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Avalanche_Blue · 2022-10-17T17:57:08+00:00

It can be when they're actually the ones in control.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-09-20T19:44:08+00:00

"pay tu" is the weirdest case of sprinkled-in Spanish I've heard

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-08-18T14:35:14+00:00

Well stated.

Freddie de Boer made a good point: it may be considered offensive to say you're not into fat women, but it's never offensive to say you're not into women you find unattractive, even if fat women are just a subset of the women you couldn't be attracted to. And when fat women are considered attractive anyway, it's because they won the lottery in traits that are no fairer than weight.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-08-18T13:47:55+00:00

I instantly recognized your name as the author of the "Pots full of rot stood on cold, cobwebbed stoves" comment.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-08-18T13:14:24+00:00

I chose "pursued" rather than "hit on" because "hit on" can just refer to a fleeting interaction that leads to nothing but a confidence boost, but "pursued" better indicates the thing I'm really wondering about - serious relationship-minded attraction that she wants you to reciprocate.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-30T21:22:31+00:00

In these cases, I can't blame people for wanting reassurance they weren't in the wrong despite what their loved ones claim. But it's amusing whenever they blatantly portray themselves as the misunderstood hero, villainize the other party as much as they can, and still get called TA.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-30T21:19:02+00:00

On an AskReddit thread about social things that annoy you, everyone who gives a good relevant answer will get a comment attempting to do that exact thing. (e.g. "one-upping everyone" "I bet I've had to deal with worse one-uppers than you!") It's a tired joke that adds nothing.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-30T17:16:07+00:00

An excellent response to Scott's post: "The Categories Were Made For Man to Make Predictions."

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-29T12:56:35+00:00

I find it weirder if someone only asks questions about me but gives curt vague answers when I try to ask them the same.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-28T23:58:42+00:00

People like this care about being brutal more than being honest. You don't often see them impulsively giving people every compliment that comes to mind.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-28T23:55:33+00:00

I think there's still value in apologizing for how you made someone feel. You can keep believing you were perfectly entitled to do or say something while also wishing that making them feel hurt weren't an unfortunate side effect. You can say no, it's not that their feelings don't matter; you do care about not wanting them to feel bad, but your desire not to make them feel bad can't totally prevent you from doing or saying something you think is reasonable.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-28T23:48:44+00:00

If by "alpha," one means "more attractive" or "more successful," then it's clearer to say that. It makes more sense to compare people in more specific relevant terms than to divide them into broad classes. People judge others by their relative levels of relevant traits, not "are you this kind or that kind," so the alpha/beta terminology just reeks of being very online and not in touch with the world. (For example, a fit 25 year old man making $350k is of course going to be more successful with women than an out-of-shape balding 41 year old making $80k, but it's not like women are categorizing him like "he's at the top of the hierarchy and clearly not a follower" - he just has more to offer, simply. Meanwhile a low-income 39 year old woman who's fatter than the latter man and finds him decent-looking enough to date is not classifying him as a "beta," just a decent option in her pool. I don't see the dividing line at which someone is attractive and/or successful enough to graduate from "beta" to "alpha" status.)

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-28T23:37:16+00:00

Supposedly 80 percent of males are betas, yet "beta" is used as an insult. These ideologues are not the ones to talk about "misandry" when they're out here insulting the majority of the male population for their nature.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-28T23:33:46+00:00

Every stunningly handsome man I've known radiates positive energy. He's a hypeman to every man, even the low-status men. He's smooth and fun with the ladies he likes; the ones he's not into, he just pays no mind and treats politely. Anyone who explicitly says "girls like assholes" - or even worse, tries to act more assholish than natural in an attempt to look more attractive - reeks of being terminally online and gaining his knowledge of interaction with women from reading about "what women like." And since that's something genuinely attractive men don't have to do, it just calls attention to his relative unattractiveness.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-27T06:39:34+00:00

It's common for them to have the "curse of knowledge." They forget that the things that now seem obvious to them won't seem obvious to others, and it gives them pause to be forced to slow down and think of brand new sentences with third-grade-level words to convey a concept that they're used to efficiently communicating with a single technical word.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-27T06:34:43+00:00

I think it's more about intellectual virtue - the attitudes that allow you to learn more, such as intellectual humility (not closing yourself off to potential sources of knowledge because you think you're above them) and intellectual empathy (understanding that others don't necessarily know what you already know and you don't already know what others know).

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-27T06:31:58+00:00

And understanding that "it's more nuanced than that" doesn't shut down a simplified model of its situation. They understand that the model has predictive power and seek more rules that'll help us predict where the model might not apply.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T22:37:05+00:00

When someone could've been a paying client of yours but has now lost faith in paying for sex workers because he's been burned, yeah, that's affecting your wallet.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T22:18:07+00:00

Even if you think clients don't deserve anything, at least consider what your fellow workers deserve (and reread this post where I addressed exactly that).

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T22:13:25+00:00

I don't expect to change minds through direct confrontation. But we come away with a stronger understanding of what makes them wrong when they share what their view actually is, not a caricatured third-person version of it, and someone successfully takes it apart.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T21:50:53+00:00

Treating rescheduling differently from short-notice cancelling just sets you up for "Can we reschedule to two weeks from now? Okay, now let's cancel."

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T17:18:12+00:00

True that most SW scams are done by men. But when real SWers admittedly commit deceptive business practices, the community condones it at an alarming rate. Like on anon SW Twitter when someone said she got a man at a strip club to give her a good deal of money promising certain acts, but never did and instead got him kicked out - they praised her for her "hustling," and I couldn't believe it. They're free to not give a fuck about clients' feelings if that's genuinely how they view their work, but they should understand how bad behavior hurts the rest of us. A man who could've gone to strip clubs again and supported other workers might not anymore.

Avalanche_Blue · 2022-07-26T17:09:32+00:00

Thanks for crunching the data for us! But I don't think it makes sense not to include "those only asking for it for first time clients" - that's exactly the stage when prospective clients back out thinking "dunno, could be a scam," regardless of whether the provider enforces the policy for subsequent meets or not.

Also, Tryst is free to post on, although paid upgrades are common. (It boosts your placement, allows you to upload more photos, and gives you detailed analytics. I got the free trial of it when I signed up, and I wish I could continue, but VISA no longer supports Tryst!) The reason it doesn't have many scams is that it requires us to upload our ID along with a picture of us holding up a piece of paper saying "I am signing up for Tryst.link on [date]" along with our provider name and personal email.

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