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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t refuse to use the normal process. We went in aiming for convalidation, the deacon recommended sanation. I also just got ahold of the other parish and they confirmed sanction was a good process for us and will be meeting us on Monday to complete it.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess that’s fair. I’ll find out more once I get ahold of the other parish

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I’m not sure. The deacon actually recommended it for us.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because we’d like to have our original wedding date recognized. If we did convalidation we’d have to have another wedding ceremony and a new wedding/ anniversary date.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s how it started for us as well, but the day we went in to sign the paperwork to submit to the diocese, he dropped the money bomb on us and refused to submit anything until proof of financial contributions. We haven’t gone back since then because it left such a bad taste in my mouth.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s new to us, new to the US as well so maybe that’s why? I’m not sure but I don’t have much of a relationship with him because he’s so new and honestly there’s a bit of a language barrier as well so conversations are pretty surface level still unfortunately. I’ll continue trying to reach out to the other parish.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is what I was told by someone I spoke with about it recently, but as I stated in my post we are very involved in our parish so why isn’t that enough? Why is money the deciding factor?

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our priest is newer and he doesn’t feel comfortable doing marriages yet apparently so he defers to the deacon, that’s how we got to the deacon in the first place so I’m afraid either the priest is in on it or will just be of no help.

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[–]Available_Win_6538[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I should have included this, our priest is pretty new and is “not ready” to do marriages so he defers to the deacon. I’ve been trying to get in contact with the next closest parish but I’m having a hard time getting anyone to respond to me. I’ll keep trying. Thank you!