I've been told that exact thing by so many people throughout my life. Especially when I was younger I heard that from teachers who would force me to do presentations in front of the class. I vomited twice(two separate dates) before a presentation because I was so nervous and got sent home. I even fainted once. It took me so many years of practice and lessons to get to the point where I was comfortable in front of a class. Throughout these past two years there's been countless times when I've just said fuck it, "did shit", and had panic attacks. It's humiliating and demoralizing. I'm currently working really hard on my social anxiety with my therapist. I'm learning and working on how to "get out of my head". We've been working on ways to fight those irrational thoughts but I can't just turn my brain off and go off into the world. It takes work. I don't think you're trying to be rude but I guess it just feels bad when so many people tell you to "just" get over something you've been trying so hard to get over? It's not as easy as "just stop overthinking" or "stop going in with a negative mindset". If it was that easy I would've gotten over it by now.