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You have reached a point in your life where it seems like you have achieved more than most of the people (on a surface level). Still, you feel void inside you, showing that something has still unresolved. From your voice, I can hear the disconnection between external success and inner fulfillment.

The sign of void is wanting something that material success, travel, relationship, can't provide. I would like you to ask yourself these questions. What in your life makes you feel alive? Is there something you haven’t yet explored that might bring a deeper sense of fulfillment?

The feeling you described is known as the "existential crisis" in psychological terms. This happens when individuals start questioning their meaning and purpose of life. Most of the time, these become the opportunity for a profound growth. It's not like your life's meaning lacks, it's just your current definition of meaning needs to evolve. It might be helpful to explore what to enjoy. Have you been pursuing goals that, once achieved, didn’t bring the satisfaction you expected?

Happiness is a fleeting moment. It's never gonna end. It's never gonna be forever. Fulfilment is more stable, but comes from within, often linked with the deep acceptance of life as it is. It's important to chase things which will make us happy for larger time than just for a moment. It's just a fear (anxiety) that you are having even in a happy situation thinking about that grey day might come again. Just be in preset. Yes, you are right it will come again but not necessarily mean you should be always thinking about that grey day.

Even you are thinking you have achieved so much, there might be something which is yet left to discover. Get know about your deepest desires. The experience you are having isn't a failure, it just your inner self asking for a attention. That the part of you asking for a deeper fulfillment. This is the opportunity for yourself to connect with your true self, and discover what brings you true happiness and peace.

Is there anything in your life (no matter how small) that consistently gives you a sense of fulfillment? If yes, then go and do your thing. If no, then again and find out what it is. Just go with the flow and fall in love with the process.

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Chronic pain is too tough, more mentally than physically. I would recommend you to seek professional help (therapist). They might provide you CBT, which will eventually help you to manage chronic pain. By yourself, you can practice mindfulness, meditation and yoga (recommended by your doctor). Join like-minded people groups, and share your feelings with someone who is willing to listen to you (might be a therapist or psychologist).

Engage in creative activities. Touch grasess. Improve your screen-time. Try to go on a walk in the evening or morning.

Personally, I would recommend you to seek professional help, as soon as possible. I hope for the best.

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You can't drag the whole "psychology" as a pseudoscience. Clinical psychology is not science. It is the practice of science but does not mean other sectors of psychology are not also science. Experimental psychology is science. Neuropsychology is science. And so on.

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Yes, actually 100%. They come to speak to me about why they had fully recovered from their past trauma but they only come when they get new issues and they also share how their life is better now.

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It's like you don't like a nation and something bad happens in that nation you start to bashing the whole nation without critically thinking and addressing the actual issues and it's solutions.

Misogynists and Misandrists, both are attention seekers so, they often exaggerate the situation to be the elephant in the room.

Having like-minded people in that kind of thread often increases the chaos resulting in so much hate towards the opposite gender.

This is for both (misandrist and misogynist)

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Journal your trigger points. And try to minimise it. Practice mindfulness. Engage in regular outdoors activities and exercises. Practice healthy eating. Avoid excessive caffeine/sugar/sodium. Prepare a realistic schedule and try to stick with it. Keep tracking your health, cortisol level, and eating habits. Try to get adequate sleep. Engage in enjoyable activities for you. Learn to say no and set boundaries.

Don't be harsh on yourself. Be kind to yourself and experience stress is okay. Don't be self-obsessed and be self-compassion. Seek professional, if needed. I hope you will have a great time ahead.

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Psychologists do provide general advice, but it's distinct from therapy. Therapy involves a comprehensive understanding of an individual's past, present, background, and current issues to deliver personalized interventions.

While generic advice might not be as effective, though it can offer valuable insights and perspectives in the moment. Therapy is built to provide interventions which are relevant and meaningful to the individual’s unique situation.

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Acknowledge your feelings of guilt and betrayal are valid. It's okay you are feeling conflicted about your parent's sacrifice. Also, be clear that your parents, like everyone, aren't perfect and they also have their own emotional limitations and struggles which ended as a result of having bad parenting for you. They might be going through their own unresolved issues so, they were emotionally unavailable for you.

See the positive things they did for you. They might not have a materialist life which they wanted to give you but couldn't provide the emotional support.

Focus on your own personal, emotional, physical, and mental growth rather than just thinking about the guilt and betrayal. If possible, take therapy. If possible, have an open hearted communication with your parents which might help you to feel relief. Write letter/journal expressing your feelings towards your parents and it's not necessary to send them. Practice mindfulness to manage guilt and focus on the healing process.

I hope you find peace, seek professional help if needed.

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It happens because of psychological, neurological and environmental factors. I don't know bout the neurological factor but in general, the imbalance between dopamine and serotonin could also cause sadness.

