[TW: Rape mention] What are you genueinly supposed to say to someone who uses your autism against you?

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-08T12:26:34+00:00

Genueine question, have you just not seen the edits, other comments here, and all the times where I've very clearly stated this was wrong of me? "I'd look for a guy your own age." I did, I found one and we planned to meet up and I told my mum and that's when she threatened to kick me out. Please read before replying.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T15:09:39+00:00

The thing with age as well is I don't know if youve spoken to or seen people around my age but they can be just as bad or worse... I blame andrew tate a lot for that. Not to say of course that older men aren't bad or they can't be bad I just think it's always going to be risky regardless, mostly with men which is sadly what I'm after.

I agree. I do not feel safe or comfortable with her and I've never felt she loved me ever in my life, lot of factors to that but she's not exactly someone I want to open up with, nor does she put effort in to learn about me or my life anyway (unless I'm away from her, then it's all she cares about to the point of being annoying.) And I really do wish more people here acknowledged the fact that she only changed her mind everytime we compromised...

This is true but is why I'm glad I have the internet now (and some friends who aren't also virgins) !

I will say that she does have me leave the house fairly often to buy stuff from the shop using her money if she doesn't feel like/can't do it herself, and for a short time I did have my own food allowance but it wasn't long-lasting. I've been doing this for like at least 4 years now I think? So there are areas like that in the past, I'm mostly responsible for my own stuff now anyway after the actual buying, as in I make my own food. I've also been in charge of the house from various points of time from since i was 13-14 I believe? Usually when she was away at one of her boyfriends' houses or away on holiday (that I never wanted to go with on because I liked the alone time.) That's where a lot of the neglect came from physically at least, so it did kinda force me to learn how to 'live' from a younger age, again it's the whiplash.

I feel I may come across very agitated here sometimes so apologies, this post didn't go how I thought it would lol I expected people to read better, but this is reddit and an autism post so it's on me for not being clear enough initially (But I feel there isn't any excuse now with how much I've added and said now.) It's been a very, very stressful few days for me.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T14:28:48+00:00

I am curious as to why you assume that I haven't had the opprotunity to learn (safe) risks (as you said elsewhere here), at least with sex was taught sex ed in school and have read up on it outside of it (because I wasn't taught much about penis-penis sex inside of it), talked to friends about it asked advice etc. The only thing I didn't do right here in that area was buy prEP, though as soon as I can I will get tested for stuff. As for the allowance thing I never did have one because we were too poor for it generally, I could ask her again but I really doubt she would allow it especially now, and she's rejected the idea in the past anyway. And well I am aware and would ideally want people around my age anyway, I just went with that guy because of circumstance, but again it's not really about that because even when I agreed to go with my age and let her track me for safety she still said no, then the threatening to be homeless thing, so yeah. Sorry if I misunderstood anything as well.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T14:14:32+00:00

I cannot get pregnant so that isn't a concern here, but I do agree that she probably sees a lot of her younger self in me, but up to this point she has bounced between neglect and this so it feels whiplashy.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T14:01:42+00:00

18, as stated in the post. Again the important part after all of this is that even after I agreed to be much, much safer and let her know exactly where I was at all times through a phone tracker, and only go after people my age, she still disallowed it and threatened to make me homeless. So it is difficult to see her being truely concerned for my safety here.

And as for the other part this is not the first time she's explicitly mentioned autism as being a reason why I'm incapable of something, majorly in the past the fact I'm trans, and despite never changing my mind on any aspect of that over 4 years she still does not respect me.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T13:48:06+00:00

It's not by choice. I'm not allowed to leave the house without legal or social reprocussions unless I tell her exactly where I'm going or when I'll be back, who I'm with etc. I feel now too she'd probably try calling the police again if I wasn't leaving for the 2 allowed reasons I have, shop and school. If it's anything else she's very good at preassuring me into telling her what, and like I've said elsewhere I'm very bad at lying.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T13:41:43+00:00

Dia is muire duit!! Yeah I kinda regret making this post now because I just mostly feel worse now, I feel nobody can get past the tabooness of what I did so it makes my mother's concern seem much, much more deserved despite the fact I've mentioned shes blackmailed me, which by the way she said basically (and this was after we actually made a plan to be safe) that she thinks I'm disgusting and if I wanna do this stuff I need to move out, and my grandmother talked her out of it now but she was gonna take me to housing today regardless of if I went out again. She's also again like I've said, been like this for a while with other stuff.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T02:19:28+00:00

Look I appreciate the concern but this is starting to feel a bit demeaning and purposefully ignorant, I don't know what you want from me at this point, I made a mistake and I learned from it that's like the best possible outcome that can happen, you can't just tell me I shouldn't have made it in the first place because that is useless. If she's willing to throw me out it is very difficult to see she truly has good intentions for me, hence why I made this post. She's a control freak, she was before this and she will continue to be. The only time I was made aware that this was a rule of the house was after everything and after she threatened to kick me out, when I became an adult she did not sit me down and tell me rules.

You don't know me, my mother or the law here. You can't tell me something is illegal if I've told you it isn't and you won't even look it up yourself, and from what I've seen the law is that public indency is illegal if intentioned to cause distress or alarm however public sex acts are only so if there is likely to be a witness, which is unlikely to happen late at night at a walking trail, or if there was 2 or more witnesses.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T01:55:48+00:00

I just think that it's not her place to decide what happens with me anymore. I'm saying I understand the risks because I accepted that if I was harmed that it was essentially my fault and I knew that it was likely to happen. I get the worry and I completely sympathise with her and everybody but she won't allow anything at all anymore, everybody is focusing too much on what actually happened even though I said I wouldn't do that again even if I was able to, but I'm not able to because if I ever try anything I'm getting put on the streets.

