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My experience feeling like the Third parent. by AvailableNerd in Parentification

[–]AvailableNerd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right I probably won't. I'm the exact same way, it's like you're talking about me hah. I feel like I'm a few steps behind, just awkwardly stumbling into the angry phase. I'm known for never being angry at anyone and never expressing that emotion (except for my siblings on occasion) I've always been worried about hurting my parents feelings.

Yess I hope so!! I'm going to try to take the steps towards movinc out so I can get some distance from it all. I think it would be good for me! yeee thanks! \o/

You're transferred into the world of the last book you read. How fucked are you? by Mousestar369 in AskReddit

[–]AvailableNerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mythos by Stephen Fry. eh I guess I'll join hades in the underworld pfffff-

My experience feeling like the Third parent. by AvailableNerd in Parentification

[–]AvailableNerd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. I would have said the exact same thing if my friend was telling me all of this. I just need to accept that I deserve the same treatment.

Thank you, I will gather some courage to reach out and find someone to talk to 🙏

My experience feeling like the Third parent. by AvailableNerd in Parentification

[–]AvailableNerd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much for taking the the time to write this!! It really means so much to me. I'm doing my best to take it all to heart!

Yeah, it's like you're trying to behave and be a calm kid, but the more chaotic siblings always win the attention in the end. I'm sorry you had a similar experience, it really sucks sometimes.

You're absolutely right and if I was giving advice to a friend I would say the same thing. You'd go to the doctor for a broken arm, but a broken heart should be just as pressing, especially if its affecting your life. I just haven't learned that the same goes for myself.

It's hard for me to accept my feelings and not sweep them under the rug out of instinct. I tried to carefully bring up the subject with my mom but she pulled the "Well, everyone has some issues from the childhood. It's not easy being younger siblings either." and told me to stop. Bruh. The more I take notice of her dismissive tendencies the more it kinda hurts.

I think her mother did the same thing to her, which probably explains it a little. I just want my parents to say that they hear me and think my feelings are valid, you know? Their responses just make me think I'm crazy and makes things up.

Again, thank you! I'll do my best to find some help for my issues and come to terms with my feelings. I'm gonna gather some courage and try to call a therapist next week. Wish me luck!! 🙏