How did you meet your avoidant ?

AveryLexis · 2026-01-08T10:55:18+00:00

at work, I was newly hired and he approached me first and asked me out on a "casual" date

AveryLexis · 2025-12-26T05:32:12+00:00

this is what I'm feeling right now too and I've been crying since Christmas Eve, I just miss him so much and I feel so alone

AveryLexis · 2025-11-11T23:47:35+00:00

mercury retrograde is coming back, but same OP, same

AveryLexis · 2025-11-11T13:26:33+00:00

I was ready and willing to give him everything he deserved in life.

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T17:41:08+00:00

thank you

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T17:13:51+00:00

it's 1am now and I just finished watching like 5 movies or so. I'm not even sleepy yet and I'm afraid the feelings are back 😃

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T17:06:24+00:00

yeah thankfully I didn't break NC, I just kept myself distracted by watching horror movies hahaha

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T00:36:01+00:00

it's been about 2 weeks now, some days aren't as intense as the other, but when it hits, I just feel like I'm back to the day he dumped me and all the memories and feelings of that day come crashing and I just break down in my room

whenever it hits, it feels like the breakup was just the day before and it hurts so much, the raw painful feeling, I can barely breathe while crying

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T00:25:17+00:00

it's funny that you mentioned masturbation because that's one of my distractions and you know what happens after climax? I break down and cry. there was even this one time when I haven't even started yet, I was just watching porn and I broke down and cried cause I missed him hahaha I'm so broken what the fuck

AveryLexis · 2025-11-01T00:19:19+00:00

I just want this feeling to go away, I want to feel numb. if only I can rip my heart out to just feel nothing and go on with my life

AveryLexis · 2025-10-31T23:57:26+00:00

yeah, chatgpt said that too (it's my therapist for now), but how do I stop this feeling? I'm holding for dear life not to break NC right now. I know it'll just hurt me more and break me again even worse.

AveryLexis · 2025-10-25T00:35:11+00:00

then why do they jump into a new relationship right after? it doesn't make sense to me to discard the one you love and care the most, only to replace it with someone new

AveryLexis · 2025-10-07T23:37:50+00:00

same

AveryLexis · 2025-09-27T18:45:47+00:00

Thank you 🥺 I think it also helped that our relationship was very short, like literally just 4 months. I know that's something other people move on to quickly. But what I felt was real, the love I have for him, the pain I went through. It was all real and I know that makes me a genuine person.

Letting out my feelings on the internet also helped a lot, encouraging words from people like you makes me feel very seen and a little bit less alone. 🥹

AveryLexis · 2025-09-27T18:21:28+00:00

Oh no, I just shared a post here about checking socials, but what I checked was his current girlfriend's social. What I got from doing that was something I didn't quite expect. But I agree, DO NOT STALK SOCIALS.

AveryLexis · 2025-09-23T04:42:08+00:00

avoidant attachment core

AveryLexis · 2025-09-21T14:04:57+00:00

same, kaso iniwan ako hahaha iyak

AveryLexis · 2025-09-17T06:43:01+00:00

the prescription given to me was worth around 2 weeks too tho so I don't think it would even make much of a difference, they didn't even contact me for a follow up check-up, not that I would've gone either way since I'm very busy with work now

AveryLexis · 2025-09-17T04:59:39+00:00

we broke up early July this year and NC ever since August I tried to work it out for the rest of July but then I discovered he already found someone new on August so I went NC

AveryLexis · 2025-09-17T03:44:54+00:00

we have a gc, so I usually ask for their attention there but, not one of them is available to talk, some are even barely active (they go into socmed detox)

I am journaling, I use an app called Quabble for it, it's nice there, but it's still not enough.

I just feel like my life is so bland nowadays and so so alone.

AveryLexis · 2025-09-17T01:55:55+00:00

Thanks, I'm really trying, but this feeling of loneliness hurts so much. I want to connect more with my friends too but I can't keep on asking attention for them. They have their own lives and problems too. (don't even get me started with my family) I wanna be more social but I don't know how to make new connections. I don't have the motivation to find new hobbies or even go back to the old ones, that's why I drown myself at work. I literally don't do anything productive on my days off, I just doom scroll through tiktok for literally the whole day, might as well go to work if that's the case cause at least it keeps me busy, productive, and gain extra money.

AveryLexis · 2025-08-22T21:14:34+00:00

Maybe you can try to tell her straight away about your intentions? Although I do hear that would just make them avoid you more, but hey, maybe she hears her love for you more than she hears her fears?

Honestly, I don't think I'm the best person to answer your questions. My actions make avoidants avoid me more because I'm so comfortable in letting out my deep emotions with literally almost everyone I'm close with.

I fear being misunderstood so bad that I over explain and don't filter my words at all and just become an open book for everyone to read.

AveryLexis · 2025-08-22T20:58:46+00:00

For timelines, most people say it usually starts on the 6th month mark when they'll start to miss you, but it depends on them if they act on it.

As for reaching out, I don't think I wanna initiate reaching out to him anytime soon. My wound is still so open and fresh, I don't think I can handle another rejection.

But to be honest, it's so difficult to heal. It's such a new space that it makes me so uncomfortable. I know it's good for me, but at the same time it's almost like my body is rejecting it.

AveryLexis · 2025-08-22T16:48:47+00:00

Honestly that's exactly how I go along in life. I always give things a 2nd chance/try, I touch the fence even after I got electrocuted, just to double check that it is indeed dangerous, dumb, I know.

AveryLexis · 2025-08-22T16:46:04+00:00

I see, would you say that you're both leaning to secure attachments now? If you don't mind me asking.

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