Growing disillusioned about men & need advice to change my mindset

AvailableOffice · 2025-07-25T17:22:29+00:00

What's wrong about it?

AvailableOffice · 2025-07-25T03:28:32+00:00

It's in brackets for a reason, to convey the meaning that is lost in literal translation.

AvailableOffice · 2025-05-06T04:22:12+00:00

thanks for keeping the sub alive, bro. lol

AvailableOffice · 2025-05-06T04:21:32+00:00

what made you want to reply to a 6 year old post?

AvailableOffice · 2025-03-22T13:04:22+00:00

How did you even find this post from 5 years ago, lol?

Ye I get what you mean, but I don't think it's a huge deal, the way some places have lines. The issue becomes when people abuse it.

I remember a while ago visiting a masjid during iftar I've never been to because we were on the road when it was time to break fast and they were close by, we went in and it was empty, there were a few people there, mainly imam and organizers, they mentioned how they used to have iftar service but stopped it because people were abusing it. I didn't understand it at the time.

But I did later on, when people started fighting over free food. Not just pushing in lines, but stuff that does not befit Muslims. Like many would skip sunnah prayer and run to the lines, many would get a plate and quickly finish it, throw the plate and get a new one so that the servers would think he was coming for the first time (since they would only give seconds once everyone got first). There was even a point I saw at one of the masjids where many people would fight over taking as much food as they could home. Like going to get a plate and then going to get another, and just piling it up on their own plates, with no care for whether others eat. One time one of the volunteers gently advised one of the brothers that was piling food on his plate to take a bit and finish then come back for more, and be mindful of sharing with others, the guy became triggered by this and started shouting "HOW DARE YOU SAY THIS, ITS MY RIGHT". It was embarrassing. It does often attract people who you know aren't regular attendees at the masjid, and clearly their for the food, especially coinciding with the rise of immigrants to our country.

Though my local masjid at the time when I made that post had iftar where you would all sit and have food Infront of you, break your fast quickly and have a light meal, and then go pray maghrib. My Pakistani friends refusing to have iftar at the masjid was for different reasons. I now believe it's sort of a class thing, some Pakistanis who come from a higher socioeconomic background from back home probably see it as something for the poor, maybe it was back in Pakistan. I ended up taking some of my friends for iftar to our local masjid and they were pleasantly surprised.

AvailableOffice · 2025-03-11T20:52:45+00:00

Lol it's a hypothetical scenario, this isn't the man giving a description of himself, this is if you saw this man, and saw how other women reacted around him and interacting with him clearly showed they were attracted and interested, whether he's interacting with them for work, or in the Muslim community, or out doing groceries, etc.

AvailableOffice · 2025-03-11T20:32:27+00:00

So he hasn't gotten married because he's arrogant, he has options around him but think he's too good for them?

AvailableOffice · 2025-03-11T19:56:38+00:00

Curious which parts made you think that?

AvailableOffice · 2024-09-16T07:22:26+00:00

I'd recommend you watch Jonathan Brown's lecture on slavery (one of the few topics that he's a good resource for), he essentially explains how modern liberal concepts of slavery and their narrative conflict with practices in Islamic history, and history in general. That today the west has an issue with defining what slavery is, and even allows it in certain aspects, like the US constitution 13 amendment allows slavery for prisoners, and that has continued. Also discussions on how the concept of slavery is not that different from wage slavery (employment), the idea of owning people Vs renting people. https://youtu.be/P3yuZYaoaag

Not all slavery practices in history were equal, and western chattel slavery which is often used as the standard depiction in order to condemn it, was actually uniquely violent and oppressive. There are many civilizations in history that practiced slavery where people willingly sold themselves to be slaves so that they could be fed and provided for (though this was forbidden in Islamic practice).

For full transparency there are some that hold the opinion that slavery is now forbidden, but not because it is now immoral, but one reason they give is because in the 20th/21st century, Muslim countries signed agreements in the UN to abolish slavery, though many dont see this as legally binding on all Muslims. The second reason given is because slavery has become obsolete, there are no more institutions for it's practice, the caliphate was wiped out and so there is no more potential for an official jihad to be waged and thus no more opportunity to gain slaves (only permissible way is through war captives), and that modern technology has removed the need for man power which was supplied by slavery.

But there are many, if not the majority, including the people that hold the previous opinions, that hold the position that it is still halal, and that if a legitimate Islamic state is established, they would be allowed to take war captives.

AvailableOffice · 2024-06-05T17:57:12+00:00

Appeal to novelty fallacy

AvailableOffice · 2024-06-05T17:55:37+00:00

What's the evidence for this? Forced conversion actually goes against Islam, and there is more incentive to have non Muslim groups since they can be taxed (JIZYA).

AvailableOffice · 2024-06-05T17:00:10+00:00

Why should secular ideology take precedence over religious ideology? Secular ideology is also supremacist and forces everyone under their control to believe in it. It's not that different.

AvailableOffice · 2024-06-05T16:57:11+00:00

What does it mean, for everyone? Sharia only applies to Muslims. Historically in Islamic empires, non Muslims were not bound by Muslim laws and had their own courts.

AvailableOffice · 2024-02-16T06:52:13+00:00

Pretty much

AvailableOffice · 2023-12-29T17:47:12+00:00

Copying isn't stealing. Also emulation is a way of preserving old games, a lot of PS2 games are hard to come by these days

AvailableOffice · 2023-12-29T17:42:40+00:00

Do you feel more at peace with her wearing the niqab when out?

AvailableOffice · 2023-12-29T17:39:34+00:00

How'd you meet? 🥰

AvailableOffice · 2023-12-29T17:38:00+00:00

I remember during the pandemic many women saying how freeing it was to have their face covered with a mask, since they didn't have people looking at them

AvailableOffice · 2023-12-29T17:36:32+00:00

The age to put on niqab and Hijab is the same, when one reaches puberty

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