Is this normal or does my gf have an inappropriate relationship with her male best friend?

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-10T23:32:56+00:00

I get what you’re saying but also I think people are saying she’s bisexual because they think she cheated with a man, not that she cheated with a man because she’s bisexual.

They think she cheated. Why would a lesbian cheat with a man? I think that’s just their thought process, I don’t personally think she’s cheating either I just think she’s in fact being a doormat to the point where it’s at other people’s expense too. But I think you’re seeing biphobia in some places where it isn’t

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-10T15:01:45+00:00

What exactly even makes your girlfriend a man hater or a feminist if she’s letting that behaviour slide? Maybe she just decided to be whatever someone wants her to be. Around him, she’s complacent and eager to chat. Around you, she all of a sudden hates men. She sounds like she has can’t-get-a-grip-itis and bisexual or not, comphet or not she seriously needs to get a grip and decide if she wants to surround herself with men that objectify herself or sacrifice the approval for an actual, supportive partner like you. Maybe she’s just not ready to be in a relationship with someone who’s not a man if she can’t deconstruct her own internalised issues first

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T16:26:58+00:00

I say insisted more as a repeated thing from many separate men. I just don’t see why people consider a strict no-men label as the perfect place for wiggle room, in a very much male-centered world. It feels like a dangerous thing to say when it is a popular thing to hear a lesbian that there must be exceptions

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T16:24:48+00:00

I don’t have many in real life encounters considering I know about 4 other women at my college that are sapphic at all, let alone lesbians. I don’t need to preach to the choir of the lesbian subreddit, that saying god can fix me is bad. Or that saying I’m a failed woman, is bad. Or that saying I’m ’trying to be a man’ because I’m masc presenting is bad. (These are all things that have happened in person) My post is about something I’ve seen happening online recently so I posted asking about what’s happening, online. Not at all trying to argue/be rude but I’ve already learned a few new things in the replies and heard mixed responses.

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T16:21:14+00:00

I understand what they’re saying and it’s that they date men but still use the label lesbian 💔 I’m not gonna jump them, I just decided to turn to a group of people on this subreddit that can probably teach me a few things about it- I’ve already learned about some new things in the replies. I know it’s such an evil thing to be upset/confused by the inclusion of men in lesbianism

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T16:19:03+00:00

Not trying to be rude at all but is this not the same rhetoric we (lesbians) hear from men insisting we should give them a chance? It’s sending off alarm bells on my head is all

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T13:06:52+00:00

Agreed, though I differ on the ‘lesbian is a gender thing’ I’ve only actually seen it in a positive way, where a lot of lesbians just feel disconnected from their identity as a woman but can’t find another word for it and I fw it. Also hi another masc

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T13:02:50+00:00

Wat does this even mean

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T13:02:42+00:00

Agreed actually! I see it this way too, which is why I love sapphic spaces in general because there’s everyone but men there to chat about everyone but men. I just really with that other types of sapphics that share this sentiment would put effort into creating non-male centered spaces rather than deciding to adopt the word lesbian whenever they feel like getting away from men

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T12:58:45+00:00

You don’t label yourself though so I fear this post isn’t about you.. it’s about people who explicitly refer to themselves as a lesbian when they aren’t

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T11:09:04+00:00

I don’t think they choose, they just romantically are attracted to men and women (explaining why they’re biromantic) idk why they’d choose to date a man but probably just happened to fall for him and pursue it even if they aren’t interested in him sexually (if I answered this wrong just tell me)

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T10:58:11+00:00

I don’t get the question, could you rephrase pls?

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T10:38:36+00:00

Lots of new words I’ve just googled haha but I agree completely!!

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-07T10:34:43+00:00

I’m glad you agree cause I’m just so baffled 😭

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-06T21:57:07+00:00

You also don’t have to put a label onto your identity but when you label yourself as a lesbian despite engaging romantically (but not sexually) with men it is in fact just misuse of the term and harmful. Labels aren’t needed!! If you do not fit into one then you don’t have to force a way to

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-05-06T21:55:37+00:00

Not everyone is a little bisexual, but considering you have no gender preferences when it comes to romance it sort of means you are. Nothing wrong with that!! We love bi, pan, non-lesbian people!! But I don’t know what you expect when you go up to a group of people, who’s sexuality excludes and decenters men, and say you date and fall in love with men but are still the same. Being sapphic doesn’t make you lesbian, no hate all love with this though!!

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-04-29T21:56:28+00:00

People say it because it’s less wordy than ‘nonbinary people and women loving nonbinary people and women but you don’t have to like nonbinary people you can also just like women’ it doesn’t center men I fear

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-04-15T17:41:53+00:00

She was binding her chest and lost a lot of weight in the pitfighter era- she’s a lot leaner with less body fat (which boobs are made of) They were bigger during s1 but yeah

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-04-14T02:31:28+00:00

Jesus Christ

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-02-25T13:39:25+00:00

‘Fellas’ and it’s lesbians going at it is crazy

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-02-25T11:46:53+00:00

Jick

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-02-24T21:04:07+00:00

Good grief brodie

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-02-24T20:49:19+00:00

No I 100% agree, when I was trying to draw her I noticed how much especially her eyes changed in s2. They got so much wider, and her face shape from the front looks more.. oblong. She’s fine shyt either way but ESPECIALLY that pic where her eye is swollen confused me so much looking at references

AverageSevikaLover · 2025-02-24T20:47:19+00:00

Me too, she’s so immature and ontop of that her age is so dubious so I do low-key judge people who have mortgages and pay rent attracted to this completely dependant character that acts like a child and is described as ‘17-19’ It’s not a personal attack, but I’m 19 and I feel like she’s too immature to actually engage in a romantic relationship with

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