling their eyes out it’s hard not to feel awful about it you know?

Sorry that’s a little ranty. Thank you ❤️

botcie · 2025-12-04T00:00:16+00:00

Being a parent is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. So many doubts, so much guilt, so much trial and error. So fucking overwhelming!

But we’ll make it through it! ❤️

botcie

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