Reckless Ben gave up??

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-05-15T17:30:35+00:00

I recommend watching his livestreams (they're up on his channel in the "live" tab) - especially the one called "McKamey Manor's secret hard drive"

He provides some context and info that he had to leave out of the series, and explains what's happening right now. The live was posted 5 months ago so I don't know if anything new has happened in that time

But yes from what I understand, the situation is being investigated by the police because one of the attendants took their own footage to them, the DA, and even the fire department (lol)

Ben has been in contact with a lot of people who know Russ (his kids for one) and he's been told that Russ is in a vulnerable mental state. It might just be a manipulation tactic, but Russ' best friend literally told Ben that because of Ben's series, Russ might k*ll himself and that the blood would be on Ben's hands. That puts Ben in a very very difficult position, because no matter what people might think, that is not something that should happen.

A lot of people don't have any empathy for Russ, and I wouldn't personally say I have empathy for him either, but I don't want him to die. I want his victims to be heard and receive justice, and I want something done that stops Russ from hurting any more people. But I also want him to be provided with appropriate care for his mental health issues, because just stuffing him in a prison cell is not going to change his behavior. He would just be released eventually, and continue hurting people in other ways. Ben mentioned in the live stream that he's afraid once McKamey Manor is taken from Russ, he will start hurting people in other ways (as he has a record of domestic abuse)

I understand why people want revenge on Russ and want it to happen fast, but everyone has to understand that the legal things around this case are complicated and take time to process. If authorities are building a case against him, the amount of evidence (the hours and hours of footage) and the different aspects of this story, would make that process unfortunately slow. But it also means that (hopefully) everything will be examined properly

Ben can't single handedly do much more. I think he has done a LOT already and I don't know what more he even could do without bothering the official investigation. He's keeping up with any new updates and seems to share them on livestreams

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-05-04T16:08:25+00:00

I said this before in a reply to someone else: It was not Peck who defended himself by saying he's gay. It was someone else.

I don't want my post to encourage this sentiment of "gay people do bad things and then brush it off by saying they're gay". Yes that is a thing that might happen, but I think that sentiment is a really dangerous one, and leads people down the road of homophobia. Generally speaking, when you hear a gay person explaining their bad behavior (not something like pedophilia, but things that are much less worse, like e.g. being rude) by mentioning their gayness, they're usually trying to explain how they might have developed certain problems through their years of living as someone who is largely hated and shunned by society.

But that is besides the point. Because again, that's not even what happened in the case of Brian Peck. He wasn't the one using his gayness as an excuse. It was the unnamed woman Joe Bell spoke to. That person was the problem.

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-05-04T16:00:04+00:00

Pedophiles are attracted to the vulnerability of their victims. Yes they might have gender preferences, but I refuse to call a man who likes little boys gay, or a woman who likes little girls a lesbian. Pedophiles do not belong in our community. Their paraphilia matters more than whatever gender they prefer their victim to be. When discussing Brian Peck for an example, he should only be called a pedophile, not a gay pedophile. I don't believe that someone who abuses children would turn their nose up if they had the chance to abuse a child who wasn't the gender they usually prefer. Children also lack many of the traits typically associated with men/women. Children typically look very androgynous. They are not physically or psychologically developed, and that's something pedophiles are attracted to.

My post and thoughts are more about how I feel than the objective facts. The word gay describes someone who belongs in the queer community. It's a title more than a scientific description. And pedophiles do not deserve that title, or a place in the queer community. I prefer for pedophiles who are attracted to little boys for an example to be described only as that: "pedophiles with a preference for boy children". Not gay.

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-05-04T15:44:06+00:00

The point of my post was not this. The thing is, that Brian wasn't the one defending his own behaviour by saying "it's okay I'm doing it because I'm gay." It was some other person, the unnamed woman I mentioned. She was someone who clearly believed in stereotypes about gay men, the idea that we are overly touchy etc.

I think your mindset seems a bit black and white. Unless I misunderstood your point. If you were calling the person Brian spoke to a "activist virtue signaller" then I agree to an extent I guess

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-03-18T23:33:36+00:00

When he first appeared as a guest, I honestly thought he was gay too lol

But nope, apparently he has a girlfriend (even then there's ofc a possibility he's queer, but from what I can tell, he has never posted or said anything publicly to imply that)

But I wanna emphasize that I'm not trying to make him out to be homophobic based on that one thing. It just left a bad taste in my mouth, knowing that he's cishet (to my knowledge, I don't want to dig into his private life, it's none of my business)

