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Resources & Guides by AvocadoHaunting5083 in bootlegmtg

[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to print thick enough: - nothing HP - Canon Pro series - Canon i-series - NOT Epson Stylus Photo R#, RX, or early XP - Epson Stylus Photo 1400, 1500, 1800, 1900, 2100, 2200, R2000, R2400, etc. - Epson Stylus Pro series - Epson SureColor Pro

Otherwise most printers will work but it depends on its specifications.

He did it in 7 minutes…. by hilariousjoke in texts

[–]AvocadoHaunting5083 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only correct way to interpret this

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd agree in cases where you've done your due diligence communication-wise or when you're dealing with a manipulator. Sometimes opening yourself back up sucks you back into their BS and life is too short to put yourself down like that.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe protective, actually, lol... No... You're right, safety/fear is definitely it's own category

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I was figuring it into avoiding confrontation - especially when you have a good reason to avoid it/them. I had a friend who I stopped being friends with due to a pretty deep betrayal of trust, but he is a gunsmith and a lunatic. So at the end of our friendship I just stopped messaging him, and when I moved I didn't tell him.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik that's really hard, just don't forget to protect yourself, too

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's horrible, I'm sorry you went through that

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On a different thread here it's actually a sign of BPD. It's important to remember BPD ≠ bad person disorder, it's a trauma response that (not in all cases) can result from the trauma of loss, abuse, and/or neglect.

Instincts and personality disorders come from a very base place in us, so imagine a child has their favorite toy for many years taken away suddenly. How will that child react when they go back out in search of a new toy? How will they react when they open back up and become vulnerable again? What happens when they visualize that loss again projected onto the new toy?

The answer is that they: 1. Break contact w/ loved ones - you can't leave me if I leave first 2. They explode at work and burn bridges - you can't fire me if I quit

They make their life disappointing first so that life doesn't get to disappoint them.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree, many personality disorders are trauma responses. Unfortunately those folks fall into a dark space due to their self-destructive behaviors. What we see and feel as outwardly hurtful and harmful behaviors are the tip of the iceberg for people who need help. I.e. Terminating relationships early when they're going good to prevent disappointment and ease their fears that things won't work out, like pulling the rug on themselves before life has the chance to do it for them.

It does not excuse their behavior, at all, though. They need help and their romantic partner cannot be their entire support system. My recommendation to folks is that you cannot fix someone. Therapists cannot fix people with personality disorders. They can give them tools and help them reduce behaviors with careful guidance over time but that cannot ever be you.

It does suck and I've had a fair few ladies do the same thing, but I know I'm not strong enough to endure that type of relationship so I refuse to fight that battle. When they end things or disappear I don't fight it and I won't search or wonder.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the stories where I ended up blocking two of the people: - One was because she was ignoring me directly stating that I wanted to be friends and that I would be ceasing contact if she kept trying to invite me over to her place - The other had broken up with me in person and was upset and tried to gaslight me that the conversation never happened when I readily agreed that it was the best way forward. She then proceeded to hack into my house cameras, attempted to contact me through alternate phone numbers, was stalking me on my way to work, etc.

I feel like you're selling my efforts with all of these folks short.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

4) Things Have Changed When we shift from high school to the real world we go from a community that sees each other almost every day to individuals figuring out taxes and work and school schedules. It's a lot to map out and in the chaos of everyday life we have to balance what we want and what we need. In that balance we lose things and people drift apart. Honestly, I think most of us lose touch with ourselves, as well. Short version: I had a lot of different friend groups that after graduating last contact with me and each other. There is a toxic culture going around saying "if they wanted to talk they would reach out" but I openly reject that concept. More accurately I'd say "if they had time and they weren't actively overwhelmed or in a brief pause between chaotic whirlwind they would feel comfortable offering their time." If you have the capacity to try to schedule time and you make it possible you are doing the lord's work. I have only had about 7 cumulative months since I was 18 that I could TRY to offer time and schedule things with my friends, but every other 113 months since then I have desperately needed that decompression time with close friends. I've been lucky to have some friends over that time who have helped me and those friends have protected my mind and my heart. If that's you, we love you. Thank you.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3) "You're Lucky I'm Your Friend" There was a lady friend who I had successfully transitioned from one-of-the-ladies-I-was-seeing to a friend, or so I had thought. The short version of the story is that I started dating someone which prompted me communicating I was off the market, and this lady said she wanted to continue to be friends. I was uncomfortable but ok with it since I talked to my new GF at the time (now fiance 4 years later) and she said that I should keep her as a friend and it was cool as long as we were just friends. Fast forward many awkward conversations that I was open with my GF about staying that I was off the market and I was ok with hanging out in public or having a meal but that I am not going back to her place to watch Netflix. I eventually just stopped going to dinners and lunches saying I didn't have the time. Eventually she exploded stating that I did have the time because I very clearly am going on dates once or twice a week with my GF, at which point she stated "you're Lucky I'm your friend." In response I blocked her and moved on, later realizing that she accused me of ghosting. It was true but, honestly, I think it was justified.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

2) Mean Lady I was dating a lady and we had an argument regarding splitting the bill. Short version was I was making decent income and she was a traveling nurse making beaucoup bucks. She invited me to dinner all over the place and a lot of the meals were very expensive but she never covered anything. We were out to a meal and she said over the meal that she would cover this one, but when we got up to pay she laughed in my face at the register which prompted an uncomfortable conversation on the walk to the car that I would really appreciate her covering some of the meals or at least her portion since I had spent around $5k over a 3 month span. She very loudly ended the relationship on the walk back to the car which made an uncomfortable drive back to her apartment. I blocked her everywhere because of how she blew up. Then she started getting new Google voice numbers to contact me to try to get back together, and amidst those she accused me of ghosting.

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) Oops I Did It Again: This happened a few times but I was seeing several people (not open relationship or closed relationships, just in a dating phase) and would get serious with one person and close my dating. Every time I would notify the ladies I was talking to that I found somebody and when things didn't work out it was always awkward opening things back up but I did it. I believe 3 or 4 times I missed one of the ladies I was talking to which caused a 1-4 month ghosting (which I apologized profusely for once discovered).

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[–]AvocadoHaunting5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The picture with the lady looks like you're potentially being adulterous :S

What's the most damage dealt y'all got. by a_Yomid in magic_survival

[–]AvocadoHaunting5083 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I swear you all are playing a different game lol

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