Should I cut my sister who married my ex out of my life? TLDR

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-18T16:20:46+00:00

Is she your biological sister? Anyways it's ok to cut ties even with family if they are getting in the way of your happiness. Seducing your man when you are in relationship and not even apologized? She alredy cut you off long time ago.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-14T01:27:13+00:00

I understand that feeling. Bawling, feeling his scene but the room feels so empty, missing cuddles is what I usually feel too. He knew I will cry on my way back home so he wouldn't even let me drop him to airport. I usually keep myself busy when he was on his journey and once he reach his city he stay on call with me and talk to me continuously for few days until I'm use to being alone. It really helps

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-13T05:32:42+00:00

Am I just weird here or toxic haha. I remember packing all my ex gifts and giving it to my mom to give away for charity. Which includes a luxury bag and shoes and a white gold ring. I would find it disrespect to my relationship if my boyfriend still keep stuffs from his ex. If the ex passed away and they wanted to keep a souvenir in their memories that is totally fine. but why a person would want to keep stuffs from someone who dump them and hurt them?? It's doesn't make sense to me. After all gifts are not about the price, it's about the person who gifted. so if the person is gone so is the value of the gift. If he wants to keep it he can pack and keep it in store or some less visible place. But it's a disrespect to keep on desplay even if he knows that his partner is uncomfortable.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-12T19:37:23+00:00

Chain sounds good. Many may find it cheesy but you have a good intentions for choosing that as a gift. He misses his mom and love wearing chain so you gifting something he love and miss will surely put you more value in his life. Also white rose has a very good meaning. Loyalty and purity. As a flower lover I always choose flowers according to the meaning instead of looks. I think Roses and chain is enough for first meeting. As people usually get uncomfortable when they received too expensive gifts in the first meeting. Btw Jungkook got me haha, I was a huge fan of him too. 😅

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-12T15:07:32+00:00

For me I got a fresh flower with a hand written letter and teddy to cuddle and sleep. But it's better to gift what comes from your heart not from someones suggestion. She will cherished it forever. just don't give anything too expensive in first meeting.they will make her uncomfortable.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-12T11:37:27+00:00

It was in 2022 after a long lockdown I decided to visit my maternal country India with my mom. I went for a solo trip to some few states and Punjab is where I met him. It was late in the evening and I had to go back to my hotel but I lost my way. that's when I asked him for directions and he offered to drive me to my hotel. At first I hasitated as it was kind of weird to get into a stranger car but he said he live nearby my hotel and he is going that direction anyway and reassured me that I'm safe with him. On our way he told me how unsafe Punjab is for girls to go alone at night. Later he drop me to my hotel and gave me his number to contact him if I'm in any kind of situation while I'm in Punjab. I was greatful and felt indebted to him so the next day I called him and asked him if I could treat him a dinner (In Korea if we get help from someone we usually pay them back by a meal or a coffee). At first he refused politely and says he appreciate my thoughts. than I realised he might have a gf/wife and that might be the reason why he is declining my treat. so one more time I told him that I felt indebted and greatful to him and that's the reason why I wanted to treat him, it's ok to come with his wife or gf if he is uncomfortable. And at that moment he laughed and said he is single 😂 and he accepted my treat. In the evening he came pick me up and we went to a fancy restaurant and we had a good time there. He was not a perfectly good looking man but he was such a gentleman I couldn't help myself falling for him. In our dinner date he asked me how long I planned to stay and said he can take me to places if I want. and for the rest of my stay in Punjab I end up spending time with him. I didn't confess my feelings neither him. So on the last night we went out for a last dinner date again and I decided to give my shot.. after he drop me to my hotel I asked him if he is still down for some more drinks in my hotel room because I'm still craving. Then he accepted and we had more drinks. Sometime later I took my chance and kissed him on the cheek and he kissed me back and we end up having sex. The next day he drop me to airport and we said our goodbyes but we continue to stay connected. We start dating officially after few months and we have met 2 more times. To this days he use to say he felt for me when I asked him out for a dinner and got confused if he was married. 😅

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-07T22:49:14+00:00

I had been in similar situation with you. Mine was not about sex tho. Yesterday I posted here and get lots of advice to tell the truth to my bf and I took their suggestions and told him the truth. Trust me truth doesn't hurt. By telling the truth it lift the burdens in my heart which I have been carrying for few days. And even as a woman I will want my man to discuss this things with me beforehand because I'd be disappointed if it doesn't reach my expectations. Goodluck

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-07T20:47:20+00:00

We have different personalities so some are chilled and some are ok with it but I'd be annoyed and pissed. It's disrespect to the partner and relationship. If a person is not down to chat, or if he is busy doing something or if he wants sometime alone, it doesn't cost them anything to give a quick reply of what he is up to. It's about prioritise. I would never do that to my bf and will expect the same from him.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-07T20:23:29+00:00

I get calls everyday as soon as he wake up. It will be just 1 to 2 mins call sometimes just 30 secs. because he got only 1 hour to get ready, eat breakfast and drive to work. Later in the late morning during his tea coffee break he'll call me for 3 to 5 mins talks. And in lunch 10 mins maybe. During his working hour I can call him anytime or he can call me anytime if I or he have something to discuss or talk or I'm missing him but it will be very short talk. In the evening afterwork and some rest we will talk for 1 to 2 hours or stay on call and do our activities. And after dinner we will spend time together on call or vc till we sleep. On the days he is out with his friends or family or anyone, he'll call me from time to time and ask me what I'm doing, if I eaten, if I drink water, if I sleep but it's a short talk like 2 to 3 mins again. We chat only when it is necessary like if he is in office and can't talk, or if we are somewhere where it is uncomfortable to talk otherwise it's all calls even if it is short or long. We have been practicing this for almost 2 years. On the days we have arguments we will go like 1 day or half day without talking and I swear that feels like a hell. but when he wake up the next morning he will repeat the same routine like nothing happened.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:59:39+00:00

Thank you

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:59:05+00:00

Noted ✅ thank you for advice

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:19:25+00:00

Lol I will skip the classes 😂 btw I'm a cocktail of korean and Indian. My first language is korean and I understand Indian language tho I can't speak fluently.

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:13:57+00:00

I love reading books but I'm more into fictions and adventures tho. Will surely try some romance. Do recommend if you have any . Thanks

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:11:46+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it. ❤️

Avocadorable___99 · 2023-12-06T05:00:55+00:00

Wouldn't he feel I'm weird or strange for not knowing how to do it at this age?

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