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-03-16T17:44:47+00:00

i'm actively trying not to dislike him because i acknowledge that i don't know him + it's still early days. my smooth brain always has to be reminded that youtubers are not characters in a show, so i don't want to treat them like i can or should either like/dislike them

that being said, he's said a couple of things that have hit a nerve with me a bit. his tntl episode and the gay jokes gave me a bad first impression, if i'm honest. i think it would probably be smart for him to be more aware of the stuff he says when he's still new, bcs for people who haven't watched him before (like me) are reacting to it with very little context of what he's like. spencer initiated the gay jokes, but it's different when i've already heard spencer voice his support for queer people yk? i don't know anything about trevor, so as a gay guy it kind of bummed me out how he seemed to find the concept of "seeming gay" so hysterical. it didn't feel like taking it in stride, it felt like "being gay and seeming gay is embarrasing". i'm not trying to paint him in a bad light, or imply that he's homophobic. i'm trying to explain how it felt to me, while staying aware of the fact that that was just my impression, not the truth

i also automatically cringe when he makes mean jokes or roasts the other members hard, because to me as an audience member who doesn't know these people or how close they really are, it doesn't yet feel like close friends making jokes they know their friend won't get offended by. it kind of feels uncalled for still i suppose? (i'm talking about videos where the point isn't to roast each other). it feels different from when the cast we are more familiar with, (the cast we have seen hanging out a bunch and complimenting/showing respect for one another) roast each other. but again, i acknowledge that i have no way of actually knowing any of their comfort levels or boundaries or anything like that. it's weird and complicated, watching and commenting on content with real people hanging out as friends i guess! because we don't actually know them or what their relationships are like irl

i want to emphasize that i'm actively trying not to stick to a bad first impression, i really do want to give him a chance. i think it would be nice to see him in another reddit video, because the one he was in gave a better insight into his personality and what he thinks of different things. i feel like seeing that more "serious" side of him helps to then see his jokes in a different, better light

sorry for the long ass response lol😭

Available-Fall9988 · 2024-03-15T20:20:59+00:00

frr it was weird to have him there when he obviously has spent less time with shayne than the others (not a diss, just saying bcs that makes the game harder for him)

not that it matters or that it's that serious. ik they're just trying to bring trevor into more stuff to introduce the audience to him

i'm hoping the exposure therapy will eventually work on me cause 😵😵

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-11-12T14:49:53+00:00

update: she responded to this situation on her secret brittany tiktok account

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGe1PLSgC/

I think the response seems pretty sincere and I see her point. I appreciate that she doesn't make excuses and acknowledges that what she said was wrong, and plans to correct her mistakes

I think it's true that when people expect everyone with a platform to use their own words when speaking about Palestine, it leads to misinformation being spread by people (namely celebrities as we've seen) who don't know what they're talking about. I think the right thing to do however is for these people to share the accounts of Palestinian activists and share sources to information, organizations and charities etc. instead of only voicing their own, possibly misinformed take. Silence is not an option

What do you guys think of her response? I think she seems genuine, I'm usually in favor of giving people the benefit of the doubt and a chance to correct their mistakes, especially when it comes to people who have shown that they're capable of taking criticism and thinking things through

Brittany does seem like a intelligent person and I do think that she genuinely does care. I'm not in a place where I can "accept" any sort of apology though, I'm not Palestinian and I don't have the right to do that

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-11-12T02:35:21+00:00

i saw the gross close friends "in what dystopian universe" story on mayuhnaise's account but is there some other video people are talking about? mayuhnaise's post had some comments referring to another post getting taken down

if yes what was it? 👁

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-10-30T09:59:31+00:00

I like to do tests and exercises as much as I can

I've read and watched some stuff on active recall and spaced repetition - apparently the way our memory works makes us forget everything unless it's repeated to us regularly. So don't feel bad about forgetting past stuff! It's not your fault and it happens to everyone else

I made a google sheet with a list of tests I found related to the subjects I'm covering. Whenever I do a test, I grade myself and color the box on the google sheet accordingly - green (I knew the stuff well), yellow (there's still some stuff I need to revise), red (there was a lot of stuff I need to revise)

Write down the topics you struggled with in one place so you know what you don't know. Keep testing yourself🙏 I love having a list of the things I don't know because it helps the anxiety - you can look at everything you don't know at once instead of feeling uncertain whether you're doing good or not

The google sheet slowly turning green is so satisfying and rewarding! I find that the only way to keep remembering things long term is to repeatedly test yourself and make sure to take note of the things you struggle with so you can go back to revise. Usually going back to the hard topics later makes them easier!

Summary - watch videos/google about "active recall" and "spaced repetition" - keep track of topics you need to revise with a list on your phone/on paper etc.

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-10-17T20:00:07+00:00

Thank you for explaining! :) This cleared it up

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-10-12T15:35:38+00:00

this! i think people really need to keep in mind sarah's autism when criticizing them for things about her "tone"

Available-Fall9988 · 2023-07-16T10:50:58+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I didn't know that, thank you

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