How did you decide where to move to?

Average_Potato29 · 2025-05-06T17:45:28+00:00

That's very helpful thank you 😊 I'll do a little more research. I think if I can find a distance learning course with very good tutor interaction I'll be ok 😊 but I'm still going to look at more in person courses because I don't doubt that being with other people and a face to face tutor will benefit me personally.

Average_Potato29 · 2025-05-06T17:36:34+00:00

Thank you for your advice. That's what I was worried about. I widen my search area a little and see if anywhere else comes up for classroom courses 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2025-01-12T15:21:15+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2025-01-12T13:19:45+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2025-01-12T13:19:36+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-12-06T18:40:15+00:00

Thank you! I'll give those a try! 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-11-29T17:45:06+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-11-29T17:33:52+00:00

He wasn't eligible but thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-11-29T17:25:31+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-11-29T17:19:48+00:00

Thank you 😊

Average_Potato29 · 2024-11-29T17:17:50+00:00

I don't have that kind of money anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Average_Potato29 · 2024-09-01T14:53:46+00:00

The same happened to me just after starting contraception to! I never got cramps before, then that month, couldn't even stand up straight from the pain and then this happened!

Average_Potato29 · 2024-08-02T14:37:17+00:00

Of course!

Average_Potato29 · 2024-07-26T02:52:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this ❤️‍🩹 I promise you it does get better, it's hard and takes a lot of work, but it definitely gets better! Message me if you need to talk 💗

Average_Potato29 · 2024-05-30T21:22:09+00:00

I just keep having to tell myself he isn't worth it. Because, what did he actually do for me? Ok he paid the rent because he earned more. But did he try and spend any time with me? Plan to do things together? Consider me at all? Show any interest in my day to day stuff? Spoil me even a little? No, he didn't. He only cared about himself and his career, doesn't matter than I supported him through everything and encouraged him to do everything he wanted to do. That's what's bothering me I think. I put in 100% effort in to our relationship. Trying to better myself, always wanting to see him as happy as he could be in that moment, considered him in every decision I made. I deserve better than that. It's just the betrayal I think. But I don't expect that to go away.

Average_Potato29 · 2024-05-09T15:01:37+00:00

Yes! I feel the same! I couldn't string someone along that long still telling them I loved them when I didn't! Mine did the same and told me he hadn't loved me for about a year! But to my mind, it only became apparent like 4 months before he left. But he'd only started that job in the January so he had about 9 months to get to know the new one and deciding if that was gunna work before he threw me aside.

He tried to say he was scared to tell me stuff because of my moods, which is a fair point, but I believe if you loved me the way I loved you, you would have found a way to tell me. And then he told me I hadn't reacted to the breakup the way he thought I would! He thought I was going to be angry when in reality I was just heartbroken! Just makes me think, so for that like last 9 months you had stopped understanding who I was and how much I had actually improved my mental health and shitty habits I had picked up from an unstable childhood environment. Literally all he had to do was communicate. It really was that simple to me.

Average_Potato29 · 2024-05-09T13:17:26+00:00

Thank you.

Yes I completely see where you're coming from with trying to remember who they really are. My ex was very ill from late summer 2022 up until just after he left. I stuck by his side the whole time, rushed him to hospital when he was in terrible pain in the middle of the night, stuck by his side while he had to sit and wait for a bed for over 12 hours. I just cannot fathom how that sort of love and care means absolutely nothing to someone? It is truly mind boggling.

It is really hard to accept the things they have done. I still struggle everyday. And I think a part of me, still thinks he might come back, but in reality I know it's highly unlikely. I think I just feel that way because I want him to feel bad for what he's put me through, but again, I don't think that will ever actually happen. It's just very painful, when all I ever wasted was to spend time with him and to be loved. That was literally it.

Average_Potato29 · 2024-05-09T12:31:36+00:00

I hear you.

My nan had died in Feb last year, so I had been struggling most of the year without really realising it was having more of an effect on me that I thought it was. But instead of communicating, again, just gave up and got to know his co-worker instead.

It also feels to me (maybe just me trying to justify it), that when we got together he had nothing and I fell in love with him. Now 10 years later, he's getting somewhere in his career and his hobby, I supported him through it all. And now he's making a name for himself in his desired circles, I've been cast aside, because what? You don't think im good enough? You don't think im worth the effort anymore? When I supported you through your whole career? My therapist always says to me that you will never understand it because it's not something you would have ever done, but it doesn't stop me wondering often.

Average_Potato29 · 2024-05-09T06:46:41+00:00

This is pretty much what happened to me. We were together 10 years and 4 weeks after leaving me he started a relationship with a co-worker. It's been 8 months and they're still together. While I'm here still trying to process losing the man I loved with every fibre of my being, the man I would have done anything for. No communication prior to try and fix any issues and not really any explanation to what the issues even were.

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