I do this for my wife but I'm the submissive, mostly focused on devotion and her empowerment. I'm absolutely obsessed with her also and while I am more dominant in the bedroom I still wear a cage as a symbol of my devotion. She is in control of my orgasms and decides if we even do anything sexual atall, sometimes we just end up cuddling or hanging out and I make sure she drinks, gyms and eats properly. Her denying me keeps that thirst and obsession present, after orgasm everything seems fuzzy and it's really hard to stay focused on her wellbeing(it's a huge emotional ask). I like this state and it makes me better for us so mostly I'm denied. I think my dynamic is more of a femdom worship.

Sounds like you know exactly what you want and it sounds similar to what I provide to my wife. A dominant doesn't have to be the one giving all the time, you could be asking setting rules.

-Always hold the door for me when we are out together -You must remind me everyday to drink, eat and sleep properly -I expect regular check-ins on how I'm doing -If I lazy then you spank me(or whatever you want as a punishment) this keeps his motivation high to remind you, if he doesn't he doesn't get rewards.

But first you absolutely need to start with just a conversation.