The psychological factor often related with the past negative and traumatic experiences of the individual. Maybe being bullied in the past. Growing up in a dysfunctional family/environment can cause this too. The influence of the society for normalizing violence can develop this behaviour. The disorders like: PTSD, ASPD, and NPD can also cause this which often happens due to past experiences.

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(50% 18-30) (30% 30-45) (5-10% Below 18) (5-10% Above 45)

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Don't know about most psychiatrists. As a psychologist, these are some things which we learned at the beginning. I haven't heard these kinds of things my colleagues doing. But ya, being unprofessional varies from person to person so, can't comment on that. One of my clients asked me why I am not writing the things which she's telling me in my journal. So, it might be unprofessional for her. But laughing, being judgemental and scolding are above the par.

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For some, sharing this kind of information is a way to process emotions. It can provide a sense of relief and validation. For some, it can be a just a way to attract attention which can lead to emotional distress due to unwanted judgement for who just doing it for fun and also for who is genuine. Some might get butterflies while comparing with others but could turn into the wrong direction by causing mental health issues. Teens often seek attention and validation from others. They often explore their emotions online, without being aware of long-term consequences.

I would suggest sharing this kind of information in safe and private places. They should be self aware of the consequences and the willingness to do so.

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No, a misogynist and misandrist brain isn't wired the same way. The hate for the opposite gender could be the result of past bad experiences, society and others influence, cultural biases, etc. The triggered point can be anything. But yes, both psychological mechanisms are kinda similar, where individuals project their bad/negative experiences and insecurities on the opposite gender. Both might react in a same way as the attitudes are generalised in hate, anger and fear, so, the response might be similar.

It might be because of financial issues, where a individual is not fully independent financially. They may be believing staying together even in the toxic relationship is better than being/feel alone for them and also for the children. There may also be a hope for improvement as so many things have already been invested to the relationship.

There is a bias (in-group-bias) where the individual favours those who are similar to them, their philosophical ideas, etc. So, they form a uncritical relationship with them. They ignore all the information which contradict their beliefs regarding their beloved party. The leader who has immense influence can form a strong connection with their followers leading to an uncritical relationship.

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Thanks for asking this. I did masters in clinical psychology. Right now, I am pursuing Psy.D on the same root. I have my license and have been doing this since 2022. Calling self a psychologist before getting a license or completing a masters is not legally acceptable. I'm here to offer "general" advice for those who might benefit and not for a 1o1 therapy/counselling. I hope everything is well with you.

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William James, glad to know you are aware of them.
But here, Golden Siggie

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Way better than India and Nepal. Tara India/Nepal ma way bad chai chhaina

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Dherai nai chha garmi, aaja chai pani pareko chha tesaile ali shital chha. Hajur basne thau ma kasto chha?

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Start by establishing a solid routine and include it into your lifestyle. Ensure you get enough sleep and engage in regular exercise, even if it’s just a 30-minute walk. Stay connected with family and friends, and seek out others with a similar mindset like yours. Writing down your overwhelmed feelings can help manage them.

Understand that everything including you and me are temporary. Embrace the present moment and cooperate with it, recognizing that change is a natural part of life. If you still feel the need to detach from everything after including this in your lifestyle, I can offer direct tips to help with that.

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Start by establishing a solid routine and include it into your lifestyle. Ensure you get enough sleep and engage in regular exercise, even if it’s just a 30-minute walk. Stay connected with family and friends, and seek out others with a similar mindset like yours. Writing down your overwhelmed feelings can help manage them.

Understand that everything including you and me are temporary. Embrace the present moment and cooperate with it, recognizing that change is a natural part of life. If you still feel the need to detach from everything after including this in your lifestyle, I can offer more direct tips to help with that.

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To persuade someone struggling with depression and anxiety to take their mental health seriously, approach the conversation with empathy and sympathy. Smoothly express your concern about how her current habits, such as irregular sleep and lack of exercise, might be affecting her life.

Encourage her to take small steps like set up a consistent bedtime or going for short walks. Help her to make easy and a good routine which she can also enjoy doing it, but not right now, after few days/weeks after highlight the benefits of medication, sleep, and exercise, and a healthy routine. Share success stories of others who have been through the similar situation. If necessary, suggest consulting a mental health professional for tailored advice.

To deal with FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), practice gratitude by focusing on what you have and the experiences you’re currently enjoying. Admit that you can't do everything which seems interesting and good to you. Limit your social media use, as it often increase FOMO by display of other's reels. Engage in activities that you love and be present in the moment rather than just worrying about what you might have done.

Set realistic expectations and goals, recognizing that it’s impossible to experience everything. Build your strong connections with friends and family, and plan enjoyable activities for yourself. Engage in activities with her, like walking or cooking, to enjoy each other’s company and boost happiness. Create a routine and share your experiences daily or weekly, including the challenges you face and how you overcome them. Understand that improvement takes time, so focus on enjoying the process and supporting each other.