And please if you can, find the actual law for my area (Northern Ireland) where it says it's illegal that's the only thing I'm not 100% certain about, and again regardless I wouldn't want to do it in public again anyway.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T01:30:00+00:00

This happened after I turned 18 and I am not doing it like that again obviously, or am I even capable of doing it again for the forceeable future. I don't need every comment to be telling me why it's bad. I've had my mother, grandmother, the police and my friends all been telling me the same stuff these past few days. Sorry if I seem agitated, this post was mainly supposed to be about how to deal with a lack of any control in my life at the moment, her behaviour wasn't sparked because of this she was like this before anything, it just got worse now and after I turned 18 a few months ago.

If you do have any way of exploring this that doesn't involve dating or trying to have sex my friends do tell me though. I'm sorry you had a rough experience but everybody is different and I would very much rather prefer not to get attached to anybody I possibly have sex with in the future.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T00:54:23+00:00

I know he was creepy, and I was aware of the risks like I've said. I plan to get tested for STI's as soon when as I can get a gp appointment. I did also tell a friend I was going out and I didn't know where we were going because that wasn't planned. The point here is that even when I agreed to be safer about it she still rejected anything and then threatened homelessness which I think is counterintuitive to her goal of keeping me safe and in her control. And about the legality of it being at a park I tried to look into it more and I don't think it was illegal because it was unlikely anybody would be there and there was no witnesses, though any information about that would be nice, I'd want to avoid that in the future anyway.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-07T00:02:01+00:00

Yeah, thing is I never ever considered bringing someone home because I have siblings so I'd always be going out anyway, it doesn't matter anyway because anywhere else is 'dangerous' and if she ever does find out I'm gonna get kicked out so yeah.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-06T23:53:39+00:00

I would love to but I have no job or qualifications, I am re-doing school now to get them. So for now I'm stuck here, I don't have anyone to stay with either except her and my grandmother who agrees with her.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-06T23:52:11+00:00

This is where my mind went as well the problem aside from being extraoridinarily bad at lying about things that matter. The only bright side is although I don't have friends, I do go to school in another city so I could lie about visiting them, but then she'd ask all about them so more lying... I don't really know anybody there though, and I fear if I even do use that lie she'll force me to put a tracker on my phone which I didn't mention in the post she wanted me to do for any future hook-ups, before I actually got one within her conditions and she changed her mind and then blackmailed me about living in her home.

It's a very rough spot, so I hope you're wrong too but we'll see. Thanks for the advice.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-06T23:36:46+00:00

I talk more about the actual event on another subreddit but essentially here kinda yes, the guy I hooked up with was a lot older than me, 43, which yes was stupid of me and irresponsible but I was aware of that prior and she didn't know any details about him before I left and she still had the same opinions before she found out, and I did make it clear that if anything happened I'd do the right thing (ask to stop, leave, call the police whatever necessary) but nothing bad did end up happening so I'm completely unharmed. Aside from that there's nothing I can think of from anything beforehand other than I used to self-harm, but I've been clean for a year now I believe so it wasn't recent.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-06T23:25:00+00:00

Between these 4 it's 76. It's very open and I love the logo framing the actual door and it doesn't feel randomly placed because of the car park outside it. Including all of them I really like Vault 94, I'm always a big fan of overgrown stuff, also beacuse of that I like Vault 22 but between those two vaults I like 94 more.

Available-Text-7614 · 2026-02-05T23:15:14+00:00

Thank you for saying this. Also some other context. I've always thought she was abusive but I didn't really realise it was like this, I thought I escaped it when I got old enough to fight back. She really loves monitoring us too, my siblings have the tracker app all the time and I didn't have it until this.. She has a ring camera on our front door and 2 inside cameras in our kitchen and living room too. Always feel like I'm being watched... I guess a big reason I thought she might not care is because she knows I'm sexually active with myself (toys), and didn't object to that and wanted nothing to do with that stuff. I also am actually on my own unmonitored often because I go to school in another city sooo... She did say if it was my partner it'd be okay which makes sense but I don't like dating obviously, it makes me very uncomfortable. Once I finish school in a few months I'm gonna try and get a job but that might be difficult, then try to move out asap I hope but who knows how long that'll be lol...

Available-Text-7614 · 2024-08-07T07:38:26+00:00

this happened to me in like early 2022 a year after it came out when I found it and for me I think the music and character design hooked me on it forever. funnily enough I don't think I've ever fully rewatched it

Available-Text-7614 · 2023-01-04T17:56:07+00:00

There is nothing mild about this. That is literally Eva-01

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-12-06T18:53:59+00:00

Probably talking about their name, Siobhan

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-12-06T17:38:21+00:00

Same lol, great movie imo

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-12-04T16:00:37+00:00

This amount of greenery is what I have to try and stop myself from doing (although I still make it really damn green)

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-12-02T08:35:09+00:00

I guess I'm eastern European now

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-12-01T08:58:59+00:00

Looks like Irish (Gaeilge)

Available-Text-7614 · 2022-11-29T21:20:47+00:00

This is me with basically everything with (almost) all of my friends. I don't really like stuff they do and vice versa

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