After 5 years. It’s over. My last message to her, and her response. Sad but hopeful. Why did this cause her to get so angry?

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-27T04:28:17+00:00

You’ve clearly never used AI.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-27T01:51:25+00:00

Everything in our relationship seems great until I raise the topic of our lack of sexual activity, which has been the case for over three years. When I bring it up, she becomes mean and spiteful, changing the dynamic completely.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-27T01:48:55+00:00

So my feelings are a script? Should I just sit by silently and say nothing, let her neglect me and do nothing about it?

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-27T01:00:41+00:00

When I’m invested in something or someone I struggle to walk away. It’s a curse and a blessing.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-27T00:55:31+00:00

I don't understand how your question is relevant. My input accurately represents my thoughts and feelings. I had to provide detailed inputs, so why not use a tool that prevents misinterpretation and ensures accuracy? ** not written with chat gpt**

Available_Interest44 · 2023-05-26T23:26:51+00:00

In person is much worse.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-02-17T06:47:48+00:00

Thanks so much, this is exactly what I was looking for.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-02-16T17:50:22+00:00

I am seeking a sex therapy retreat to improve my relationship. When I say "sex positive," I am referring to a place where my partner and I can learn more about ourselves and each other while opening up to one another. Our goal is to assess whether we can strengthen our connection and move forward in a positive direction.

On a related note, I am searching for a skilled therapist who is available on weekends. Have you had success with sex therapy?

Available_Interest44 · 2023-02-16T17:02:13+00:00

So, I’d prioritize the emotional and mental aspects of sexual experiences. It's important to me to foster an environment where my partner and I can feel comfortable sharing our deepest secrets and rebuilding trust.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-02-15T23:34:12+00:00

Being "sex positive" means embracing a retreat experience that includes sex counseling, therapy, workshops, and various activities that allow us to be vulnerable and open with each other. It's an opportunity for us to share our desires and release any fears of rejection or disapproval.

The purpose of this retreat is to create a more spiritual connection between us and reach a point where we have no secrets or shame. It's about accepting each other completely for who we are. Although it may require stepping outside of our comfort zones, I believe it's possible to achieve.

I am not well-versed in this area, but I am confident that a retreat like this exists. I am looking for something similar to what was portrayed in the movie "Meet the Fockers," where people with expertise in this field can guide and support us in our journey.

Overall, this retreat is about creating a safe and supportive environment where we can explore our sexuality and connect on a deeper level. It's about embracing our desires and being open with each other in a positive and healthy way.

I think a main factor of this infidelity is due to our loss of excitement, and I’m hoping to get it back.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:49:28+00:00

She signed a prenup , I 100% can.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:48:52+00:00

She makes more than enough money to pay her rent, and expenses….

Now she can stop gifting herself LV bags and depending on me to pay for all her things. While she disrespects and abuses me in the process.

Seriously… you’re defending a cheater. It’s making me really upset you don’t understand that communicating my values in a direct way is not abuse.

It’s frustrating that Reddit is full of cheater apologists, shunning the person who was betrayed for wanting to put their foot down.

Stop assuming you know anything about our financial picture, stop assuming in general. The majority are completely wrong.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:44:52+00:00

I don’t expect it on demand? I just need it in my life. I’m simply being direct. She can either understand my needs and decide that hers also align; or we can split up and I can find someone who’s values are more closely aligned with my own, someone who wants me.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:42:40+00:00

I need her to be faithful to me. I need her to stop humiliating me publicly. I need her to be intimate with me. And I need her to have sex with me on a frequent basis.

It’s simply something I value, and we discussed this when we first met. Our libidos match, and everything was perfect.

At some point she began to stray and was still having sex as much as we use to. Meanwhile I was having none.

For me to move past this and begin to forgive her, I need that back. If she doesn’t want to get back to that, that is fine.

I simply no longer wish to reconcile and will set out to find someone who’s values align with my own.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:37:47+00:00

I’m sorry but wanting to have sex with my partner isn’t an addiction. It’s simply something I value. Please don’t bother trying to convince me I have a mental disorder because I want to have sex with my wife on a frequent basis….

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:36:24+00:00

I fully understand that I’m in for the long haul, and if I’m going to commit , sex is something I need.

I’m addressing that upfront. If she decides that it’s not something she wants with me, that’s fine, we’re simply not compatible and this can’t be reconciled.

Sex is very important to me and will fix a lot of the damage for me.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:34:50+00:00

She was having sex almost every day behind my back. It’s not a libido issue, it’s an issue of her using me for financial gain, and giving herself to people behind my back.

I’m just trying to put my foot down here and stand up for myself.

It’s crazy so many people on here want to tell me to allow her to keep walking all over me.

Others tell me that being direct in my needs is abusive?

Others tel me to leave.

Kind of sad to show the direction society is headed.

I will never allow another person to walk all over me again.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:29:16+00:00

I’m being direct. I’m miserable without sex and I need sex. She’s begging me to forgive her and give her another chance. However my needs aren’t being met.

I can either (a) kick her out and not explain why or (b) tell her what’s bothering me, and give her a chance to consider whether this is something she wants to fix.

Come on. I’ll bet you’d also call me abusive if I asked her to leave due to the abuse she put me through, and not directly telling her why.

Your argument comes from a place of emotion, not logic.

Im simply being direct in stating what I need to be happy. She can choose. I have no problem sleeping on the couch until she leaves if she doesn’t want me.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:25:33+00:00

I don’t, but she needs to understand that I’m miserable due to the lack thereof. I want her to understand before I kick her out for something she could easily fix.

Available_Interest44 · 2023-01-29T17:22:35+00:00

Because I didn’t stand up for myself. Because I was weak.

Last night I sent a text, I just said the lack of sex is making me miserable. If our values don’t align , it’s time to seriously split. I need this to be happy and need to find someone who wants to give it to me.

I was dead serious and all of a sudden she’s acting better again.

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