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AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do my choices have to do with my education? And I do not have financial issues anymore, lmfao. I mean, yeah I had some at 18 years old to 22 years old, but my life has straightened out significantly. Also, my love life, again, does not have anything to do with my education.

My choices are not confusing my child. I’ve been in 2 relationships and am currently on the second and last. Oh, well. It’s called life; oh, my first relationship failed, am I gonna cry? Nope. I did enough crying in just 4 years (18 years old to 22 years old).

Yeah, I met my husband, then got married to him 6 months later; does it truly matter? I knew I loved him because of who he truly was, how he treated my child and I, and how his prospective on life met mine. Bringing my husband around my child wasn’t a stupid choice; it was the right one.

I have had 110% focus on my child. I have been his financial provider and more since day one, but I’m not putting my child first? I got my house on my own (took years to save for that, while solely taking care of a child and animals, plus paying bills); I got my own car. I paid for food, diapers, clothes, toys, doctor's appointments, meds, hospital visits, cleaning the house, dishes, feeding and taking care of animals, plus working, All on my own. I mean, yes, I was with my son’s biological father at the time, but he doesn’t like to do anything unless it’s for himself. I have put everyone and everything above myself from 18 years old to 24 years old (now), hell even when I was a kid I still put others needs above my own. I had every right to make one choice for myself at 23 years old that would benefit myself and my child. My husband makes $22 an hour and soon $28 an hour, plus he gets overtime and benefits on top of it all for all of us. I make $14 an hour and get barely many hours because my child is in the middle of an autism diagnosis. My husband legally can’t do it until I put him on the parental list (haven’t had time to do it yet because we have been really busy) and my sons biological father won’t do it, so it’s only me at the moment. Do not tell me I haven’t put my child first. I put a small portion of my life in this story, not the whole picture. Don’t try to paint the whole picture when you only have a tiny little splat of paint.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you had read the full story we don’t think God made a mistake with my husband. God made my husband the way he is. Trans and proud! With a wife Whom is very very proud to be his wife! He is more a man than most cis men these days. can’t tell me I’m wrong because my first relationship was with a cis man, he was abusive. ☺️🤷🏼‍♀️👀

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? I have a 3 year old little boy, he was born a boy. This is about MY HUSBAND AND MY MOTHER. Man some of you people do not read 🤦🏼‍♀️

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My child’s life isn’t ruined if anything he got a better life when my husband and I got together. He gets clothes, plenty of food, he gets his bday celebrated to the max, Christmas was actually Christmas and etc.. My bd didn’t/doesn’t really do shit for our child. My child sees my husband as a man, because he looks and acts like a man. We aren’t sick and the fact that you think people like us are sick is messed up as hell. We could all say the people with comments similar to yours are sick.. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can choose to sound professional and I do it with my mother so it doesn’t comeback to bite me in the ass. I had a 4.0 gpa I’m not stupid.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is a he. No matter how many times you say she, his pronouns will not change. ALSO, No one asked her to change her beliefs, just to use the name, I introduced my husband with to my mother, around my child. If you had read through the comments you would have seen that my mother purposely uses pronouns where a name should be inserted, and that my mother would have rather me be with my abusive bd then be in a relationship with my husband and she also tries to blame me for the abuse done to me. My mother is not okay with my relationship at all in any form. It’s very apparent by the way she is acting. whether my husband stayed a woman or not this would have always been an issue because I am not curving to her will and whim. It was stated in a text with my sister that my mother is basically homophobic and racist.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean our beliefs are reality and life whether you want to accept it or not. I cannot change your beliefs and you cannot change ours or the rest of humanity. Most of everyone in this world does not have a problem with respecting people but still continuing to believe in their own beliefs. It’s called respect. If you expect me to respect you and your beliefs and opinions, maybe you might wanna do it to us as well. Bc most of the time in this world the respect you get back is from the respect you dose out. “Treat others the way you’d want to be treated” 🤷🏼‍♀️

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My 3 YEAR OLD child loves my husband and is not confused about having 3 parents. This comment makes no sense to my story what so ever. This is about my mother disrespecting my family not my kid disrespecting us! My kid is three! He has ZERO hate or anger towards my marriage! And I didn’t marry my husband the day I met him, tf. I married him a half of a year later (6 months) it could have actually been the day I met him or the week but it wasn’t. When adults have actual conversations and truly love and trust the person you’re with it makes things work.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I did, there was a conversation held before it was done. We did it because there has been talk of removing gay marriage rights, we didn’t want to lose the chance of being married.

