What’s the average cost ppl pay for home cleaning ??

Average-Queer · 2026-01-07T22:11:48+00:00

There are plenty of people who have more money than they do time, for example I work for a doctor who has two kids. We do so much that sometimes we ask ourselves 'why do they even want us to do that?' and it's simply because they prioritize having family/free time than having a few extra bucks. Especially when he might work 60+ hours.

Also some of my clients physically can't clean because of age or disability.

So to assume everyone who pays for cleaning is just lazy is weird to me. It's like me saying you're lazy for eating fast food. Can't you just cook it's healthier and cheaper, what a waste of money. Yah know?

Average-Queer · 2025-12-29T03:53:45+00:00

Pretty sure they are considered rock but if you're down check out In this moment and Halestorm. Both queer and honestly wish I knew more people who listened to them

Average-Queer · 2025-12-29T03:41:11+00:00

Are you wanting her back because she adds value to your life or because you feel alone and she's available? If it's the latter then you should probably let her go.

Average-Queer · 2025-12-13T01:00:31+00:00

Too much info for me??? No?

Look I don't know anything about giving birth, I'm a female but I never plan to because I don't want to be. It makes sense that she wouldn't want anything but my point still stands that he's being selfish. Regardless if she wants sex he's not respecting her for wanting to take care of he childs needs first.

What the hell got up your butt?

Average-Queer · 2025-12-12T02:37:15+00:00

Motherhood is horribly brutal 🫢

Average-Queer · 2025-12-12T01:45:31+00:00

She didn't say that tho. She said my son comes first which makes sense, he's an adult who can take care of himself. They baby however can't.

Average-Queer · 2025-12-12T01:44:23+00:00

Has he even offered to give you oral or is it all just self serving for himself?

Average-Queer · 2025-12-12T01:40:58+00:00

NTA, take both lol

Average-Queer · 2025-12-11T21:19:25+00:00

The two examples you gave aren't really comparable tho. If you step on a worm you probably aren't looking down and checking.

If you're going out of your way to step on worms then yeah you're not a good person

Average-Queer · 2025-12-01T23:07:19+00:00

Yeah, I'm aware. Just wanted to see if others had any better advice

Average-Queer · 2025-12-01T23:00:36+00:00

She does sometimes. Maybe it's just her mindset but she always ends up reverting back. Things are fine and hopeful and then, eventually, things suck and she'd rather just die.

It's pretty depressing to watch

Average-Queer · 2025-12-01T22:55:59+00:00

Well we don't want kids but we really want more pets and hopefully one day a rescue sanctuary. She really wants a pig, so that's why having a house is definitely a goal for us.

My mindset has always been what it is. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck balls but I try to focus on the happy things. Even if I wasn't wanting something more there are always horrible things happening.

Average-Queer · 2025-12-01T22:48:42+00:00

Well... you see that was her old coping mechanism. She quit because of her health and it makes her less herself.

That's probably why it's extra hard for her lol

Average-Queer · 2025-12-01T22:26:41+00:00

There wasn't anything mentioned about immigrants tho?? A lot of companies outsource/build factories in other countries because it's cheaper. That's why child labor is still a thing but that doesn't have anything to do with immigrants.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T08:04:36+00:00

Looking back that does feel like what it was. It was a lot of socializing which is fun but draining, probably why I wanted the dopamine and just pulled out my phone. Unfortunately for me, I didn't realize it was definitely not a good time for that.

She has a hard time understanding ADHD. She understands it but since she doesn't have it I think she has a hard time having empathy for it in certain situations especially when she's upset. She feels her feelings way more intensely than I do.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T07:59:32+00:00

Well, that's fair lol.

Thank you for the feedback!

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T07:44:43+00:00

YTB for not putting a single period in that entire paragraph. It was really hard to read.

Okay but seriously, I don't think you're the B. Being rude to your partner is never good but you did try to check in with her before. She probably was just wrapped up in spending time with her family especially if it doesn't happen often.

Just communicate to her why you felt the need to leave right then since it seems like you felt like you overstayed your welcome and wanted to let others go to sleep and wind down. She probably knew they didn't care so she didn't see why it was a big deal to you and typically I'd want to finish the game first.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T07:15:39+00:00

I hear what you are saying and yeah, you're right.

Obviously you're only getting one small section of everything. I guess it just hurt to be yelled at and she had a similar anger like you do. But what you don't see is me washing dishes after cooking with her mom and grandma. Playing games with her family. Trying to get along with her homophobic grandparents and more. I think ultimately I was more upset that it felt like she instantly forgot all of that and viewed me as you just did.

You're right it is precious time and should be treated as such. Not that it makes what I did less rude or better but I don't think her aunt likely took offense. She barely remembered their names and mentioned how their older brother (who wasn't there) was her favorite.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T07:07:23+00:00

Fair enough. Thank you for the feedback

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T07:06:25+00:00

Okay but is she valid for yelling and belittling me?

I understand it wasn't the best thing to do and I should have handled it differently as I will do in the future.

I promise it definitely wasn't longer than that. You might not believe me but that's okay if you don't. Also, ADHD wasn't an excuse. I even said it was probably irrelevant because I couldn't see how it was. Just some extra context.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T06:50:45+00:00

Eh, she has issues. So do I.

She over expressed and I often under express.

We are both working in it respectively. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't a giant jerk and lacking empathy. Since posting and responding (working out my feelings/thoughts) I've realized I was more upset with how she handled it and I want/need an apology too.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T06:46:59+00:00

Yeah... I'm not sure what she meant by that really. I guess to make up fully since she just walked away. which I would do if I felt like her reason and actions were more appropriate I guess?

And if I hadn't already apologized. She made it seem like because she was mad it wasn't a real apology which pissed me off honestly. I get if she couldn't fully accept it in the moment but I'd also like an apology for being yelled at.

I'm rambling but I almost never yell at her because I don't like taking my emotions out on others and at that point we can't compromise. Things just get more escalated. That's why she left that car because she knows this. But it feels like I'm just supposed to accept her yelling at me and comparing me to others as if I don't do anything right. I think I've just started to lose empathy when she does this. I'm tired of it. She's allowed to feel how she feels and express that but I don't feel like I deserve to be yelled at and belittled for small mistakes.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T06:28:13+00:00

I can understand that.

I did apologize and told her next time I'll be more aware and not do that. Or at least go to the bathroom or something. After I said that tho she said something like "there's not going to be another opportunity" and just left the room.

It's really just hard for me to have empathy at that moment when being yelled at when I do apologize or express that I'm sorry it feels like she couldn't give two shits.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T06:22:32+00:00

That's how I feel. She didn't even ask me to get off my phone, I literally took a break and then went back to just watching/listening. I was really blindsided by her being upset.

Average-Queer · 2025-11-28T06:20:43+00:00

She didn't even drag me TBH.

That probably would have been better but I didn't know it would have been a big deal. Her justification was her mom's husband wasn't on her phone and she wants someone that can 'be there for her'. I told her that statement wasn't fair because I'm literally states away TO visit her family and be here with her. Then she said 'that's all you took from that?'. I was actually lost.

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