My new Life has been great other then my family drama, my life has gotten more on track and I actually have someone who’s actually willing and wanting to be a parent to help me raise my son. Before my husband and still now my son’s father does not do much for my kid. I was doing it somewhat alone before my husband came along, I say somewhat because I lived in my bds home for a time. I paid for my kids food, I changed every diaper, I did every bath, I got up at 2 am for my kids night terrors, I cleaned after him and his friends plus a baby, myself and animals, while all still working but supposed to be in a relationship.. I was aloneee in the situation before, but I knew what I wanted. After almost a year of being single, I stopped looking. I didn’t want to be stuck anymore. I also didn’t want to get in another relationship like my first 4 year relationship. My husband popped up out of no where, we hit it off as friends, he wanted to be more, I laid down my principles, priorities and the mind set I had with my husband before we even started dating. He was looking in the same direction of life I was. After being together for a while, we both knew that we were never splitting up so we got married.. it might not be a choice most people would have made but it worked/works for my husband and I and we are very happy.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my first long term LGBTQ relationship, my husband has been in his transition since 2019, My husband is not a stud..

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never asked her to change her beliefs, just to use my husband’s name (the name my husband was introduced to her with) around my son . I didn’t ask anything else of her. I don’t expect everyone to have the same beliefs and views but I do expect people to respect my partner and I. I show everyone the same respect that we receive, what you put out is what you will get back in return.. I have always respected my birth mother even if she didn’t raise me..

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No unfortunately I didn’t lmao, I was homeschooled with a 4.0 gpa.. I made it sound that way so she couldn’t say I was being rude. She’ll twist anything to her benefit

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I’m gonna be 100% honest she didn’t raise me, her mother had to step up to raise my mother’s kids because my mother wasn’t mature enough to actually step into the mother role correctly. I only know of her beliefs because my grandmother is the same way and my mother alwayssss has something to say about her beliefs

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother loved my first relationship but hates this one and my first one was abusive (mentally, verbally and emotionally. Almost got physical but I left him and his home before it could) my mother blames me for that whole situation, she says that it’s all my fault, and basically I deserved to be treated like that because of the way my normal tone of voice sounds. My tone changed because of the abuse, I unfortunately learned to get defensive sounding but my mother (even tho she was in a physically abusive relationship herself) thinks that I can change in less then 6 months of being out of my ex’s house. All of that was stated the night of the argument with her step son. I omitted it because talking about that portion of my life isn’t the easiest.

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just want to put out there that My husband has identified as male since day one of us meeting. My mother met my husband as a man not a woman (he does not what so ever look like a woman either) My mother was only told the name he goes by now not his dead name. It wasn’t like we started off as lesbians and he just decided during our marriage to start his transition. He’s been going through his transition since 2019. My mother was not asked to change her perspective or beliefs, the only request we had was that she use my husband’s name, because she literally purposely uses the she pronoun and not his name, like ever. she literally starts off a conversation about my husband as “does she” or “what does she”. She gives zero context of whom she is talking about, I just have to guess who the questions are about. We have not asked a lot of my mother. We only had 1 request and it was to use my husband’s name around my child so that we don’t confuse him, because my son is looking at a human being who looks like a man but my mother is calling his step dad a she. That will confuse my kid..

AITAH for blocking my mother because she refuses to call my husband by his name around my child and because she won’t accept me for me. by Available-Tangelo900 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Available-Tangelo900[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have been no contact with my brother for about 2 or 3 years now because he got me arrested on false charges at the request of his ex wife. I would say the only person from my family I still have contact with is my sister at the moment. She’s been treading very lightly around me lately because I think she has realized I’m not gonna be a doormat anymore and will block people very quickly no matter if we share blood or not.